HELP: No longer feeling intimate with Wife after started pooning.

[Hardlover]

Hey Bro's
Im in trouble, Im no longer feeling intimate in bed with my wife after my newly acquired pooning habits.
Before we used to do it 4-5 times a week but now Im finding myself coming up with all sorts of excuses and no longer feeling the urge. This is very troubling to me and I dont know what to do, I always understood that pooning is better than having an affair so that atleast there is no emotional attachment of the third party, however strangely this is affecting the physical aspect in relationship.
Did I bit more than I can chew for? All I wanted to do was have my cake and eat it too, I know I sound selfish but I just wanted to have the best of the both worlds and I love her a lot and dont want anything to change between us. To be honest when Im pooning, its just pure business and as long as I can keep things in balance without affecting or altering then I can atleast blame myself for giving in to temptations, but I feel more guilty for the fact that Im no longer getting turned on.

What to do?

 

[Dickson]

Wow you have a wife that wants you and you are pooning? I pay SPs to be my wife if I had one I don't think I would be in the hobby. But I have never been married so I really should not comment. I only wish I had your issue. It is lonely out here.

 

[Papa Chongo]

If you are intimate with your wife 4-5 times a week...why are you pooning? Not judging, just asking.....

I am also a married guy, My wife and I typically go at it a couple times a week, but it has become very vanilla, when the frequency increases my pooning decreases, in fact there was a stint last year where almost 4 months passed, my wife and i were 4-5 times a week during that period, lately it has been once a week, and there was three weeks of nothing, so my pooning has increased to once a week...

I'm not sure if that helps, my advice from one married man who loves his wife to another, 4-5 times a week is awesome, if pooning is affecting that then STOP! in the end your wife and relationship with her are whats important.

Good Luck man! Pooning can twist your mind, keep your head on straight!

 

[dabears]

Thats is exactly what happened to me when I started pooning, i lost total intrest in my wife, but I was also finding out that i was completely unhappy and making excuses to not be around her. I finally realized that we should not be together anymore and we seperated. It was and is the hardest thing i have ever done, but I just couldn't deal with the drama anymore.

 

[Hardlover]

Wow you have a wife that wants you and you are pooning? I pay SPs to be my wife if I had one I don't think I would be in the hobby. But I have never been married so I reaaly should not comment. I only wish i had your issue. It is lonely out here.

If you are intimate with your wife 4-5 times a week...why are you pooning? Not judging, just asking.....

I am also a married guy, My wife and I typically go at it a couple times a week, but it has become very vanilla, when the frequency increases my pooning decreases, in fact there was a stint last year where almost 4 months passed, my wife and i were 4-5 times a week during that period, lately it has been once a week, and there was three weeks of nothing, so my pooning has increased to once a week...

I'm not sure if that helps, my advice from one married man who loves his wife to another, 4-5 times a week is awesome, if pooning is affecting that then STOP! in the end your wife and relationship with her are whats important.

Good Luck man! Pooning can twist your mind, keep your head on straight!

I dont know bro, maybe my hormones are off the hook but Im always in the mood and urge, but you know what I can give you a million things to justify but deep down inside there is always going to be that feeling. I dont want to be bad with anyone, I just find myself into a situation which I cant control, now if I admit to it then it would be bad, I get what you are saying its a bit selfish on my part but I honestly want to grow old with her.
This is just a new habit so I think Im way over too excited about this, hopefully I will get a handle on things once I figure everything out, I have worked like a dog all my life and I rarely did anything for myself, always lived for others doing things, now eventually Im starting to spend some money on myself and I feel like a kid in the candy store so Im just gung ho at this time, as I said before I think once I scale down a bit and keep it in the balance then things will work out for the better.

 

[Ms. Yoko Anna]

Hey Bro's
Im in trouble, Im no longer feeling intimate in bed with my wife after my newly acquired pooning habits.
Before we used to do it 4-5 times a week but now Im finding myself coming up with all sorts of excuses and no longer feeling the urge. This is very troubling to me and I dont know what to do, I always understood that pooning is better than having an affair so that atleast there is no emotional attachment of the third party, however strangely this is affecting the physical aspect in relationship.
Did I bit more than I can chew for? All I wanted to do was have my cake and eat it too, I know I sound selfish but I just wanted to have the best of the both worlds and I love her a lot and dont want anything to change between us. To be honest when Im pooning, its just pure business and as long as I can keep things in balance without affecting or altering then I can atleast blame myself for giving in to temptations, but I feel more guilty for the fact that Im no longer getting turned on.

What to do?

How about bring her to your next pooning session?
There are several ladies offer couple session.

From my expereinces of hosting a couple for a session, it seems like there are a lot of fresh love and passion arises after the session. It is pretty sweet to see the wife romantically makes out with her husband while I'm fucking her with strap on.

May be you can come up with some story that won't her feeling.... May be physically you have been week or whatever.
And ask her you would like to try new thing to get the passion and libido back.
Often, couple had a couple session for aniversary or birthda ocasion.
May be you can ask that for your birthday without being so awkward and suspicious?

 

[Papa Chongo]

I dont know bro, maybe my hormones are off the hook but Im always in the mood and urge, but you know what I can give you a million things to justify but deep down inside there is always going to be that feeling. I dont want to be bad with anyone, I just find myself into a situation which I cant control, now if I admit to it then it would be bad, I get what you are saying its a bit selfish on my part but I honestly want to grow old with her.
This is just a new habit so I think Im way over too excited about this, hopefully I will get a handle on things once I figure everything out, I have worked like a dog all my life and I rarely did anything for myself, always lived for others doing things, now eventually Im starting to spend some money on myself and I feel like a kid in the candy store so Im just gung ho at this time, as I said before I think once I scale down a bit and keep it in the balance then things will work out for the better.

Hey, I hear ya, you get no judgment from me, It is a great hobby, I have been in very much the same shoes, the past 25years of working has been for my kids, wife, and others, now I'm about me, Go buy a Motorcycle or a fast car, that might help scratch your itch!

My first summer as a pooner was expensive, I was close to a $1000 a week for a few months, but I found a rythym and slowed right down.

 

[uncleg]

Don't know how long you've been at it, but if you really love your wife, or at least want to make the marriage work you'll get over it. It's like when a new restaurant opens, everybody goes to see what it's all about and for awhile it's the place to be. Then the novelty wears off and people go back to their old favourites. Mind you, sometimes the lose of business, even for a short time means that their old favourites aren't there any more.

 

[Sharky66]

The solution seems to be simple (but that doesn't mean it is easy). Pare down the pooning. Look for other ways or scenarios with the wife to make things more exciting -- ie roleplay, play dress-up, go do it in the car or fool around in a movie theatre, go on vacation and do it on the beach, etc.

Maybe as you pare down the pooning, you can stop it altogether, which would be a good thing.

Or go to SAA.

Sounds like you have a good thing going with your wife. Don't fuck it up.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Before we used to do it 4-5 times a week but now Im finding myself coming up with all sorts of excuses and no longer feeling the urge.

this is the dangerous part... she notices things like this, and women pretty much know that if a guy isn't getting it at home, he's getting it somewhere else. if you really want things to last between you and the old lady you better get a handle on this aspect of things

you may not be able to tell what you've been up to, so you'll have to improvise something... maybe tell her that work stress is getting to you and you want to spice things back up again and would she mind talking about sex and maybe trying some new positions or some sex games or fantasy play or a special husband and wife sexy date night - whatever it is that turns you both on. don't delay or you might be headed for divorce court

 

[Elmore]

What's the confusion? Stop pooning.

Guys go elsewhere sometimes when they aren't getting it at home. So your wife is giving it up and you basically reject her...hmmmm. Well if you notice she is buying less handbags and shoes, don't be surprised if she has started her own pooning budget since she isn't always getting it at home when she feels the urge.

 

[newatit]

Very Foolish

There are many reasons to see an SP like, not getting enough sex, no variety, humdrum sex etc. But when you are having a good ride at home as much as you are, then it is a waste of money and honesty.


Quit now while you are ahead.

 

[badbadboy]

What's the confusion? Stop pooning.

Guys go elsewhere sometimes when they aren't getting it at home. So your wife is giving it up and you basically reject her...hmmmm. Well if you notice she is buying less handbags and shoes, don't be surprised if she has started her own pooning budget since she isn't always getting it at home when she feels the urge.

ding ding - winner winner chicken dinner.

Four to five times a week from a SO is pretty significant when the average for committed couples is less than once per week. Hence the need for a SP on the side so to speak.

I am betting you thought getting some strange stuff would enhance what you already have now its backfired on you. If you are both used to 4 - 5 X per week it will raise suspicions at home.

First question your SO is asking is " if you are not getting it from me, who are you getting it from? "

Like he said, stop pooning and build up that urge to do your SO again.

 

[Alix Turner]

I don't get what's with all of the judging here

Men of this board are constantly acknowledging that seeing an escort is often about something other than just getting fucked.. so it stands to reason that whether or not someone is getting regular sex, they may have a dozen other reasons (personal stress, lack of excitement, fear of missing out, unshakable curiosity) that they are still attracted to the forbidden fruit of sex outside of their relationship


I would suggest that the OP consider what he is getting out of paying for sex with pros that is missing from being intimate with his wife to the point that he would exhaust his libido entirely with professionals like this, knowing it would be an issue when he got home

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Its time for you to back off pooning! This hobby is not for everyone and requires a lot of compartmentalization that it would appear you're having some difficulty with. Time to turn off the lights and do what needs to be done with the wife with the assistance of your wank bank

To all those passing judgment: Are you fucking kidding me? This is a board for reviewing escorts; how they fuck, suck and take it in the back door. Hardly a forum for holier than thou!!

 

[Papa Chongo]

Its time for you to back off pooning! This hobby is not for everyone and requires a lot of compartmentalization that it would appear you're having some difficulty with. Time to turn off the lights and do what needs to be done with the wife with the assistance of your wank bank

To all those passing judgment: Are you fucking kidding me? This is a board for reviewing escorts; how they fuck, suck and take it in the back door. Hardly a forum for holier than thou!!

LOL, can i get an AMEN!

 

[uncleg]

Its time for you to back off pooning! This hobby is not for everyone and requires a lot of compartmentalization that it would appear you're having some difficulty with. Time to turn off the lights and do what needs to be done with the wife with the assistance of your wank bank

To all those passing judgment: Are you fucking kidding me? This is a board for reviewing escorts; how they fuck, suck and take it in the back door. Hardly a forum for holier than thou!!

LOL, can i get an AMEN!

O.K...........

 

[Hardlover]

Hey guys sorry I know i fucked up but as I said before its very hard to control. I know the frequency of sex is good but still the curiosity is not there. The thrill of the unknown is exciting and I wont deny the fact that I get an instant boner seeing a new girl take off her clothes. Its hard to explain but its not the same with the SO.
If I was single I would have been out there having affairs and boning random girls. However i dot want to do that thats why my only choice is pooning. I thought you guys will understand my position but some of you are quiet harsh on my honesty and frankness. I know its bad what im doing and I know I screwed up but what can I do. Im a dude who lust for hot women and my other head dictates my thinking more often than not. I thought you guys were married too thats why i thought to seek advice.

 

[Papa Chongo]

o.k...........

i believe in Buddy Christ!

 

[Hardlover]

HL...let me ask yo this and this might be something worth looking into.

1)....how openminded is your wife towards....lets say......Taboo issue regardin this?

2)....if she is.....would she mind a threesome with another girl? or.....how about swingers hangouts or clubs?

Just a suggestion

I think she will chose for shopping than sex anyday. It just wont happen. She is not active in sex like I do. She will give me as much as I want but things are not like when we were dating or newly Married. For her now its buying home stuff, cooking, buying shoes, clothes for herself etc. now on the other hand In always thinking about sex or surfing pron. now seeing a nude girl in real life is mindboggling and priceless.

That being said I can tell you she wont welcome a threesome. Infact she will kick me to the curb and announce to the whole world how bad have i been. Lots of inlaws and good friends would turn their back on me. Eventhough secretly some also indulge inthis things but wont admit it.