Full GFE or safe...What would you do?

kvee

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SAFE or GFE?

I am very new to this lifestyle, and want all the perspectives I can get.
Me personally? safe is OBVIOUSLY smarter, and I promised myself I would ONLY do safe, but it's been 25 years since I’ve had a BBBJ(beginning of marriage), and 2 years since DATY, and who doesn't love DFK. So here I am only 1 encounter in, and I'm about to break my own rule... Basically, promises to yourself are made to be broken right? LOL
I’d Really like to hear your experiences/fears on this, I realize everyone’s experiences/choices are different and you must make your own choices, do all the research/reading blah blah blah.

Thanks
 

georgej

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SAFE or GFE?

I am very new to this lifestyle, and want all the perspectives I can get.
Me personally? safe is OBVIOUSLY smarter, and I promised myself I would ONLY do safe, but it's been 25 years since I’ve had a BBBJ(beginning of marriage), and 2 years since DATY, and who doesn't love DFK. So here I am only 1 encounter in, and I'm about to break my own rule... Basically, promises to yourself are made to be broken right? LOL
I’d Really like to hear your experiences/fears on this, I realize everyone’s experiences/choices are different and you must make your own choices, do all the research/reading blah blah blah.

Thanks
SP's are PROFESSIONALS. Do research, don't try to save money, communicate your interests and questions. Introduce yourself honestly, provide the requested info in their ad. Someone who responds reasonably to you, clearly should be a good choice. A carefully chosen SP is far more likely to keep herself and you safe. Check out Charlee, give her the information she asks for and listen to her. You'll be fine.
 

cruefan

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If you are seeing a reputable escort I feel perfectly fine with getting a bbbj and performing daty and I have never once ever caught an std in all my time partaking in this business.

Most escorts get tested way more than random civilians you would meet in public.
 
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g eazy

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SP's are PROFESSIONALS. Do research, don't try to save money, communicate your interests and questions. Introduce yourself honestly, provide the requested info in their ad. Someone who responds reasonably to you, clearly should be a good choice. A carefully chosen SP is far more likely to keep herself and you safe. Check out Charlee, give her the information she asks for and listen to her. You'll be fine.
I would say it's best to assume nothing about your SP, or to assume the worst, if you want to keep yourself safe.
 
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kvee

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I just want to clarify, I'm not throwing any shade at any SP's at all.....I just wanted your perspectives, .......as I stated, I am about to break my own rules and ENJOY myself...fully!!!

Pooners should get tested regularly too. Don’t leave the responsibility just on the ladies

it’s just common sense for anyone with multiple partners
i got tested immediately after my 1st encounter, and plan on every 2-3 ladies I meet in the future.
If you are seeing a reputable escort I feel perfectly fine with getting a bbbj and performing daty and I have never once ever caught an std in all my time partaking in this business.

Most escorts get tested way more than random civilians you would meet in public.
Thank you for that input, you eased my very imaginative mind a little. I will only see reputable, well reviewed, escorts, that advertise here, or on the other major board I found. the only exception I will make is if their twitter accounts have enough...traction and engagement to warrant my consideration as well as a web site, and the "right" followers. I just opted to not see a ohsopurrfect sp, who apparently only advertises on LL.
 

Mr Quim

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Miss Hunter had some more great Advice in this Thread !


Everyone's risk level is different.

And one should also take into consideration the other people you have contact with in your life, are any of them in a high risk for death group?


https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/what-are-the-risks-of-seeing-a-regular.285344/
If that's not an Issue in your Life, then I personally think You have nothing to worry about, if You're visiting reputable Women . Reputation is everything, on these Adventures ! Do your due diligence .

Mr Q.
 

UhOh

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If you are seeing a reputable escort I feel perfectly fine with getting a bbbj and performing daty and I have never once ever caught an std in all my time partaking in this business.

Most escorts get tested way more than random civilians you would meet in public.
You have no idea how often anyone is tested or what they do about it if they do test positive for something. "Reputable Escorts" are also visited by less reputable clients.
 

MDpooner

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You have no idea how often anyone is tested or what they do about it if they do test positive for something. "Reputable Escorts" are also visited by less reputable clients.
I have thought about this since I entered the hobby late last year. I was tested before I had my first two encounters, have been tested since my last encounter, and will be tested before my next encounter.

I am mostly interested in the GFE, because if there is no DFK I am likely not interested.

I am interested in PSE, but I feel, without having partaken of the experience, that it would bring out the darker side of me and lead my down a path I do not want to go.

My actual preference, which I understand is anathema here, is something more. But to get to that point, with just about any SP, would likely be cost prohibitive, at least for me. And those SPs that would be willing from the beginning... I probably would be too, rightly, afraid of partaking of their service.
 

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I have thought about this since I entered the hobby late last year. I was tested before I had my first two encounters, have been tested since my last encounter, and will be tested before my next encounter.

I am mostly interested in the GFE, because if there is no DFK I am likely not interested.

I am interested in PSE, but I feel, without having partaken of the experience, that it would bring out the darker side of me and lead my down a path I do not want to go.

My actual preference, which I understand is anathema here, is something more. But to get to that point, with just about any SP, would likely be cost prohibitive, at least for me. And those SPs that would be willing from the beginning... I probably would be too, rightly, afraid of partaking of their service.
My curious mind wants to know more about this dark PSE path... what on earth do you mean?
 
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Having participated in the hobby off and on for decades, it does seem though one's interests in different services evolve. Variety, it has been said, is the spice of life. While for many years I tended to go for the younger, more fit and traditionally attractive type, I now prefer mature (not just age wise) ladies who offer a more sensual erotic experience than a focus on the physical. It would be interesting to hear from others whose tastes have shifted over time.
 

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4 straight days of over 100 plus new cases of covid..... As much as people want this to go away, opening up seems to set us back and more now.... Canada's top doc just advised to refrain from kissing while sex, especially with new partners.... Unfortunately I'm goin to go back to a small Bublé and refrain from participating in the hobby.... Kissing is a huge thing to lots of guys so I highly doubt that advice will be heeded....

Safe gfe would be my suggestion for now if your wanting to play
 
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Miss Hunter

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My actual preference, which I understand is anathema here, is something more. But to get to that point, with just about any SP, would likely be cost prohibitive, at least for me. And those SPs that would be willing from the beginning... I probably would be too, rightly, afraid of partaking of their service.
And I'm also wondering what does this mean?
 

kvee

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4 straight days of over 100 plus new cases of covid..... As much as people want this to go away, opening up seems to set us back and more now.... Canada's top doc just advised to refrain from kissing while sex, especially with new partners.... Unfortunately I'm goin to go back to a small Bublé and refrain from participating in the hobby.... Kissing is a huge thing to lots of guys so I highly doubt that advice will be heeded....

Safe gfe would be my suggestion for now if your wanting to play
I respect that, but in my mind its either abstain fully or partake fully, what's the point of being within heavy breathing distance of another person, and not just close that 2 foot gap to kiss?

While for many years I tended to go for the younger, more fit and traditionally attractive type, I now prefer mature (not just age wise) ladies who offer a more sensual erotic experience than a focus on the physical.
cant you have both? that's what I'm looking for

once again thanks guys and gals, I hope to hear more!
 

g eazy

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You have no idea how often anyone is tested or what they do about it if they do test positive for something. "Reputable Escorts" are also visited by less reputable clients.
I want to reiterate this. Just take care of yourself and don't make any assumptions about who you're seeing, short of them showing you exam results.
 

Ballerific

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Im very new to this hobby too. 3 encounters in. Got tested a week or so after each. Still hard to not let the mind wander. Any muscle ache, scratchy throat, feeking off, sends me through the roof with anxiety.
 

susi

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just a note here....

BBBJ and DFK or face closeness, kissing if any kind are not recommended right now. - http://www.bccdc.ca/Health-Info-Site/Documents/Guidance-for-clients-sex-workers.pdf

everyone should act within their own comfort levels but please try to consider others as well at this time. all of us should be doing our best to "prevent the spread" and ensure an outbreak is not linked to our industry. it would be a disaster if we were shut down again like night clubs and exotic show lounges.

love susie
 
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