Hmm, the number of that phone is kinda posted up on a couple of rather racy websites. I'm pretty sure it's posted in a few places on this particular site. If she wasn't prepared to talk shop, maybe not answering the work phone would have been an option.
What do you mean jpr comming on to perb was way after the fact? She posted the very same day.
And really,if you want to be more accurate about who communicated the "personal contact information" to the SO, it was Jessica herself when she sent the pic/text to my phone which was charging in my garage. The info wouldn't have been there if she hadn't have sent it.
It kinda gets a bit less clear when you look at it that way. (<---that would look way more dramatic if I knew how to write in those large colorful letters like you use SeekSteady)
Regardless of whether "the number of that phone" is posted all over the world, the means through which your wife acquired the number was not in line with those who might wish to do business and dial Jessica for sex. Nor was it a purely random prank phone call done by a group of teenagers in Poughkeepsie. Your wife dialed that number specifically to engage in conversation a woman whom she thought you were boffing, or might be very soon.
Any phone communication between the two of you - seemingly regular client/provider - is well within the bounds of "mutual discretion". Once
YOU let Jessica's number go beyond your closed circle of two, in direct violation of that understood pact of mutual discretion, then anything that happens to you in this case is on your shoulders, and not hers.
What you are doing now is akin to trying to take it out on a street walker who leaves a condom wrapper in your vehicle when your wife borrows the car and finds the wrapper. In a perfect world the girls would always take the wrapper with them and dispose of it, but at some point the condom wrapper in the car becomes your responsibility in the eyes of your wife.
Had the same mythical street-walking working girl left a bag of cocaine in your car, and had the police been the ones to find it instead of your wife, do you really imagine you would be able to play this game of suggesting somebody else is more guilty than you are?
Admittedly there is some bizzarre sense of entitlement felt by the married men who keep this business thriving, and that sort of stupidity is what gives any traction at all to your arguments and has all of these clowns chiming in and trying to support your lost cause.
Looking back on your posts... you've not been active in this biz for too long, and I truly hope there is still room for you to return to civilian life without being further drawn-in by the underworld in which we all circulate. I hope that you can remove your intense focus from JR and apply that energy to repairing things at home.