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Do the nerves ever go away?

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I've been enjoying this hobby for awhile and only recently started posting. I always get nervous - from the moment I call and book, to anticipating my appointment. I don't usually do pre-books because it's so much anticipation for me and on the go is usually better. I have also found that old spice OG works best for me - every time - and I always shower before and after appointment on site. To be honest, I think I like the rush and thrill of it all even if it makes me sweat hahaha.

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You might try scentless antiperspirant vs. deodorant. Just a dab under each pit. Then Splash on a little baby powder with your hands, over the antiperspirant to help keep things dry.

On the trip over, play some calming music, take long slow breathes, smile at everyone elso on the road. Use positive mental imagery about the upcoming session. Think about rainbow unicorns playing in the clouds.

Embrace a little nervousness. Ask yourself why are you feeling nervous? Likely because you care, and want to make a good impression. That’s a good thing, right? If I am not a little bit nervous about a date, then I would be missing the magic about it. Happy anticipation. Enjoy it.

Then knock ever so gently on the door, smile, and enjoy your magic time together.
PuntMeister - I don't know what your day job is, but you should be either a therapist or a life coach! Let me know when you hang out your shingle!!
 

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Meh. You all must be incredibly young, say no later than in your 30 years old? My take is that unless you're heading to an orgy, in a shady place, or you're with your buddy having a cuckhold, it seems only the young guys get the nerves. Then again, most guys, with few exceptions have pre-existing mental health issues and are seeing an escort as a form of "therapy". Hell, most guys have mental health issues even if they don't see an escort, lol.
 
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Meh. You all must be incredibly young, say no later than in your 30 years old? My take is that unless you're heading to an orgy, in a shady place, or you're with your buddy having a cuckhold, it seems only the young guys get the nerves. Then again, most guys, with few exceptions have pre-existing mental health issues and are seeing an escort as a form of "therapy". Hell, most guys have mental health issues even if they don't see an escort, lol.
This is not true. It’s totally normal to feel nervous when you’re getting naked with a stranger for the first time. My experience is about 60% are a bit nervous to a lot nervous. I had a gentleman in his 70s shaking like a leaf. Although that person was a widow who had only been with his wife for 30 years. Nerves at any age is 100% normal. Some people might be better at hiding it than others. But it’s most definitely not an age thing.
 
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Meh. You all must be incredibly young, say no later than in your 30 years old? My take is that unless you're heading to an orgy, in a shady place, or you're with your buddy having a cuckhold, it seems only the young guys get the nerves. Then again, most guys, with few exceptions have pre-existing mental health issues and are seeing an escort as a form of "therapy". Hell, most guys have mental health issues even if they don't see an escort, lol.
If you arent feeling the rush anymore than it may be you that need to consider therapy.

Im in my mid 30s and i get jitters every time i go. My life experience has taught me however, to embrace the anticipation, rather than to see it as a bad thing.
 

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If you arent feeling the rush anymore than it may be you that need to consider therapy.

Im in my mid 30s and i get jitters every time i go. My life experience has taught me however, to embrace the anticipation, rather than to see it as a bad thing.
Thank you for proving my point, Doctor Doogie! Funny how you're twisting things to justify your jitters. I never said anything about a rush. But hey, carry on like the Lounge on perb is some kind of Reddit sub.
 

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Then again, most guys, with few exceptions have pre-existing mental health issues and are seeing an escort as a form of "therapy". Hell, most guys have mental health issues even if they don't see an escort, lol.
You make statements like that and turn around and call me a doctor. You're a funny dude.
 
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I might leave somebody in the hall forever if they knock gently. Don’t knock like a cop! But there’s usually music on so knock so somebody can hear you. Although my dog never misses a knock hahahaha
Reminds me of the famous Bob Dylan song!!
 

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Thank you for proving my point, Doctor Doogie! Funny how you're twisting things to justify your jitters. I never said anything about a rush. But hey, carry on like the Lounge on perb is some kind of Reddit sub.
Why are you picking on and judging fellow pooners but ignoring what I said that disproves what you said. I think I would know better than you about how often people of all ages are nervous.
 

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PuntMeister - I don't know what your day job is, but you should be either a therapist or a life coach! Let me know when you hang out your shingle!!
Why thank you for the compliment there FMR. Good to hear some +ve karma on the board.

Certainly my business transformation and training careeer has included many life coaching elements along the way. Withdrew my shingle when I retired so that I can spend more “quality time” hanging out on Perb & the exciting underbelly of the society, including conspiracy theories, nostalgia, quantum physics, and the dark web.

A therapist is not an option for this old cranky dude, because I am a bit naive and take things too literally. You see therapist is made up from two words:
The___Rapist.

so there’s that! 🤪
 

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I think your nervousness is endearing and I take it as a compliment. It means you’re excited to see me and maybe you think I’m pretty. Your awkwardness is cute too.

Don’t worry about what we think. I can’t speak for everybody of course but I would think most pros in this business are totally ok with your humanness
I'm not sure about "most"; maybe "some" or "few" if you're more pessimistic. I think most SPs see us as a walking bag of money and they go through the motions like any other job so there is no emotion or human element unless you're a total asshole of a client.

That's great OP that you still feel that anticipation. Nowadays I'm put off by pooning. The constant bait and switches, non-responsiveness, lateness, scams you have to look out for, lacklustre service... having a sugar baby was more fun, but I'll still step out to see a well reviewed escort or get a rub and tug. After 2 visits when I know a girl is reliable, and delivers a good time, I feel the excitement and anticipation again.
 
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I think most SPs see us as a walking bag of money and they go through the motions like any other job
As oppose to what though? This is a business and theyre providers for a service. Every provider of any service will see their client as revenue. What differentiate them from similar providers is how they render that service.

The girls are human too, with real emotions. As long as theyre not jaded, i would bet a majority of them will empathize and work with anxious clients. Its in their best interest to do so.

If youre looking for deeper connections than that though, you're in the wrong place
 
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I'm not sure about "most"; maybe "some" or "few" if you're more pessimistic. I think most SPs see us as a walking bag of money and they go through the motions like any other job so there is no emotion or human element unless you're a total asshole of a client.
In the above scenario, she is still not caring if he’s nervous or not. Even if she’s just about the money, she still doesn’t judge his nervousness.

My point was and is, is that’s it’s a bigger deal to him than it is to any pro.
 
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