Do I have an anger management problem or were my outbursts justified?

[Prince#3]

There is this girl that I have been going to quite regularly. Then one time, she told me she was sick and couldn't see me. But I saw her kept posting ads on Leolist and I got pissed and wrote angry messages at her. Later she explained to me certain type of session is doable even when she was sick.

Another time, I got there to her place on time, but she didn't answer her buzzer. She said there must be something wrong with the buzzer or something. She didn't offer to do a session at a later time. Didn't offer any compensation for making me wait outside in front of her apartment for 20 minutes. And I wrote angry messages at her again.

Do I have an anger management problem or were my outbursts justified?

 

[wetnose]

I think you have a rejection problem.

If she kept posting ads and didn't want to book you, you should have taken a hint...and moved on.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

As an SP, I'll just say this. I BLOCK after the first angry outburst.

 

[Stamkos]

It's soley her choice if she wants to see you or not.
While not direct, she's still sent you a pretty clear message, move on man...

 

[Cock Throppled]

So, you thought sending angry messages to her would improve your chances of her wanting to see you?

Yeah, women love that.

 

[P_e_r_b]

I'd let you know... but my keybrsx covfefe ...right now.

Sorry, but putting on my Freud impression, I'd say you are getting too "close" and she's cutting it off. You're angry because of the same reason. Emotions are starting to get involved. Remember the first rule of pooning. :cool-new:

 

[sdw]

There is this girl that I have been going to quite regularly. Then one time, she told me she was sick and couldn't see me. But I saw her kept posting ads on Leolist and I got pissed and wrote angry messages at her. Later she explained to me certain type of session is doable even when she was sick.

Another time, I got there to her place on time, but she didn't answer her buzzer. She said there must be something wrong with the buzzer or something. She didn't offer to do a session at a later time. Didn't offer any compensation for making me wait outside in front of her apartment for 20 minutes. And I wrote angry messages at her again.

Do I have an anger management problem or were my outbursts justified?

The fact that a woman is willing to have sex for money with some men doesn't mean that she MUST have sex with you. Just find a woman that is willing to have sex with you. If a woman is having sex for money, the last thing she wants to deal with is an angry man who thinks that he's entitled to have sex with her. You definitely have an anger management problem. She knows it and doesn't want to be assaulted. If she wants an angry man in a "wife beater" to beat her - it's not hard for her to find one.

 

[golferjohn]

Do I have an anger management problem

This falls under the 'if you have to ask...' category

 

[Avery]

Several explanations come to mind for her continued advertising despite being "sick".. None of them justify an angry outburst from you.

1. Her monthly visitor arrived unexpectedly, so FS was off the table, but oral was not. She knew you wanted FS. Some people, even SPs, don't like to talk about such personal things.
2. A cold sore popped up suddenly, so she had to take time off.
3. She really didn't feel well. She could still have been taking bookings for later that week in anticipation of feeling better.
4. She doesn't like you, but didn't want to be confrontational. If that's the case, I will concede that she should have just said she didn't want to see you again without any explanation. It happens.

As for her non-response to the buzzer, why didn't you phone her rather than stew for 20 minutes? Instead, it made you look like a no-show.

Don't get angry. Just take your business elsewhere.

 

[felixthecat]

Do I have an anger management problem or were my outbursts justified?

You have a problem or two.

Being angry doesn't solve anything. Maybe if you are unhappy with the service at a restaurant, you can get a free meal. With an SP, it's more personal and her safety is at stake. Being angry will get you blacklisted, even if you are a regular.
You have to accept she has her reasons (right or wrong) to go ahead with the session or not, and it's under her control not yours. If you feel your business is not valued, you should stop seeing her before the anger takes over you.

There are also unrealistic expectations. A compensation for waiting her outside? Not realistic.
It sounds you are partially to blame for that one. Didn't you think in advance to have another communication channel (phone/email)? Buzzers do break or get misconfigured once in a while.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

The fact that a woman is willing to have sex for money with some men doesn't mean that she MUST have sex with you. Just find a woman that is willing to have sex with you. If a woman is having sex for money, the last thing she wants to deal with is an angry man who thinks that he's entitled to have sex with her. You definitely have an anger management problem. She knows it and doesn't want to be assaulted. If she wants an angry man in a "wife beater" to beat her - it's not hard for her to find one.

THIS. So much this.

 

[ParadiseChaser]

There is this girl that I have been going to quite regularly. Then one time, she told me she was sick and couldn't see me. But I saw her kept posting ads on Leolist and I got pissed and wrote angry messages at her. Later she explained to me certain type of session is doable even when she was sick.

Another time, I got there to her place on time, but she didn't answer her buzzer. She said there must be something wrong with the buzzer or something. She didn't offer to do a session at a later time. Didn't offer any compensation for making me wait outside in front of her apartment for 20 minutes. And I wrote angry messages at her again.

Do I have an anger management problem or were my outbursts justified?

You are not her boyfriend. The only logical reply you should have made to her saying "I am sick, can't see you" is "hope you feel better, don't worry we can reschedule to another time".

 

[JonnyBoi]

You overreacted. I wonder how old you are (not just physically, but mentally and emotionally), because you seem to be unable to handle life not going your way all the time. Not trying to pass judgement or anything but once you've faced enough rejection in the world and have opportunities taken away, or losing some family member to some accidents/diseases I hope you will grow to be more patient and mature.

I'd echo what others have said in that you're lucky this SP still sees you at all. No one is obligated to be there during your "growing up" years.

PS: you don't have to go through hardships to grow up. Read a book or watch some movies and grow empathy organically via those routes if you prefer. Seeking sympathy or agreement after you (by self-admission) stated you were being an ass will not get you anywhere.

Good luck.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

You are not her boyfriend. The only logical reply you should have made to her saying "I am sick, can't see you" is "hope you feel better, don't worry we can reschedule to another time".

YES! I cannot even tell you how many times I've heard "Are you sure babe? All you'd have to do is lie there...?" after telling someone I'm ill. SUCH a turnoff.

 

[badbadboy]

There is this girl that I have been going to quite regularly. Then one time, she told me she was sick and couldn't see me. But I saw her kept posting ads on Leolist and I got pissed and wrote angry messages at her. Later she explained to me certain type of session is doable even when she was sick.

Another time, I got there to her place on time, but she didn't answer her buzzer. She said there must be something wrong with the buzzer or something. She didn't offer to do a session at a later time. Didn't offer any compensation for making me wait outside in front of her apartment for 20 minutes. And I wrote angry messages at her again.

Do I have an anger management problem or were my outbursts justified?

1. Do you really want to see someone that said she really didn't want to work at the moment? Personally, I appreciate the info because lame appointments suck and it's a waste of $. Don't forget some SP have their ads on leolist auto bumping even if they are sick and haven't stopped the ad.

2. Angry texts are just wrong. You can't recover from it and she will pigeon hole you as an asshole on her "blacklist". The behaviour does stop me to wonder if you are similar in person or just plain angry behind your phone screen? Maybe get a referral to a counselling service to explore this anger issue?

3. I'm guessing you never book with your forum name because this one is burnt to hell now

 

[t44]

i had a similar situation(didn't send any angry texts though) with Alexandra(formerly known as Angelina from WCA). but i found a similar and better girl so i totally forgot about her. i wonder if shes still around.

 

[Officeguy]

I had a illness cause a last minute cancel of our appointment once but she was still willing to try if I really wanted...my answer was I hope you feel better soon, I treasure my moment of time with a lady and I can only enjoy if she is enjoying as well.....I look at any time with a lady I am with ....as our time...all part of my fantasy....and if she is ill there is no way I would enjoy meeting anyway when she is struggling. I fully expect she may continue advertising,she does have other days to book up after all.

 

[sybian]

Dude........I have anger management problems, and have had court ordered counciling.
My anger was directed at someone who had killed my property, and my livelihood.....and they were armed, and reached for that weapon when I appeared out of the trees......I was controlled and calm when I smashed his face in with a rifle stock.
I looked at it as an act of self defence,......the Court felt they had to do something, as I'm trained in conflict management between Nations.
I went to counciling , and found that I'm very passive and forgiving, until threatened.....The small stuff I'll let slide every time....Let the small shit go, and don't appear as a potential stalker with a restraining order in your near future.
From one guy to another.......nobody is obligated to have sex with you, for whatever reason, with or without funds being exchanged......Pick your battles.

 

[take8easy]

Two things.

1. This OP has two posts before this one. He comes in, posts something and seems like we all are going more blue, black, purple, green and red than even he probably did. I found that funny.

2. You were canceled, I have been canceled, SP's cancel, Clients don't show up. Seems like this is part of business. Guess what, I was cancelled MID SESSION by an SP. (You know who you are sweetheart). But we both understood it clearly. But we met again and had a blast.

I do not know how long OP has been in this hobby,( in fact I would like to read more about his experiences) but dealing with rejection certainly does not seem to be his strong suit.
Stop hiding being, "Oh, I have anger issues." Grow up and snap out of it. You are not living in your parents' basement anymore. You are an adult, hopefully, so act like one.

 

[sybian]

Two things.

1. This OP has two posts before this one. He comes in, posts something and seems like we all are going more blue, black, purple, green and red than even he probably did. I found that funny.

2. You were canceled, I have been canceled, SP's cancel, Clients don't show up. Seems like this is part of business. Guess what, I was cancelled MID SESSION by an SP. (You know who you are sweetheart). But we both understood it clearly. But we met again and had a blast.

I do not know how long OP has been in this hobby,( in fact I would like to read more about his experiences) but dealing with rejection certainly does not seem to be his strong suit.
Stop hiding being, "Oh, I have anger issues." Grow up and snap out of it. You are not living in your parents' basement anymore. You are an adult, hopefully, so act like one.

We assume he's not living in his parents basement.