First date - WTF IS GOING ON HERE?!?!?

[SkinnyJohn]

Isn't it natural to ask what someone does for a living on the first date? Or even when you hang out with some new people? How could she not have a clue as to what you do for a living?

Are you on facebook? Twitter? Instagram? LinkedIn? Hang around the same circle of people?

Trying not to be cynical but are you sure she has no clue about your financial status? Women can make guesses by what we wear, our hobbies, or what we post on the internet.

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

Excellent point Skinnyjohn, many men forget about women's intuition. Seriously it is almost telepathic in nature.
To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
If the gal the OP mentions was to buy my dinner unbeknownst to me aforehand I would be impressed to no end
by her fortitude. In this case being her strength of character, Now that's a gal I'd marry for sure.

This alone tells me she is strong of mind, knows what she is after, and especially it shows the confidence
of herself in the eyes of the beholder but not to the point of arrogance by any means............
My god I'm in love with this woman already and I haven't even met her!!

Now compare that lassie to one of those gold digging creepy bitches................YIKES!!!!






.......................QM'r

 

[johnsmit]

Got to agree with QMs assursion .deffinetly a keeper.
But then I think I know the dads point of view too .. he knows men and What they want . So if the guys is a good guy and she pays the bill because she likes him .. The guys won't be expecting to get sex on the first date because he did not pay for the meal .
If his daughter wants to sleep with the guy it will totally be her choise with no thought of I owe him..
Smart dad ... smart daughter.

But I would feel the same way as the poster.. I just think if you take a lady out then I should pay. I personally don't expect any thing in return ..only that she enjoyed the dinner and the company .

 

[J-Dogg]

Just get the bill next time to return the favour Quid pro quo

 

[ddcanz]

So, $150 at Hy's for a steak dinner date? WTF- I guess the OP ordered from the kid's menu? Or had the waiter bring shit wine? No after dinner special coffees, deserts or brandy?
I think the girl figured the OP was a bit of a nickel-squeezer and decided if she paid the bill the waiter would at least get a half decent tip.
But seriously- WTF dude? Your date picked up the bill. She's a keeper. She sees the bigger picture. If that's a problem for you let her know so she can move on to someone more appreciative.

 

[Claire Monet]

So, $150 at Hy's for a steak dinner date? WTF- I guess the OP ordered from the kid's menu? Or had the waiter bring shit wine? No after dinner special coffees, deserts or brandy?
I think the girl figured the OP was a bit of a nickel-squeezer and decided if she paid the bill the waiter would at least get a half decent tip.
But seriously- WTF dude? Your date picked up the bill. She's a keeper. She sees the bigger picture. If that's a problem for you let her know so she can move on to someone more appreciative.

I was kind of thinking the same thing. The one and only time I went to Hy's the bill was over $300. And, yes, I paid.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

WTF is right! You got to go out on what sounds like a very nice date with an attractive woman and she paid the bill.
Some guys get all the luck! :doh:
Sounds like she was expecting you to "put out" at the end of the evening.

 

[ddcanz]

Yowza... now I’m curious about what kind of “just scraping by” job his date has. From what I understand, the OP didn’t even see the bill.

Yeah, but he said he figured it was about 150 or so- he knew what was going on. He knows the menu.
But VERY light IMO for Hy's.
Cheapest steak is about 50.
Side of asparagus is 15.
Bottle of "low" end BC red is 60. Anything remotely half decent by the glass is 20+.
Steak dinner at Hy's? Gotta team it up with any bottle of Aussie 'Dooker at the minimum. Even a Mondavi Napa cab is 80. The Prisoner is 150.
You don't go to Hy's to scrimp. That's what the Keg is for- and good luck having a proper steak-fest for two with decent wine for under 200.
150 gets you nothing.
Maybe girly just sat back and watched the OP eat? Or picked off his plate?
The bill sounds fishy to me. Happy hour maybe? OP had a Groupon lying on the table?

 

[MissingOne]

The last time I was active dating civilians was in the early 1980's. Back then, a typical dinner date did cost about $150. Allowing for inflation since then, it would be well over $300.00. So yeah, the OP had a cheap date.

Mind you, these days if my SO and I go out for a meal, the cost is usually in the $20 to $50 range for the two of us. Times change. We change.

 

[badbadboy]

I have a hard time believing there is a significant number of RNs with active licences working as coffee shop baristas. My former career was as a nurse. Not RN but I held a RPN licence in Ontario and an LPN licence in Manitoba. From my experience, most full time jobs were restricted to in house applications meaning we would have to take a part time postition first but I had no issues picking up extra shifts to make full time hours in each pay period anyways. I was often even banking overtime on each pay.

It takes at least a few weeks after graduating to write the exam and receive the licence, but I worked as a health care aid during my own waiting period. The pay wasn’t great, but a bit better than Starbucks.

But I’ll admit, I cannot comment on what it’s like to live on a starving student budget. My first time in school my dad paid everything. This time around I only have to work a handful of hrs a week to keep myself comfortably above water.

Who knows, maybe you’re right and she’s a sly hustler. Only time will tell.

They may graduate and get their registration but Employers only have X amount of open positions available.

A grad I know took almost 18 months to get employed and it was only a bit better than part time, not full time.

 

[Thehouse]

I was getting friendly with some of the working girls in good old Abbotsford.
Let's call one of them Ivy-she tells me she was falling for one of her clients and he was in a "getting divorced situation"and on top not being a customer anymore but getting laid for free now(being her boyfriend) he also borrowed $1500.00 from her. Needless to say he dumped after a while and didn't return the $1500.
I told this story to another SP,lets call her Michelle, she knows of Ivy and says -"don't feel bad for her"-"she made a cheap investment of $1500 in the hopes this guy would leave his family and then she would be sitting on $500,000 house with him."
At first I was little taken aback but then I thought-Ivy has been around a lot ,she's probably met a lot of guys in unhappy marriages etc.
She's probably tried this a few times. She even bought me dinner a few times-they weren't Hy's Encore steak dinners,but I really appreciated the gesture. Of course I spent more money on her than she spent my way-that's expected.
Anytime a girl offers to pay for dinner/lunch with me I'm impressed. Maybe this chick is willing to share the load in a relationship.
She's just trying make a better life for herself-
have you ever heard a mom advise her daughter to marry a "nice poor,lazy guy" the joke used to be-"marry a doctor"-"make sure he's hard working "etc.

 

[jgg]

have you ever heard a mom advise her daughter to marry a "nice poor,lazy guy" the joke used to be-"marry a doctor"-"make sure he's hard working "etc.

"Marry for love, but love where there is money."

 

[stamina]

So, $150 at Hy's for a steak dinner date? WTF- I guess the OP ordered from the kid's menu? Or had the waiter bring shit wine? No after dinner special coffees, deserts or brandy?
I think the girl figured the OP was a bit of a nickel-squeezer and decided if she paid the bill the waiter would at least get a half decent tip.

Hahaha! So true.

Is it possible that she was just being polite? And by picking up the tab, she avoided any expectation on the male's part that she would have to put out in exchange for the dinner.

Then, there's also the theory that she was making an "investment" into luring a potential sugar daddy. That theory doesn't hold water. Yes, the OP may be much more established than her but what good is a rich boyfriend when he's a penny-pincher, as evidenced by the $150 dinner for two at Hy's?

 

[Aesthetics>all]

I haven’t been to the one in vancouver, but if the hys in whistler is anything to go by, you’ll get a better steak at the cactus club

 

[summerbreeze]

Earls on robson serves a decent steak

But the pink peppercorn on Kingsway would be my first choice these days

It’s the old cannery, seafood restaurant

 

[sevenofnine]

from an old fart,

I think if a guy pays, his belief is that he is owed something in return, the more he pays the more he is owed.
I think she is just trying to be modern, and cut through this bullshit, her thoughts, but somewhere deep down in
her subconscious she and her dad its telling her , you don't want to owe anybody anything.


I don't really understand money, I mean I have always worked,
will most likely always work,
if I was a billionaire I wouldn't be for long I would do so much charity work it would make your head spin, easy come easy go.
I think guys like bill gates and buffets are hoarders as much as anything, do some good for Christ sake,
they are sucking money out of the economy as much as anything,

I like an old fashion women, I would be insulted actually I think if this happened to me. dutch minimum but even that I would fight.

 

[UhOh]

So, $150 at Hy's for a steak dinner date? WTF- I guess the OP ordered from the kid's menu? Or had the waiter bring shit wine? No after dinner special coffees, deserts or brandy?
I think the girl figured the OP was a bit of a nickel-squeezer and decided if she paid the bill the waiter would at least get a half decent tip.
But seriously- WTF dude? Your date picked up the bill. She's a keeper. She sees the bigger picture. If that's a problem for you let her know so she can move on to someone more appreciative.

I've never heard of Hy's and at those rates not likely I'll ever be eating there. I've gotten great meals at a fraction of those prices, don't need a pretentious meal to fill me up.

 

[Sonny]

OP is current prehistoric.
Even old farts today get it.

New days, new ways.
Get with the times.

 

[jamasianman]

Think of this way. Let's say you and your best guy friend go out for a movie. You each pay for your own movie. Would it be fair for you to pay for him all the time? No, not really. He has his own money and you can each pay for your own ticket. Why would that apply to the women or men you date? Why does the guy pay all the time? You wouldn't treat your best friend like that, why would you treat someone you date any different?

She's a modern woman, and because she paid the bill in secret, it means she likes you. No woman pays for a 150 dollar meal just to mess with you or set a trap. Actions speak louder than words, and you got yourself a potential keeper

 

[summerbreeze]

I've never heard of Hy's and at those rates not likely I'll ever be eating there. I've gotten great meals at a fraction of those prices, don't need a pretentious meal to fill me up.

Hy's was and might still be considered by some the top steakhouse in Vancouver/Whistler

as most know, dining caters to a wide range of taste, style, and budget

pretty hard to enjoy fine dining for a couple with wine for much less that $150 but of course the budget conscious would probably be able to find better value around town (depending on your definition of value)

doubt there is a need to label fine dining as pretentious, especially in Vancouver which is very casual by restaurant standards

don't see what is wrong for people who have means to enjoy something elevated from what they would eat at home from time to time, for many its fun and makes you feel good....