Has anyone developed deeper feelings for an sp? If so did you see her more often, less often or maintain the same schedule?
Feeling deeper emotions for sps.
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Has anyone developed deeper emotions for sps
Yeah GL, I think most of the pooners on this board have had this happen. With me it's always disappeared with subsequent visits. Remember that a good SP is going to be able to create a GFE. You start to notice after a few visits that none of this is really specific to you; general remarks get repeated, she can't remember what you said (though even at the time you may have thought you were making an emotional connection). Keep in mind what your doing here; buying sex, maybe with some GFE if your lucky. Just remember she's selling the same thing to the next guy.
Yeah GL, I think most of the pooners on this board have had this happen. With me it's always disappeared with subsequent visits. Remember that a good SP is going to be able to create a GFE. You start to notice after a few visits that none of this is really specific to you; general remarks get repeated, she can't remember what you said (though even at the time you may have thought you were making an emotional connection). Keep in mind what your doing here; buying sex, maybe with some GFE if your lucky. Just remember she's selling the same thing to the next guy.
What H F says is true-and there is also something else for there. I have "fallen" for a couple of SPs and never formed the connection that I thought I wanted at the time. The same could be said though for all my connections with women-there is always something slightly off about the relationship. What I do is just to remain open when it happens and continue to feel the connection when it is there. I would say that 1 in 10 of the SPs that I have been with has there been a connection that went deeper than the Pay for play relationship. Of those an maybe two kept me awake at night as I swooned-in love-or at least feeling the chemicals that my nervous system recognises as love. It really is a hopeless situation falling for an SP but the feelings of love or infatuation are great fun and I believe a valuble part of being alive. So go for it GL and enjoy-but do remember to respect the lady's space when this is going on. She is a profesiona and may not share your enthusiasm-and then again....?l
What are you saying???
That these girls are in it for.... the money?
You mean...
Victoria-Lee doesn't really fantasize about me?
That Saffire isn't charmed by my engaging personality?
That Julia isn't held in rapture by my child-like innocence???
Bah... heresy, I say.
That these girls are in it for.... the money? You mean...
Victoria-Lee doesn't really fantasize about me?
That Saffire isn't charmed by my engaging personality?
That Julia isn't held in rapture by my child-like innocence???
Bah... heresy, I say.
Re: Has anyone developed deeper emotions for sps
It's easy to fall for someone who is doing everything to please you and make you happy. Doing what you want, and doing it with enthusiasm. It's what we are supposed to do, and what you pay us for.
But...
A maid doesn't come home from work, cheerfully pick up the broom, and begin cleaning her own house for hours.
A chef doesn't come home after eight hours in a hot kitchen and ask if he/she can cook a ten course meal for 20 of your friends.
A masseuse doesn't come home from work and ask to rub your back for a few hours.
You get the idea.
Relationships are give and take. So far you've only seen the giving side, the side that is literally bending over backwards to make you happy. Hell, who doesn't want that?
It's not an 'act'. She's not deceiving you. She's not playing you. She's doing what you pay her to do. She's doing her job, and apparently she's doing it very well.
Not every client is the same, and I don't treat them that way. Some SP's might follow a formula, but don't assume we all do.Henry Flowers said:
It's easy to fall for someone who is doing everything to please you and make you happy. Doing what you want, and doing it with enthusiasm. It's what we are supposed to do, and what you pay us for.
But...
A maid doesn't come home from work, cheerfully pick up the broom, and begin cleaning her own house for hours.
A chef doesn't come home after eight hours in a hot kitchen and ask if he/she can cook a ten course meal for 20 of your friends.
A masseuse doesn't come home from work and ask to rub your back for a few hours.
You get the idea.
Relationships are give and take. So far you've only seen the giving side, the side that is literally bending over backwards to make you happy. Hell, who doesn't want that?
It's not an 'act'. She's not deceiving you. She's not playing you. She's doing what you pay her to do. She's doing her job, and apparently she's doing it very well.
May or may not be the right topic, but...
There was an sw I was seeing on a somewhat regular basis a while back that I developed feelings for. Can't say for sure that she had any serious feelings for me, but we spent a lot of time together and enjoyed each other's company. I'm sure she had problems with her life, but it seemed that she was able to leave them behind when we'd see each other. She would call me her boyfriend, tell me I made a difference in her life - gave me a card once telling me as much - and never put any limits on the time we spent together.
Unfortunately she disappeared about 3 years ago. It's quite possible that she was one of the women who was murdered at the Pickton farm (close resemblance to a photo of a woman with the same first name whose remains were found there) but I'm not 100% sure.
Real or imagined, a connection was there. Having it severed in that way is a feeling I wouldn't wish upon anyone. As much as part of me would like to find an sp to "connect" with again, I don't think I'd be able to.
SWGuy
There was an sw I was seeing on a somewhat regular basis a while back that I developed feelings for. Can't say for sure that she had any serious feelings for me, but we spent a lot of time together and enjoyed each other's company. I'm sure she had problems with her life, but it seemed that she was able to leave them behind when we'd see each other. She would call me her boyfriend, tell me I made a difference in her life - gave me a card once telling me as much - and never put any limits on the time we spent together.
Unfortunately she disappeared about 3 years ago. It's quite possible that she was one of the women who was murdered at the Pickton farm (close resemblance to a photo of a woman with the same first name whose remains were found there) but I'm not 100% sure.
Real or imagined, a connection was there. Having it severed in that way is a feeling I wouldn't wish upon anyone. As much as part of me would like to find an sp to "connect" with again, I don't think I'd be able to.
SWGuy
Let's face it guys-women(not just SPs) are unfathomable. That is why we like them so much-like the weather you can try to predict what it does but should you think that you have a gaurenteed that on a given day it will not rain(or storm) you are in for one rude awakening after another. All you can really do is enjoy the ride while it lasts and thank who ever it is that you thank for such things. I am writting from Bali these days after a fun filled week in Bangkok and here the scene is not so clear. Many of the local women are available-not for a set price but some sort of support is often expected. And they are lovly women-the economics simply dictate this sort of relationship. I enjoy the intimacy here more yet a skilled SP can give me the same intimacy if I am able to receive it as it comes-in each moment. One second( or nano-second)into the imagined futer and all is lost. Exciting.
Falling in love with an SP?
You gotta be kidding right? Guys check your head (the big one). She's doing it for cash.
You're a man, not a woman, so put your feelings in check. Sympathy, empathy, compassion, warmth, ... yeah ok these are all fine, just don't fall for her. A woman can feel all those things and still not fall in love with the man. Don't even begin to fall for her unless she starts giving you sex for free.
You gotta be kidding right? Guys check your head (the big one). She's doing it for cash.
You're a man, not a woman, so put your feelings in check. Sympathy, empathy, compassion, warmth, ... yeah ok these are all fine, just don't fall for her. A woman can feel all those things and still not fall in love with the man. Don't even begin to fall for her unless she starts giving you sex for free.
a little bit ironic?
Falling in love with an SP?
Isn't that why guys see SP in the first place? For gratuitous s_x without the emotional committment? As Saffire clearly put it - that is what an SP is paid to do, to make you feel good and have the best mind blowing s_x of your life.
Falling in love with an SP?
Isn't that why guys see SP in the first place? For gratuitous s_x without the emotional committment? As Saffire clearly put it - that is what an SP is paid to do, to make you feel good and have the best mind blowing s_x of your life.
I’ve been observing this board for a while now and I think I finally have something worthwhile to contribute to the topic. I have been out of the hobby for a time now, and have had thoughts about getting back into it as my personal life allows it.
The last relationship I had with a SP had her quitting the biz and becoming my girlfriend for three years, and we are still the best of friends. Some of my other experiences with SPs that have been repeats have many times ended up with us becoming good friends outside the business aspects of our relationship.
Because of the close relationships I have had around this business I have been hesitant about jumping back into things because I have been spoiled by some fantastic relationships by some incredible ladies. Just my 2 cents about fond memories of some great ladies.
The last relationship I had with a SP had her quitting the biz and becoming my girlfriend for three years, and we are still the best of friends. Some of my other experiences with SPs that have been repeats have many times ended up with us becoming good friends outside the business aspects of our relationship.
Because of the close relationships I have had around this business I have been hesitant about jumping back into things because I have been spoiled by some fantastic relationships by some incredible ladies. Just my 2 cents about fond memories of some great ladies.
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Once again Saffire summarizes her point succinctly. In short gentlemen.... remember... you are buying a service which, sometimes, is delivered very artfully - both technically and in presentation.
Too well for some men because they loose themselves in it and assume that there is more to it than what it is.
I think this is what Henry Flowers means when he says to remember, "she is selling it to the next guy". HF is trying to remind those consumed within the blissful service they are receiving to remember that the girl is not falling for you, she is "doing her job and, apparently, doing it very well".
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Bonus comment for Saffire:
Did you hear about the SP with a PHD in psychology?
For $100... she'll blow your mind!
Oh... and there she goes again... being attractive AND intelligent!Saffire said:It's not an 'act'. She's not deceiving you. She's not playing you. She's doing what you pay her to do. She's doing her job, and apparently she's doing it very well.
Once again Saffire summarizes her point succinctly. In short gentlemen.... remember... you are buying a service which, sometimes, is delivered very artfully - both technically and in presentation.
Too well for some men because they loose themselves in it and assume that there is more to it than what it is.
I think this is what Henry Flowers means when he says to remember, "she is selling it to the next guy". HF is trying to remind those consumed within the blissful service they are receiving to remember that the girl is not falling for you, she is "doing her job and, apparently, doing it very well".
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Bonus comment for Saffire:
Did you hear about the SP with a PHD in psychology?
For $100... she'll blow your mind!
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Hey Spaceghost,
Trying to detach yourself from an SP that offers a real experience is easier said then done. Since you a spectator in this hobby, I challenge you to go out and see one of the great courtesans and see if you can deflect and repress your emotions.
Trying to detach yourself from an SP that offers a real experience is easier said then done. Since you a spectator in this hobby, I challenge you to go out and see one of the great courtesans and see if you can deflect and repress your emotions.
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What will she do for $200?spaceghost said:
I didn't expect that many of you would share similar experiences. Now my question is if the sp you had feelings for were to give you a chance to take things further would you? Sex with no money being exchanged, no time limits, and a true GFE sounds good but nothing is free.
Let's say you guys started a relationship with an sp and she no longer charged you. Would you stop paying other sps for sex? Would it be considered bad etiquette to pay someone else for sex while getting free sex from an sp? I don't have the good fortune of having an sp look at me as anything other than a client but I was curious about what you guys thought.
Let's say you guys started a relationship with an sp and she no longer charged you. Would you stop paying other sps for sex? Would it be considered bad etiquette to pay someone else for sex while getting free sex from an sp? I don't have the good fortune of having an sp look at me as anything other than a client but I was curious about what you guys thought.
spk, well said. The sp I have a thing for would fit into any social situation very well. She's very smart and attractive. I still wonder how I'll feel if somebody recognized her if we were out together though.
spk 106, sorry but have to disagree because I do not think that where you meet someone (in or out of the business) will determine if you have a reasonable chance of having a relationship. I realize that there are SOME differences but essentially you are saying that one can never date a Safeway cashier unless you originally meet her outside of Safeway. Then again, it hasn't happened for me so far so perhaps you're on to something. I have met some ladies in the business who I would go out with and it isn't the ones that a lot of guys might guess (DDs, etc). It's the sweethearts.
