We all have to admit there is a certain loneliness to our pastime. For most of us it is a secret life. Out there in the "real" world we have families, friends and aquaintences who know absolutely nothing of our secret lives of pooning or providing.
Thus, we seek community and that is how boards like PERB become such a wonderful refuge for us. A refuge from our lonely pastime where we can celebrate our secret lives with fellow travellers and make new friends here. For many of us it is the only place we can discuss this pastime which takes up a significant part of our lives.
For that I will always be thankful to the creators of boards like this. It should be said more often. Thank you Fred Zed!
There is a slightly eerie aspect to the boards though. We are all anonymous of course but we all build our unique characters here and many of us form friendships in this electronic jungle. Of course pooners and providers actually see each other as well on a very intimate level.
The eerie part of the boards are the "disappeared". Sometimes fellow pooners who have become great friends on the board or providers who have been wonderful, intimate lovers will just disappear. Whether they were banned or retired from the hobby, or are just taking a long break, or have actually passed away, we may never know and might never find out. That's what's eerie.
Some do of course announce their retirement from the hobby but very many don't. They're simply gone.
When you've spent a fair bit of time here as I have in the last year or so, you realize this really is a community of fellow human beings, almost a family of sorts. When a friend on the boards or an SP you've been intimate with many times vanishes from here and from the business, there can be a real sense of loss. Most likely they have probably just retired from the business or may be taking a long break only to come back later and have simply not announced it. Sometimes they have actually passed away though.
I recently found out that a beautiful young SP who had been a favorite of mine for several years had died. I had thought she had retired a couple of years ago as she was no longer working. Then about a month ago, someone told me she had died a violent death. Her story had been in the newspapers but I had missed it.
I was completely shocked and I've been going through an actual period of grieving as I would for any close friend or family member. I'm still not past it as she was a remarkable, beautiful, intelligent and very giving young woman who I really cared for. I pray that she's in a peaceful good place now.
This experience has made me think though, how many of those who simply disappear from these boards are actually really no longer with us? How many have become "Ghosts in the Machine"?
Perhaps we should say a little prayer for them from time to time.
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That having been said, I'm going to be taking a break for awhile. I won't be a Ghost in the Machine, God willing, and will probably be back before too long. How long, I cannot say, as my 'little head' has a habit of breaking my schedules when he puts his horny mind to it! It may be days, it may be weeks, it may be months.
If my little dickhead, 'Ole Southpole leads me astray with some lovely new SP, I'll be sure to come back and let you all know about it.
In the meantime have fun boys and girls and always remember to:
Take care out there!
Signing off from the South Pole, always pointing North,
Bad Santa
Thus, we seek community and that is how boards like PERB become such a wonderful refuge for us. A refuge from our lonely pastime where we can celebrate our secret lives with fellow travellers and make new friends here. For many of us it is the only place we can discuss this pastime which takes up a significant part of our lives.
For that I will always be thankful to the creators of boards like this. It should be said more often. Thank you Fred Zed!
There is a slightly eerie aspect to the boards though. We are all anonymous of course but we all build our unique characters here and many of us form friendships in this electronic jungle. Of course pooners and providers actually see each other as well on a very intimate level.
The eerie part of the boards are the "disappeared". Sometimes fellow pooners who have become great friends on the board or providers who have been wonderful, intimate lovers will just disappear. Whether they were banned or retired from the hobby, or are just taking a long break, or have actually passed away, we may never know and might never find out. That's what's eerie.
Some do of course announce their retirement from the hobby but very many don't. They're simply gone.
When you've spent a fair bit of time here as I have in the last year or so, you realize this really is a community of fellow human beings, almost a family of sorts. When a friend on the boards or an SP you've been intimate with many times vanishes from here and from the business, there can be a real sense of loss. Most likely they have probably just retired from the business or may be taking a long break only to come back later and have simply not announced it. Sometimes they have actually passed away though.
I recently found out that a beautiful young SP who had been a favorite of mine for several years had died. I had thought she had retired a couple of years ago as she was no longer working. Then about a month ago, someone told me she had died a violent death. Her story had been in the newspapers but I had missed it.
I was completely shocked and I've been going through an actual period of grieving as I would for any close friend or family member. I'm still not past it as she was a remarkable, beautiful, intelligent and very giving young woman who I really cared for. I pray that she's in a peaceful good place now.
This experience has made me think though, how many of those who simply disappear from these boards are actually really no longer with us? How many have become "Ghosts in the Machine"?
Perhaps we should say a little prayer for them from time to time.
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
That having been said, I'm going to be taking a break for awhile. I won't be a Ghost in the Machine, God willing, and will probably be back before too long. How long, I cannot say, as my 'little head' has a habit of breaking my schedules when he puts his horny mind to it! It may be days, it may be weeks, it may be months.
If my little dickhead, 'Ole Southpole leads me astray with some lovely new SP, I'll be sure to come back and let you all know about it.
In the meantime have fun boys and girls and always remember to:
Take care out there!
Signing off from the South Pole, always pointing North,
Bad Santa
