Guys, seriously. Porn is not real life

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Sounds like personal experience?:oops:
In 1987, there was no such thing as invisalign. :eek:Fortunately, teenagers heal fast and the damage wasn't life threatening. Shit, I am hijacking my own thread. oops.
 

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Guys, seriously. Porn is not real life

What... you mean I don't really HAVE a hot, young stepsister ???


< cancels trip to random Czech town with plentiful on-street propositions of young starlets by men with unlimited stacks of Czech crowns >
 
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Getting funky in the bedroom is a two way street. Learning each other's desires is the only way to work out all the kinks.

I know a big percentage of women in this business keep what really turns them on to themselves. With the amount of guys that many female providers see in a day one of the last things they want is to get butter churned or wheel burrowed on repeat throughout the day. Screenshot_20230728_040940_Gallery.jpg

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Some providers might like to experience more hard core porn scene bedroom action when it comes to their own personal pleasures but to do that on repeat works out to a pretty hard day for most plus the logistics of making sure it doesnt get out of hand is a lot to deal with for many providers. You cant just have every tom dick and harry booking sessions thinking that they can push it to the limit.

I walk in expecting the basics or whatever is agreed upon. If something wild and unscripted happens in our time together that she has bestowed upon me I take it as a lucky moment. I just hope its not a random fist up my bum.

If you could see the otherside of what many women want when it comes to sex it's a lot of what guys cant give them. While your fucking your wife or gf for the 1000 time in missionary position shes dreaming of getting picked up like shes 90 pounds by a hurly burly Jason Momoa type and getting slammed in every uncharted porn position you could only dream of doing in reality. Sometimes fantasy is better then reality. Stay dreamy my friend.
 
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1000%. Things that should not be done without explicit consent, among others: slapping, choking, hard pounding, forced deepthroating and face fucking. Let her lead and ask if you want more extreme things, taking no for an answer!
It is disturbing that these are becoming more common in even regular porn as well as fetish.
Violence and abuse must not be normalized.
 

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Getting funky in the bedroom is a two way street. Learning each other's desires is the only way to work out all the kinks.

I know a big percentage of women in this business keep what really turns them on to themselves. With the amount of guys that many female providers see in a day one of the last things they want is to get butter churned or wheel burrowed on repeat throughout the day. View attachment 70591

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Some providers might like to experience more hard core porn scene bedroom action when it comes to their own personal pleasures but to do that on repeat works out to a pretty hard day for most plus the logistics of making sure it doesnt get out of hand is a lot to deal with for many providers. You cant just have every tom dick and harry booking sessions thinking that they can push it to the limit.

I walk in expecting the basics or whatever is agreed upon. If something wild and unscripted happens in our time together that she has bestowed upon me I take it as a lucky moment. I just hope its not a random fist up my bum.

If you could see the otherside of what many women want when it comes to sex it's a lot of what guys cant give them. While your fucking your wife or gf for the 1000 time in missionary position shes dreaming of getting picked up like shes 90 pounds by a hurly burly Jason Momoa type and getting slammed in every uncharted porn position you could only dream of doing in reality. Sometimes fantasy is better then reality. Stay dreamy my friend.
Very nicely explained, but I think its a polarised view towards SPs or what women wants. Let me put in this way when people book a session "Do we think that lets go pleasure a women with my own expense?" Imo 99% pooners dont think that way. it should be mutual pleasure whatever both like. within each others limits, Porn or no porn doesnt matter.
 
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It is disturbing that these are becoming more common in even regular porn as well as fetish.
Violence and abuse must not be normalized.
A 2018 study of university students found that over 30% of female students who took guys home to their dorm room from frat parties to hook up, reported the guys reaching out and just full on choking them during the sex act itself without any prior discussion what so ever.
Zero discussion.
They obviously learned it from porn.
 

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If you dont think porn is real try watching vr porn with a good set of virtual goggles and a pleasure device auto masturbator that reacts to the onscreen action.

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Guys, as a whole group, you/we have got to stop comparing the real world to porn. It's fucked your heads up and created a ton of completely unrealistic expectations. The ladies in those videos are ACTING. Very few, if any, women want to be fucked like that in the real world. It's not about pleasure, it's about camera angles and looking good in frame. I cannot tell you how many providers I have heard about this issue from over the years. Guy meets her for the first time, expects to have a gonzo porn movie session, choking her, pile driving, crazy angles and best of all, constant badgering for not wearing a condom because they don't in porn movies.

In the industry, the talent is STI tested regularly, spending hundreds and even thousands of dollars to do so. They map out the scene like a surgical operation, boundaries are set and if the more extreme stuff in on the table, there's total informed consent and a bunch of extra money, combat pay if you will. Safety is always considered and when it's not, a scandal often erupts. Expecting a provider here to mimic this for you is completely insane. Worse, you try that with a lady who knows better and your session is over and maybe your ass is kicked. When that happens, don't come here to post your negative review and expect much support.

Seriously, get over this obsession with porn. On top of the expectations of the lady, it also has completely warped your pleasure centers. Even the most amazing, gorgeous and passionate woman can't get you off if all you do is fantasize about and jerk off to porn constantly.

Ok rant over, a review today with just this issue set off the soapbox speech.
Really appreciate the emotional labour that went into this post, but I'm sad it even needs to be sad. I genuinely believe the accessibility of free internet porn, as well as the normalization of things like "teen" or "young" or "barely legal" and other disturbing tags have contributed to the sexualization of children because a lot of what you see might not even be consensual. People look at me like I am nuts when I say I will only watch porn I pay for but they gloss over the numerous stories of PornHub and X videos hosting rape/underage/hidden camera type footage because the verification on uploads is so lax. The truth is that when you watch porn online that you have not paid for you have no clue whether it's truly consensual or not and I just feel icky about leaving that to chance. Sex work is one of the coolest professions in the world but only when it is chosen under free will.
 

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Of course porn is not real life and the performers are acting, but so do alot of SP's. Seeing a provider is a fulfullment of fantasy. Communication is of the utmost importance here. A PSE provider should not advertise as PSE if she doesn't want or like to do PSE stuff. A customer should not assume anything and should be considerate and respectful of boundaries. This takes communication. I don't know why someone would feel it is ok to try something like choking or even just putting your hand around someones neck without discussing it first. The implications of an act like this being misinterpreted and causing harm are far worse than the feeling of discomfort experienced by bringing up an awkward subject or even being rejected.

Having said that, sex doesn't need to be scripted but a level of trust, comfort and communication needs to be established first. This takes time and getting to know eachother. This is usually impossible in a 45minute appointment and putting in effort to encourage intimacy starts sounding like a relationship.
 

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100% agree. 70's forest hunt a true turn off for me lol.

I take porn with a real grain of salt. But, for me, that's how I discovered BDSM. So much that it had me visit a few ladies here in Vancouver for some very real light BDSM play. Real hard core BDSM acts are definitely not up my alley of interest.

Truth though, I do enjoy being dominated by a hot lady 😉😎👍. Nothing beats that. I love it and I hardly say no to that. Some femdom acts are fun.
Pubes aside, actually for me 70’s 80’s amd early 90’s porn is my favourite if I’m going to watch porn. Simply because I’m not as into a lot of the hardcore stuff which has become the norm, such as throat fucking, choking, and pounding a girl immediately from the get go at 100 mph like an electric drill.
 

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Having said that, sex doesn't need to be scripted but a level of trust, comfort and communication needs to be established first. This takes time and getting to know eachother. This is usually impossible in a 45minute appointment and putting in effort to encourage intimacy starts sounding like a relationship.
I find the communication and trust can happen over time if you are seeing a particular provider for multiple visits.
 
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I find it rather shocking someone would jump to such aggressive acts without a discussion-with anyone, regardless of being in the biz or not. I agree 100% it is because of porn. There are aspects of it which i have enjoyed. Actually, my favorite local non FS provider surprised me with DT/choking/facefucking on my first visit. So much so, i stopped multiple times to make sure she was ok lol. I kind of ruined the vibe for a minute or 2 but having never been involved with that level of aggression, i felt it important to make sure everything was as it should be.
 

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I find it rather shocking someone would jump to such aggressive acts without a discussion-with anyone, regardless of being in the biz or not. I agree 100% it is because of porn. There are aspects of it which i have enjoyed. Actually, my favorite local non FS provider surprised me with DT/choking/facefucking on my first visit. So much so, i stopped multiple times to make sure she was ok lol. I kind of ruined the vibe for a minute or 2 but having never been involved with that level of aggression, i felt it important to make sure everything was as it should be.
Care to share the sp?
 

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I find it rather shocking someone would jump to such aggressive acts without a discussion-with anyone, regardless of being in the biz or not. I agree 100% it is because of porn. There are aspects of it which i have enjoyed. Actually, my favorite local non FS provider surprised me with DT/choking/facefucking on my first visit. So much so, i stopped multiple times to make sure she was ok lol. I kind of ruined the vibe for a minute or 2 but having never been involved with that level of aggression, i felt it important to make sure everything was as it should be.
This is why porn without proper education about the actual kink is unrealistic.
The choking is supposed to be light .
Just like when you spank a women you’re not supposed to hit her w all your force, you’re not actually supposed to choke as if you want to cut off even most the air .
It’s a fantasy.
 
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A 2018 study of university students found that over 30% of female students who took guys home to their dorm room from frat parties to hook up, reported the guys reaching out and just full on choking them during the sex act itself without any prior discussion what so ever.
Zero discussion.
They obviously learned it from porn.
A 2018 study of university students found that over 69(giggity)% of female students who took guys home to their dorm room from frat parties to hook up, reported the guys not having the standard 9" penis and were unable to perform in various positions for hours while providing the women with the prerequisite multiple orgasms.
They obviously learned it from porn.
 

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How come there is no Czech porn where pervs wander along Czech streets and secretly tape all of outdoor propositions for and displays of sexual contact between all of those Czech babes and the smarmy guys with piles of cash?
 
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