i just go with the flow. follow your heart . if it feels right or not
my mom on the other hand likes to get involved in my relationship affairs. she tells me to find a gf/wife that can provide value to me and the family( smarter than me, better career than me, mentor to me, guide me through life , traditional mindset and wants a daughter in law who can cook and clean , comes from a family that also owns a home-similar in class/wealth or higher) .
not easy as one ages it gets harder to find someone . im in my 40s.