Guys, seriously. Porn is not real life

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Guys, as a whole group, you/we have got to stop comparing the real world to porn. It's fucked your heads up and created a ton of completely unrealistic expectations. The ladies in those videos are ACTING. Very few, if any, women want to be fucked like that in the real world. It's not about pleasure, it's about camera angles and looking good in frame. I cannot tell you how many providers I have heard about this issue from over the years. Guy meets her for the first time, expects to have a gonzo porn movie session, choking her, pile driving, crazy angles and best of all, constant badgering for not wearing a condom because they don't in porn movies.

In the industry, the talent is STI tested regularly, spending hundreds and even thousands of dollars to do so. They map out the scene like a surgical operation, boundaries are set and if the more extreme stuff in on the table, there's total informed consent and a bunch of extra money, combat pay if you will. Safety is always considered and when it's not, a scandal often erupts. Expecting a provider here to mimic this for you is completely insane. Worse, you try that with a lady who knows better and your session is over and maybe your ass is kicked. When that happens, don't come here to post your negative review and expect much support.

Seriously, get over this obsession with porn. On top of the expectations of the lady, it also has completely warped your pleasure centers. Even the most amazing, gorgeous and passionate woman can't get you off if all you do is fantasize about and jerk off to porn constantly.

Ok rant over, a review today with just this issue set off the soapbox speech.

 

[Onepumpchump5cm]

Guys, as a whole group, you/we have got to stop comparing the real world to porn. It's fucked your heads up and created a ton of completely unrealistic expectations. The ladies in those videos are ACTING. Very few, if any, women want to be fucked like that in the real world. It's not about pleasure, it's about camera angles and looking good in frame. I cannot tell you how many providers I have heard about this issue from over the years. Guy meets her for the first time, expects to have a gonzo porn movie session, choking her, pile driving, crazy angles and best of all, constant badgering for not wearing a condom because they don't in porn movies.

In the industry, the talent is STI tested regularly, spending hundreds and even thousands of dollars to do so. They map out the scene like a surgical operation, boundaries are set and if the more extreme stuff in on the table, there's total informed consent and a bunch of extra money, combat pay if you will. Safety is always considered and when it's not, a scandal often erupts. Expecting a provider here to mimic this for you is completely insane. Worse, you try that with a lady who knows better and your session is over and maybe your ass is kicked. When that happens, don't come here to post your negative review and expect much support for your being a total idiot.

Seriously, get over this obsession with porn. On top of the expectations of the lady, it also has completely warped your pleasure centers. Even the most amazing, gorgeous and passionate woman can't get you off if all you do is fantasize about and jerk off to porn constantly.

Ok rant over, a review today with just this issue set off the soapbox speech.

Yea i realized it but just wanna be able to do the shit they do as fantasy lol but u confirmed for me that it is not real. Cool now i will feel better after not comparing with porn hahahah thanks

 

[picante55]

Never did enjoy theater porn.

 

[carvesg]

Well said and on point

 

[LLLurkJ2]

To be fair, some of the things one see a spicy accountants for are to relive some of those viewed experiences, but there has to be informed consent. Othereise its sexual assault.

 

[YYC]

Well thank God porn isn't real. I was wondering how it could be that so many women can not figure out how to get unstuck from a dishwasher.

 

[luvsdaty]

Sadly your target audience will never if ever change. It's more about dominance and control than it actually is about "positions "

 

[Onepumpchump5cm]

Well thank God porn isn't real. I was wondering how it could be that so many women can not figure out how to get unstuck from a dishwasher.

Hahahahaahhahaha i was wondering how come i dont see any girl stuck somewhere and ask for help.

 

[Mr. J]

For me personally, ANY sex is a win for me. No need for fantasizing about stuff that is out of reach.

 

[E.H.]

I have my Lotto Max Jackpot Fantasy.
I'm going to tell the national media interviewers:"I am EH from perb.ca,now I will take my $60 million and live the Bob Guccione lifestyle.".

Engelbert Humperdink

 

[rubylabellexo]

1000%. Things that should not be done without explicit consent, among others: slapping, choking, hard pounding, forced deepthroating and face fucking. Let her lead and ask if you want more extreme things, taking no for an answer!

 

[Lady Vanessa]

I have to extend the utmost props to those providers who willingly, proudly and respectfully provide levels of PSE. If you read this Temple Of Ashley (*you come to mind first) I take my
stilettos off to y'all. Cause it damn sure isn't something I'm cut out for.

 

[white Ninja]

Interesting thread .

I couldn’t agree more. It’s literally been proven in studies that at worst , single guys will satisfy their own desires so much to the point where they aren’t motivated anymore to face possible rejection by approaching a women in public , or even going online and going on dates . So the guy ends up being content being single and jerking off in a room for the rest of his life.

Their was a separated study year later after hook up culture became mainstream where girls in college were now reporting hooking up w guys on campus and in the middle of sex the guy would just reach out and start choking her, with zero previous discussion about it or consent . Because these guys had leaned about sex entirely from porn.

it’s also been shown to ruin the sex lives of many couples because the husband or boyfriend has abused porn to the point that he can’t get off without 9 windows opened simultaneously with any fantasy he can think of immediately served up in seconds .such as gang bangs etc . That when a real woman such as his girlfriend or wife is naked right in front of him it’s not enough anymore..

I do think that in moderation it can be useful .
If you are single and just really horny with no one to sleep with at the moment you just need to let it out , or even if you’re really horny and your say wife is not and you don’t wanna pressure her for sex when she’s clearly not in the mood .

However porn is not created with moderation in mind.

Personally when and if I do watch porn, even though I hate all the outdated hair and makeup, I prefer pre 2000, ( 70’s, 80’s 90’s ) because at least the sex itself ( in my eyes ) is a lot closer to two people just actually having sex IRL , compared to all the way over the top stuff now a days that seems to be so popular. I don’t need to watch someone sucking cock while simultaneously doing a hand stand. That just seems ridiculous.

 

[87112]

Its the Japanese harem AV movies that wraps the mind. 4 stunning beauties and one dude. For the whole 2 hours.
It messed up my mind so bad if I ever go to Japan all I would think about is those types of movies and where can get 4 on 1 action.

I would link some flicks but I'll let you do it.

 

[canada-man]

who is saying porn is real life?

 

[rockinbods35]

Interesting thread. I have to agree that too much porn does create unrealistic expectations in the bedroom. I have experienced it myself where I have a mental fantasy of how an encounter with a provider is going to go and it ends up nothing like what I had envisioned.

Usually that ends up in me not being able to stay in the moment, and enjoy the pleasure and well we all know where that leads guys..soft member lane.

I try to go into the experience and go with the flow now. I know what my go to positions are and tend rotate through those. Let’s be honest most of those sexual positions we see in porn aren’t comfortable for either party to stay in for any length of time. I don’t know about you all but I can’t jack hammer a woman for a long time, nor do I want to.

Soft and slow is my pace.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

Those of us of the legacy generation all choked the chicken to Playboy, Penthouse, then Hustler (christ they even had pink shots in that magazine), then once we had computers, early CGA / VGA stuff. Porn today is so far away from that there is no comparison but its all in your head, something to get the blood flowing. Or that is I think, what it is supposed to be.

Not sure when it happens, maybe at the point where you realize that sex - as in sex with someone other than yourself - is out there and it takes a few steps to get it, and porn gets put in its place.

But who am I to preach about this and if porn and your hand/toy etc floats your boat, enjoy it. Just don't think your partner is going to enjoy having your muscled up body with its 9-1/2" member ripping up her insides as you pump quarts of your man yogurt all over her.

 

[luvsdaty]

Those of us of the legacy generation all choked the chicken to Playboy, Penthouse, then Hustler (christ they even had pink shots in that magazine), then once we had computers, early CGA / VGA stuff. Porn today is so far away from that there is no comparison but its all in your head, something to get the blood flowing. Or that is I think, what it is supposed to be.

Not sure when it happens, maybe at the point where you realize that sex - as in sex with someone other than yourself - is out there and it takes a few steps to get it, and porn gets put in its place.

But who am I to preach about this and if porn and your hand/toy etc floats your boat, enjoy it. Just don't think your partner is going to enjoy having your muscled up body with its 9-1/2" member ripping up her insides as you pump quarts of your man yogurt all over her.

When I first started cranking it as a kid, all I had was the Sears catalogue and National Geographic

 

[ashley]

Interesting thread .

I couldn’t agree more. It’s literally been proven in studies that at worst , single guys will satisfy their own desires so much to the point where they aren’t motivated anymore to face possible rejection by approaching a women in public , or even going online and going on dates . So the guy ends up being content being single and jerking off in a room for the rest of his life.

Their was a separated study year later after hook up culture became mainstream where girls in college were now reporting hooking up w guys on campus and in the middle of sex the guy would just reach out and start choking her, with zero previous discussion about it or consent . Because these guys had leaned about sex entirely from porn.

it’s also been shown to ruin the sex lives of many couples because the husband or boyfriend has abused porn to the point that he can’t get off without 9 windows opened simultaneously with any fantasy he can think of immediately served up in seconds .such as gang bangs etc . That when a real woman such as his girlfriend or wife is naked right in front of him it’s not enough anymore..

I do think that in moderation it can be useful .
If you are single and just really horny with no one to sleep with at the moment you just need to let it out , or even if you’re really horny and your say wife is not and you don’t wanna pressure her for sex when she’s clearly not in the mood .

However porn is not created with moderation in mind.

Personally when and if I do watch porn, even though I hate all the outdated hair and makeup, I prefer pre 2000, ( 70’s, 80’s 90’s ) because at least the sex itself ( in my eyes ) is a lot closer to two people just actually having sex IRL , compared to all the way over the top stuff now a days that seems to be so popular. I don’t need to watch someone sucking cock while simultaneously doing a hand stand. That just seems ridiculous.

I agree and to add to this...

The research I perused focused on the photo editing filters utilized by women on social media platforms such as Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, and Twitter. However, when these men encounter actual women in person, with their imperfections they have problems coming to term with reality and difficulties in achieving sexual climax.

it appears that this is a recent trend that is impacting the sexual performance of younger boys.

 

[white Ninja]

I agree and to add to this...

The research I perused focused on the photo editing filters utilized by women on social media platforms such as Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, and Twitter. However, when these men encounter actual women in person, with their imperfections they have problems coming to term with reality and difficulties in achieving sexual climax.

it appears that this is a recent trend that is impacting the sexual performance of younger boys.

That’s a great point . If you are being exposed to these images repeatedly at a younger impressionable age, you would become conditioned ( just the same way they have w porn ) . They have I develop un realistic expectations.

Personally I find peoples unique features is what makes them attractive, or “special” .
If someone actually looked like a mannequin they would look weird.

Another alarming fact is the rate of erectile disfunction is rising in younger men who’s brain chemistry has been completely messed up by virtue of the fact that they began watching filmed porn ( not still images ) from such a young age now a days thanks to online porn , when their brains were still in crucial stages of development.

I guess the similar issues might now arise because of all the photo filters.

Now that they are really pushing AI, I fear it will contribute to many young men leading lives of quiet desperation , where they feel totally content with, not actually socializing with real women , but just living out their fantasies in their basements. Very sad .