First visit to a Dominatrix questions.

badbadboy

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I’ve been toying with the submission side of my personality of late.

It’s way out of my normal comfort zone. Perhaps that’s the key reason it’s kept me thinking about it.

I’ve been told once I commit, there are no questions and no protesting what I’ve been told to do.

Simply say “yes Mistress” and do as I am told.

Am I to put aside all my wants, desires, things that please me and if denied an orgasm to simply say ‘yes Mistress ‘?

I assume the answer to all of the above is yes.

Which begs the question, if I’m denied pleasure and am to simply accept the denial of orgasm; where does the fun start and what if Mistress decides I am unworthy of an orgasm on subsequent visits?

For a weak bastard like myself, I’d probably give up and go home and fap myself silly.

Any submissive pooners care to share? I’m seriously thinking of giving this a go but want to know where is the Quan in this situation?

 

604jbear

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Most professional dommes will ask about your level of experience and will likely spend the first 10 minutes of your session going over your interests as well as your limits. So if you don't want a dildo up your ass, that's probably a great time to tell her. They will also establish a "safe word" so that during the session, if there is something that is making you uncomfortable you can use your "safe word" - I've only ever had to use this once when the prolonged tickle torture I was receiving brought me to the edge of sanity, lol. In regards to pleasure, I always communicate to them (very politely) prior the session that I do hope for a release (usually by feet or hand) at the end of the session (I particularly enjoy post-orgasm torture) and have always been accommodated. Have fun! For newbie I would possibly suggest Maya Odelle, although there are quite a few accomplished dommes here in Vancouver (Goddess Ivy, Maitresse Madeleine, Miss Jasmine, Lady Bellatrix (on tour)). As long as you're respectable, you should have a great time. Good luck!
 
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Miss Hunter

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I’ve been toying with the submission side of my personality of late.

It’s way out of my normal comfort zone. Perhaps that’s the key reason it’s kept me thinking about it.

I’ve been told once I commit, there are no questions and no protesting what I’ve been told to do.

Simply say “yes Mistress” and do as I am told.

Am I to put aside all my wants, desires, things that please me and if denied an orgasm to simply say ‘yes Mistress ‘?

I assume the answer to all of the above is yes.

Which begs the question, if I’m denied pleasure and am to simply accept the denial of orgasm; where does the fun start and what if Mistress decides I am unworthy of an orgasm on subsequent visits?

For a weak bastard like myself, I’d probably give up and go home and fap myself silly.

Any submissive pooners care to share? I’m seriously thinking of giving this a go but want to know where is the Quan in this situation?

Whoever told you that is clueless about BDSM. Or.. hopefully just joking and teasing?Consent is the cornerstone that separates BDSM from abuse. Consent can be revoked at anytime during the session.
Anyways, Jerbear gave you some great advice and great recommendations.
 

ddcanz

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BBB having a session with Miss H...….. :flypig: None of my business, but I have to admit I've got a BIG grin on my face :heh:
 

KinkyKatey

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Whoever told you that is clueless about BDSM. Or.. hopefully just joking and teasing?Consent is the cornerstone that separates BDSM from abuse. Consent can be revoked at anytime during the session.
Anyways, Jerbear gave you some great advice and great recommendations.
I couldn't agree more, to me that sounded like dirty talk/role play. Any actually bdsm session (in my humble experience) has a much deeper level of respect and trust than any other kind. I also find there to be a exceptional amount of "Kwan".

604jbear also make excellent points, though I always try to go over experience, limits and safe words before we meet as I find it more intense and intimate to start the session "in character". On a side note, post orgasm torture is my absolute favourite. Dommes are human and as such have different things that bring them pleasure.

Xo
Katey
 

uncleg

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I’ve been toying with the submission side of my personality of late.

It’s way out of my normal comfort zone. Perhaps that’s the key reason it’s kept me thinking about it.

I’ve been told once I commit, there are no questions and no protesting what I’ve been told to do.

Simply say “yes Mistress” and do as I am told.

Am I to put aside all my wants, desires, things that please me and if denied an orgasm to simply say ‘yes Mistress ‘?

I assume the answer to all of the above is yes.

Which begs the question, if I’m denied pleasure and am to simply accept the denial of orgasm; where does the fun start and what if Mistress decides I am unworthy of an orgasm on subsequent visits?

For a weak bastard like myself, I’d probably give up and go home and fap myself silly.

Any submissive pooners care to share? I’m seriously thinking of giving this a go but want to know where is the Quan in this situation?

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthrea...-travels-to-new-horizons-not-a-review-as-such
 

take8easy

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Although, it is so absolutely not my thing, I do realize that we all have this submissive side to us, some more than the others. I tried to get in touch with it by seeing Miss Red in White Rock. Not her fault but I came to realize that I enjoy sensuality more. The most pain I can endure (and enjoy) is my nipples being gently nibbled on. My submissive side is limited to submitting in a loving and romantic way rather than having a vibrator of the side of a hand blender grinding around my genitals. :) Certainly not a finger with an inch long nail shoved up my no no zone. I would rather have it kissed and rimmed with warm wet tongue.

Anyway, I think as others have observed, I am sure the lady you see will ask you your limits. Besides you wouldn't know till you try it. So, go for it BBB and let us know how it went.

T8E
 

ddcanz

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Although, it is so absolutely not my thing, I do realize that we all have this submissive side to us, some more than the others. I tried to get in touch with it by seeing Miss Red in White Rock. Not her fault but I came to realize that I enjoy sensuality more.

T8E
Miss Red is a sweetheart. Never done the BDSM thing with her but we had a good conversation about it. Her Dungeon was in full view while she performed the most amazing and intimate FBSM I've probably ever had.
 

Lo-ki

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Check your closet..:)
I had a session with Miss Red and she rocked......:)
I don't see her advertise anymore...:(
 

take8easy

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Miss Red is a sweetheart. Never done the BDSM thing with her but we had a good conversation about it. Her Dungeon was in full view while she performed the most amazing and intimate FBSM I've probably ever had.
She is a lovely woman. I agree. But you can sense an aggressive style in her demeanor. How fast did she drive after she picked you up?!! lol.

Anyways, I never got FBSM from her! Although my session was not really a dom, but we did kind of a role-play where she was in-charge. Again, nothing wrong with her service, I just realized my junior and I can't handle any discomfort at all.

Can't see her ad though. Not that I am going to repeat.
 

ddcanz

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She is a lovely woman. I agree. But you can sense an aggressive style in her demeanor. How fast did she drive after she picked you up?!! lol.

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Too funny! We only had to go a few blocks but when we entered the complex she was into the garage like a shot!
 
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