Hello everyone, my wife is a SP
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Pooner: "Are you married or have a BF?"That's a perfectly valid opinion imo, just as some SP's have a personal preference not to see clients who have SO's. You know what you're attracted to and why, and that's ok.
SP: "I keep that sort of information to myself for my own security and privacy. I only see single guys, are you married?"
Pooner: "I just want to have uncomplicated sex for one hour. Are you able to provide that without me divulging my personal life?"
SP: "Ok cool, shall we meet tomorrow at noon?"
Pooner: "Perfect, I'm looking forward to meeting you"
See it's all part of the fantasy
While I understand the point is to be focused on the task, by the same logic, I guess you expect your mechanic to take the bus so that there's no way he can be thinking of his own car while doing your oil change, right?
Oh, I'll play too.
"I don't want the butcher to be thinking about his meat while cutting mine".
ound:i don't want my candlestick maker thinking about dipping his wick while he's making my candles!!Oh, I'll play too.
"I don't want the butcher to be thinking about his meat while cutting mine".
ound: ound:It's the complete opposite for me. I have had some wild experiences in my private life with sex starved married women (the same women that guys here describe as being starfish in bed).
But back to the point...Hell I don't mind if they are wearing their wedding ring during the session!
Maybe its different if the mechanic keeps reassuring you how much bigger your engine is?
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Dude no offence but you need to let it go... if you are paying her for sex you are getting her body... her heart and mind are not for sale. She may or may not enjoy the session and I honestly don't think that will be affected by the fact that she has a BF or husband.
I think what it really comes down to is that it stings to realize that you are paying her and another man is getting it because she is attracted enough to him to be with him without being paid.
It's an ego thing... and it ruins the fantasy for some. I don't particularly want to hear about her personal life either.
The mechanic/ bus analogy does not work unless its a situation like this: I bring in a BMW 645 and the mechanic has the same model, but his is broken. When he works on my oil change, he spends his time rooting around my car and unbolting this, inspecting that, etc., to make mental notes on how to fix his car because we have the same car and presumably he just has to make his work like mine. The oil change takes an hour instead of 15 minutes. In the meantime, he's given me the wrong oil filter, or the wrong oil because he's not focused on the job.
Or more to the point, the SP who won't deep throat you because she doesn't want to get too excited by your big dick even though it's something she really would be excited over, except in the back of her mind her insecure husband's voice is going on and on about how she must be getting dicks much bigger than his all day long at her job. So she feels guilty and can't really do the job she would otherwise be keen on doing.
I agree as well with SummerBreeze....These ladies are human beings with lives, emotions , and feelings.
I have found that treating them with some respectful humanity goes a long way for furure encounters,........I've also found that in rare circumstances some SP look at this as a weakness to try to take advantage. Although that becomes aparent within minutes.
Many of these women are fantastic human beings , some may have a tough shell around them, which may come with the occupation, but once they are treated with common respect, they will return the favour.
Isn't it within us all to want to be treated fairly by another person, regardless of circumstances?
I have found that treating them with some respectful humanity goes a long way for furure encounters,........I've also found that in rare circumstances some SP look at this as a weakness to try to take advantage. Although that becomes aparent within minutes.
Many of these women are fantastic human beings , some may have a tough shell around them, which may come with the occupation, but once they are treated with common respect, they will return the favour.
Isn't it within us all to want to be treated fairly by another person, regardless of circumstances?
People simply don't want to accept hard truths. This one shouldn't be so challenging but for some reason, people like to cling to their political correctness and let go of reality.
That would be funny, but if you actually considered doing that you might be apprehended by the thought that I wouldn't return as a paying customer. So yes, that would be possible, it just depends on what kind of provider you are.
It's surprising that an entirely plausible scenario, one that I might add has happened in my personal experience, is met with such affront. That blows my mind.
It may have gone over my head because the point you were making was completely tangential to the discussion.
Sphubby - I'm pretty clear your "pointers" will generate plenty of threads/thread views.
But a genuine question:
How does C-36 play out as a couple conversation? If at all.
Up to this point C-36 hadn't really penetrated as a family issue (that is beyond the safety element) but your window on the vocation left me with the question.
But a genuine question:
How does C-36 play out as a couple conversation? If at all.
Up to this point C-36 hadn't really penetrated as a family issue (that is beyond the safety element) but your window on the vocation left me with the question.
Welcome to perb, SPhubby.
As others have noted, there certainly is interest in hearing your perspective on what it's like to be in a relationship with an SP. However, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, when it comes to the following:
This would be like looking for hints on how to play the position of quarterback from Gisele Bundchen.
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Wow. It's the upside down thread. OP is a SO of an SP with no territorial concerns of note, and we have a client posting who seems to be expressing some sort of expectation of fidelity from the SP.
Five-Guns-West, it's not political correctness that is leading everyone else to a different perspective. They just seem to have a different fantasy they're looking to fulfil than you do. To each his own.
So Sphubby, I wonder if this thread was more an eye opener for you than the other way around?
Back on topic, I'm curious how a wife goes about broaching the subject? "So, honey, I've had a thought about something I can that I'm good at that'll bring in some extra income..."
OP is a SO of an SP with no territorial concerns of note, and we have a client posting who seems to be expressing some sort of expectation of fidelity from the SP. Five-Guns-West, it's not political correctness that is leading everyone else to a different perspective. They just seem to have a different fantasy they're looking to fulfil than you do. To each his own.
So Sphubby, I wonder if this thread was more an eye opener for you than the other way around?
Back on topic, I'm curious how a wife goes about broaching the subject? "So, honey, I've had a thought about something I can that I'm good at that'll bring in some extra income..."
How do you figure your insight will make my dollar go further and make me have a better relationship with my SP ?????My only goal like I have previously stated is to maybe provide some insight for the pooners that partake in the hobby to possibly make your dollar go farther and have a better relationship with your SP. I was thinking about starting a thread "ymmv, when and why does it come into play" Just some small pointers. Also like summerbreeze pointed out a personal spin on the SP's you spend time with.
Just some thoughts.
Remember YMMV ? Yup, what works for you SO/SP may not work for my SP.....what works for you, may not work for me..... I'd say that your view as a permanent resident is probably somewhat different then that of a renter.
Well C-36 doesn't effect us in anyway that we know of. From what I have heard and read it doesn't criminalize me/us in anyway. We obviously live together, I have my own job, I pay the mortgage and the bills so its not like I am living on the profits.
Yes I have had my eyes opened a few times in this thread. Most notable were direct attacks on my literacy skills, my honesty (I am a SO of a SP), my intentions and on our relationship/marriage. I can understand some skeptics and everyone is entitled to their opinion but not knowing us or our situation coming out and calling me a leech, well you aren't on my xmas mailing list lol. Since I don't have anything nice or constructive to say to the few attacks that were made I will just leave it that and move on, I have fairly thick skin so I will survive. I know I won't change your mind so its all good.Wow. It's the upside down thread.
Five-Guns-West, it's not political correctness that is leading everyone else to a different perspective. They just seem to have a different fantasy they're looking to fulfil than you do. To each his own.
So Sphubby, I wonder if this thread was more an eye opener for you than the other way around?
Back on topic, I'm curious how a wife goes about broaching the subject? "So, honey, I've had a thought about something I can that I'm good at that'll bring in some extra income..."
As to the last question, we were already experienced with sharing, so she brought it up once, I replied that if she wanted to give it a try I would more than support her whatever her decision. And what do you know, she enjoys the profession, meeting new people, making connections with gentlemen and I still support her 100%. Life is good. :clap2:
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