Finally ready to lose my virginity

[sherlock425]

Hi,

I have a bit of an issue. I'm 23 years old, and still a virgin. I'm finally ready to lose my virginity, however I get major performance anxiety whenever I'm with a girl because I have no experience and I end up not getting hard or losing my erection. Does anyone have any recommendations for an SP in the vancouver area that would be patient and willing to guide someone like me?

 

[UhOh]

Do whatever you want to do but don't do anything uncovered

 

[clu]

Have you tried lap dances as a warm up exercise? They're pretty hands on at the No. 5 but it's a tease by design so you aren't expected to finish nor do you even need to maintain an erection. You can just enjoy the experience and I speculate once your mind is off your performance anxieties you'll find things react just fine. It can be a little practice run or two to get you more comfortable before you schedule the main event.

 

[SkinnyJohn]

Can you get hard on your own thru masturbation by porn or imagination? Are you in good health?

Best choices I think for a newbie would be to spend a bit more and go see an agency with a younger SP that offers GFE. Don't go to any of those micros for the first time. You might end up being scarred for life and avoid sex altogether.

 

[sherlock425]

Does bbbj or cbj matter to you, for your first time?

Do you prefer a certain look? Ethnicity of the girl? Hair color? Breast appearance?

RRSSEDPPC,
Tim McGee.

I feel like if I got a BJ and finished I'd be unable to perform after that due to the refractory period.

I do have a preference for a look, I'm into the young, slim/fit, college girl type look. In terms of ethnicity I'm mostly attracted to White/Europeans or Latin/Hispanic girls. I don't have any hair colour preference, but for breasts I don't like them too large.

 

[sherlock425]

Can you get hard on your own thru masturbation by porn or imagination? Are you in good health?

Best choices I think for a newbie would be to spend a bit more and go see an agency with a younger SP that offers GFE. Don't go to any of those micros for the first time. You might end up being scarred for life and avoid sex altogether.

Yeah, I can get hard using porn or NSFW pictures, however, imagination not as much. I am in pretty average health. I've got an athletic build but am currently chubby because I've been eating crappy food and it's bulking season, but during the summer time I tend to lean out.

What are micros?

 

[Frank Dux]

Whatever you decide to do, make sure you communicate with the SW and be clear about your situation and what your expectations are. Personally, that's why I'd pick an independent with an incall over a parlour or micro. You will have an opportunity to communicate directly before you book, and you will get a much clearer picture of who you're seeing. 99% of the ladies have seen and heard everything so don't worry about anyone being judgemental. If you're worried about performance, give yourself 90 minutes or even 2 hours to spend time getting over any anxiety. You'd be surprised what 15-30 minutes of chatting can do to make you more comfortable.

I would recommend starting a burner Twitter account and exploring the local ladies from there. No offence to the mods, but I rarely check this board or even ad sites like Eros any more. Social media is a much better platform for getting a read on someone. Rebecca Thomas (@1_RebeccaThomas), Emmy St Clare (@EmmyStClaire), Bree (@SweetBreeEscort), Adelaide Jones (@SweetAdelaideJ), Erica (@filmnoirstarlet), Emele Devine (@DevineEmele), Sasha Carmelle (@SashaCarmelle), Alix Turner (@AlixUndefeated), Mira Rose (@YourMilaRose), Evelyn Snow (@MissEvelynSnow) and Cami Parker (@Camiparkerxo) are just a few of the incredible ladies Vancouver has to offer.

Full disclosure, I lost my v-card at the Swedish Touch almost 20 years ago (I'm old haha). I had a good experience, but with 20/20 hindsight I think I would have been better off booking an independent. But there wasn't an Internet scene back then, so I only had the choice of a parlour, the Yellow Pages/Georgia Straight, or the high track on Richards Street.

 

[ndillinger]

Bbbj as well as daty and dato without dental dams are both ok as long as you both shower

 

[UhOh]

Bbbj as well as daty and dato without dental dams are both ok as long as you both shower

Incredibly bad advice. Don't take this as gospel, protect yourself. Showering will not protect you from several std's

 

[ndillinger]

Take a chance, maybe you'll get super-gonorrhea and die, but look on the brightside; you will have an excellent story to tell your peers while wandering through purgatory ☠

 

[jamasianman]

I had to coach my virgin buddy into getting into the hobby as well. I figured it would be fun for him to just get a rub and tug with massage, that way its relatively chill and you get some experience. You basically book an indie, pay, shower, and you get a massage and then a handjob. Some ladies do more like blowjob, but for a newbie like OP who is afraid of performance anxiety, there is nothing wrong with just doing a relaxing release after a massage to sort of dip your toes into it. My recommendations for this:

Sexy Brie brie (search leolist massage section for her contact info)
Sexy Personal Trainer
Natalia Bijoux
maybe Miss Hunter, she does massage and release I believe

The reason why I advise a simple massage and release is because it will sort of ease you into the hobby, and not have so much pressure. All you gotta do is lie there and enjoy relaxing rubdown, then get another rubdown down there. It will ease your nerves in my opinion. It will also be a good test to see if you can ejaculate quickly by hand, as a sort of tester. Also definitely make a 411 thread asking for specific newbie friendly providers, as some are totally NOT into seeing virgins.

 

[UhOh]

Take a chance, maybe you'll get super-gonorrhea and die, but look on the brightside; you will have an excellent story to tell your peers while wandering through purgatory ☠

If you were to ask anyone with gonorrhea if the sex act where they were infected was worth having the disease I suspect they'd say it wasn't.

 

[sherlock425]

Almost 5 years later and I still haven't. I've had opportunities with girls at parties but I get so anxious and insecure that it doesn't get hard during foreplay so I end it before they realize.

 

[Ickypootang]

I had to coach my virgin buddy into getting into the hobby as well. I figured it would be fun for him to just get a rub and tug with massage, that way its relatively chill and you get some experience. You basically book an indie, pay, shower, and you get a massage and then a handjob. Some ladies do more like blowjob, but for a newbie like OP who is afraid of performance anxiety, there is nothing wrong with just doing a relaxing release after a massage to sort of dip your toes into it. My recommendations for this:

Sexy Brie brie (search leolist massage section for her contact info)
Sexy Personal Trainer
Natalia Bijoux
maybe Miss Hunter, she does massage and release I believe

The reason why I advise a simple massage and release is because it will sort of ease you into the hobby, and not have so much pressure. All you gotta do is lie there and enjoy relaxing rubdown, then get another rubdown down there. It will ease your nerves in my opinion. It will also be a good test to see if you can ejaculate quickly by hand, as a sort of tester. Also definitely make a 411 thread asking for specific newbie friendly providers, as some are totally NOT into seeing virgins.

I do have a preference for a look, I'm into the young, slim/fit, college girl type look. In terms of ethnicity I'm mostly attracted to White/Europeans or Latin/Hispanic girls. I don't have any hair colour preference, but for breasts I don't like them too large.

I'd add Aurora from Skyline to this list. She matches your preferences exactly. Go for a massage and see if she'll take your v card.

 

[MB Mod]

Almost 5 years later and I still haven't. I've had opportunities with girls at parties but I get so anxious and insecure that it doesn't get hard during foreplay so I end it before they realize.

I do hope being banned doesn’t bring out your insecurities!

 

[Forum mod]

How bloody difficult is it to leave old posts the hell alone? You have to go searching to find something 5 years old FFS. The OP should spend more time relaxing and possibly seeing a therapist versus seeking validation, or god know what here 5 years later. Folks this is not the place to be bearing your soul like that. Seek professional help and leave anything posted more than 6 months before alone!