Being someone who used to date and live with a Courtesan for over 7 years, I'll say go for it and tell your potential partner in the beginning before both sides got too emotionally involved. If he was good with it like I was(after a lot of sleepless nights and soul searching and decided that my love for her was deeper than her line of work), then it will turn out to be a great relationship. We still talked about our work days but not in details about the clients or what they did. It was more on personal safety and emotional support. It sounds easy for this line of work but in fact, it is the opposite because not every client is a nice gentleman. As a partner, you also need to make her feel comfortable enough to express her feeling and frustration. Intimacy was excellent and the most important thing is for both to agree on a particular service that she will never provide to a client but just her partner. Be it a DFK or whatever else... because that will give you the feeling and also reinforce the emotional security that there is still something reserved just for her and you and instead of sharing everything at work. In my experience, I found that a SP SO is way more loyal in a relationship (100% monogamous outside of work) than normal women. Because she already had her fills of men at work and there is no need to have an affair or what not.
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I once had someone wait a month before telling me she had a son. She explained that at first she just thought it would be like most dating and didn’t really think it would go as far as her liking me more than the usual just dating around, but after a month she felt we might be seeing each other for a while and now felt it was a good idea to put it out there and make sure I was ok w it before continuing. It made sense .
Why tell someone if you really don’t know if its going to go somewhere.
While I think a month might be a little long I would say if after 3 dates if things seem to be going well, then it’s probably a good time.
In reality I don’t think it was intentional, however unintentional, was also crafty because after a month if you’re still seeing someone thats about the time you’re likely just starting to warm up to them and more willing to let things slide.
Why tell someone if you really don’t know if its going to go somewhere.
While I think a month might be a little long I would say if after 3 dates if things seem to be going well, then it’s probably a good time.
In reality I don’t think it was intentional, however unintentional, was also crafty because after a month if you’re still seeing someone thats about the time you’re likely just starting to warm up to them and more willing to let things slide.
Heck of a lot better than telling you after a month, OH by the way you'll need to leave when my husband gets back from xyz trip.
If they are looking for a longterm relationship, you should tell them. the vast majority of guys would not want to consider a sex worker for a longterm relationship.
Even if its for something more casual, It would probably annoy them to know that they have to put in way more effort , while other guys just toss a couple hundred dollars at you and get the sex easier.
Its also embarrassing to be seen on a date with a sex worker, and bad for the guys reputation.
They are also gonna find out eventually.
Woman want a man with a future.
Men want a woman without a past.
Projection much? I'd personally be ecstatic if a sex worker wanted to date me lmfao. Speak for yourself please.
I think you might want to look up the definition of projection.
I dont know a single guy who has his shit together and who has options who would want to date a sex worker. Its usually the first dealbreaker after obesity men will state.
have you had sex or a relationship with a woman outside of this hobby? 😂
okey doeky then.....(crosses musclebro off the list for potential husbands)
I guess you don't know a lot of people?
i guess you think quite highly of yourself to be so "above" sex workers...I have been in my current relationship for 20 years...and before that 10 years with another man who I am still friends with to this day...
I find it difficult that you seem so judgemental yet not so judgemental as to prevent you from purchasing our services...?
bizarre
How am I being judgemental? I love sex workers. just dont want a longterm relationship with them
Do you not think men should be allowed standards and preferences?
Seems like you have a problem with mens consent 🤮
Lol exactly, imagine spending this much time and money on women you think are too "beneath" you for a relationship. It's very strange lol.
I never said they were beneath me. I just dont want to date one. dunno why it triggers you so much 😂 .
honest question: how is it any different than when a woman wants to have a one night stand with the guy who is broke and dumb but he is tall , handsome jacked and has a 6 pack. but when she wants to settle down for a relationship she wants a man who is smart, stable, and wealthy? do you get upset at woman who do that? because thats like 99% of woman I went to college with haha.
I guess im just saying that people tend to have different standards for who they will have sex with vs. who they want a longterm relationship with.
I wouldnt want a relationship with a sex worker either. Their lifestyle doesnt line up with mine. I also value monogamy and a woman who isnt promiscuous. is it a double standard? sure. but it hasnt negatively effected my dating life having that double standard.
Already said a lot about this topic and ultimately telling the truth is the best course of action but timing matters. Telling too early before other side knows you as a person, or telling too late that when other person or you are too invested in the relationship, both are having consequences.
Im always curious with these sorts of relationships. were you monogamous to her? or were you also allowed to have sex on the side aswell?
Because words and actions are far apart in this world. The philosophy is applicable when it's for others.
Monogamous... a g/f who works as a SP can actually be quite jealous though we thought it might be the opposite being her in that line of work. But the trade-off is that they are usually extremely loyal and trustworthy. What I meant is they won't go out or fuck some guys for one nighter behind your back besides when she is working. Whereas normal girls these days can go to bed with us tonight and then go out with some dude tomorrow morning when we are at work! Like I said before, in order to differentiate the relationship to "work", both parties have to agree on something that she will never do with clients no matter the money... be it DFK, Greek... CIM... whatever! This way, you know when you and her are together and doing it, you know for sure that is just for YOU and YOU only and she is not treating you like one of the tricks (yeah harsh word but it is true).
I have in the past and we broke up because she relocated for school and I cannot handle distance. Like I said, projection....you assume things about me based on my beliefs, and your own feelings. I would date any lady I have an attraction to regardless of profession; what is far more relevant to me is our chemistry. I just don't fool myself into genuinely believing that a woman I sought out exclusively for the purposes of paying for sex, has any real romantic feelings for me lol.
Out of curiosity, if you prefer not to answer, it's fine. Do you support her financially?
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