Gettin Old
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Age is a state of mind, you're only as old as your heart feels. So keep your hearts young and play hard. I myself even as a teenager found myself drawn more to older men, than to those my own age. I enjoy the respect and appreciation that grows with age.
Meaghan
Meaghan
You know, when I was a teenager... the fact that the girls I liked (that were my age) were dating older guys tended to piss me off.
Especially since 80% of them split up after high school.
I still think an ideal marriage/relationship for the purpose of romace, love and all that fun stuff... is with someone within a few years of your own age (2 max). Otherwise, your perspectives tend to vary widely, you don't have the same background (events, interests... af an era etc)... your history becomes to different for either of you to find any common ground (note: even people from opposite ends of the world can find common ground).
This is not to say that it hasn't been done & can't be done... it has and will. I just believe that for the most part, being with someone your age leads to a more fulfilling relationship.
Especially since 80% of them split up after high school.
I still think an ideal marriage/relationship for the purpose of romace, love and all that fun stuff... is with someone within a few years of your own age (2 max). Otherwise, your perspectives tend to vary widely, you don't have the same background (events, interests... af an era etc)... your history becomes to different for either of you to find any common ground (note: even people from opposite ends of the world can find common ground).
This is not to say that it hasn't been done & can't be done... it has and will. I just believe that for the most part, being with someone your age leads to a more fulfilling relationship.
I personally know two couples... one couple have been together 30 years (she is 48 and he is 64). Not only is there an age difference, but she is white (from Holland) while he is Indonesian. The other couple has been pretty happy now for about 15 years. He is 70, she 45. He is white and she is from Canton, China. (and no... no mail order brides or anything like that... in the first case, they met when she fell for him... quite literally... she worked as a secretary for the same firm and she slipped on the stairs on his way to his office and landed in it). And in the second case, they also met at work, although in not quite such a spectacular fashion.
so... ya just never know.
so... ya just never know.
Ditto Oberon ..right on the money ..
Just a few thoughts on turning 40 ... I was one of the many deep in career growth in my 30's with little time left for recreation or enjoyment of friends and family ... as I approached my 40th ... I was suddenly struck with the certainty that while I had met my career goals and did my part to take care of my family , I had neglected taking care of my needs and dreams ... since that epiphany 4 years ago , I have taken care of my fitness /health , gone hiking, mountaineering , Travelled and enjoyed relaxing in southern Europe , took up downhill skiing , actually doing the things I had always wanted to ,, am a much more of a whole person , yet ,have also re-discovered that my sex drive is a strong as it ever was ... I do enjoy women and hope to learn more about my sexuality and myself ... Life is short and while a good career is choice , one should never neglect their personal dreams and needs to be all things to all people ....Just a comment from one who is at the crossroads ...
Tiggrr2
Just a few thoughts on turning 40 ... I was one of the many deep in career growth in my 30's with little time left for recreation or enjoyment of friends and family ... as I approached my 40th ... I was suddenly struck with the certainty that while I had met my career goals and did my part to take care of my family , I had neglected taking care of my needs and dreams ... since that epiphany 4 years ago , I have taken care of my fitness /health , gone hiking, mountaineering , Travelled and enjoyed relaxing in southern Europe , took up downhill skiing , actually doing the things I had always wanted to ,, am a much more of a whole person , yet ,have also re-discovered that my sex drive is a strong as it ever was ... I do enjoy women and hope to learn more about my sexuality and myself ... Life is short and while a good career is choice , one should never neglect their personal dreams and needs to be all things to all people ....Just a comment from one who is at the crossroads ...
Tiggrr2
AAAHH good blues, another thing the older I get the more I like the Blues 
I sure that has some meaning...
Been making some positive changes in my life and it Definately helps... hope to keep headed in the right direction..
not dead yet
oberon
I sure that has some meaning...Been making some positive changes in my life and it Definately helps... hope to keep headed in the right direction..
not dead yet
oberon
I am going to make a post about Gina and her comments before too long (positive)... but for right now I want to jump on this lil gem.Gina Lee said:
Gina: One thing I like about you is your candor. Which is why I want to ask you this one. (answer in a pm if you prefer).
Is it an 'uncontrollable need'? Which begs the question... are most men weak willed?
Would love to hear from other sp's on this one as well.
Re: Ladies in Our Past
the quote above kinda describes my first GF too, she eventually got married (not to me) and was a born again virgin, she was some fun before the conversion however...
oberon
Thanks Alex, seems like a long time ago I started this thread, got some thing worked out some not ....Little Alex said:
the quote above kinda describes my first GF too, she eventually got married (not to me) and was a born again virgin, she was some fun before the conversion however...
oberon
