I think it depends on the context of your hobby. If you're more into indies you might have more tailored personal experiences; if you are a fiend for the spa scene, it becomes more blurry.
Like others have said, I'm amazed if an SP remembers me in any way, esp spa SPs, because they are typically high volume. I think I hurt a girls feelings once when I remarked that I didn't know how she could remember me at all (and jr) given the number of clients she sees. She said she remembers EVERYTHING. Lol, I didn't believe her because it didn't translate in the session, but you honestly don't know how they perceive you and how they actually feel about you, if anything. My hope is they feel I was at least a good customer that they would see again.
Some girls have said they thought about me in between, wondering when I might show up again. That just blows my mind. Shows that you can create actual connections that persist. Obvsly, those girls stand out for me too. And if they're reading this, I still think about you, even if we don't see each other again, it's not for lack of wanting to.
I think everyone has their top 5 or 10. Then there's the worst and the best one-offs. Some people I will NEVER forget, certainly my heart won't lmao.
One girl said I was just her type for bf. She had the saddest look, like someone whom life had defeated, and it made me feel sad to the core bc nothing I could do about it.
One girl I made the mistake in casual chit chat of asking how she liked the job, and she TOLD ME--it was absolutely terrible, the worst, horrible, etc. I literally apologized for contributing to ruining her life. At least that was post-nut.
Some people and sessions just affect you and it goes boths ways. Which might be surprising given how fake and inauthentic many sessions are (with the best intention--it is after all a paid fantasy).
Sometimes you think about the ones you stopped seeing and why, and you wonder if they think about the same. And others that 'disappeared' that you miss and hope they're living their best life.
Lmao, are we in this for the experience or the creating of memories?? It's a bit of both.
Bravo! This is exceedingly thoughtful and well written. Please share with us, thought, why you wouldn’t date any of the ladies you’ve seen or agree to meet them in civilian life for some non—sexual activity and/or mentoring…?!?