So, I've been having this issue with DATY/vulva stuff in sessions. I like an EXTREMELY light touch: soft licks with tongue makes me come super fast. Maybe like 70% of clients who go down on me are rough, push extremely hard on my clit, SUCK on my clit super hard, use their teeth sometimes, push their thumb on my clit in cowgirl, use their fingers aggressively on my clit, etc. I tend to say something like "can you go a bit lighter please?" or "careful, there's lots of nerve endings down there!" Maybe they'll get lighter for a bit, but not for long, or not enough. Another one clients do is continuing to lick my clit directly after I come even if I pull away, I had a client literally clamp on my legs with his arms and keep going as I jerked away so hard that I lifted him off his back, and I had to YELL "stop stop stop" multiple times before he finally got the hint (a huge turn off, obviously)...it gets very sensitive right after I come and I need a break!
Anyways, I've had experiences in the past where I've asked multiple times for guys to adjust/go lighter/try to teach them what I like and they've become exasperated or stopped doing it at all (this is not the goal, I LOVE being eaten). Any tips for how to communicate what I like in the moment without ruining the moment? HELP ME, OH MEN OF PERB
I once visited a young woman in this biz who needed to have an ultra-light touch with a tongue to even handle daty, and while I would... over time, adjust to that in a long-term partner, it was such a regretful trait in a working girl who I saw only once.
I think that if/given you've conditioned yourself to (show the amount of vulnerability needed to participate in this business as a woman), that the
very direct conversation you'd need to have with a prospective long-term lover can be shared with a client
to the extent needed to convey precisely what YOU need as an individual to gain the most from oral sex done upon you.
At the end of the day, it isn't the depths of your cervix, or your discomfort because of their roughness that delights men who have in common the desire to dine on your goodies... it is
your sharing the vulnerability that is your will to climax before their eyes. Deep down, I don't think they believe themselves to be Adonis's, OR that their suave magic with their tongue is universally delightful to all pussies in precisely the same way.
BUT it DOES take some of YOUR directness to convey the precision YOU as an individual NEED to fulfill their interest in seeing you climax.
Furthermore, a good number of the men who see you professionally haven't likely licked as many pussies as you might think. (for so many in this biz being averse to allowing it, and for so many men in this biz having zero interest in that, AND for so many men in this biz NOT being very 'experienced' at all, let alone with DATY)
to SOME, your pussy is merely a PIE in a great PIE-eating contest (just like the many pies they've seen-but-never-touched in porn)... so they are indulging for THEM... (minus your direct and unique-ish-to-you instructions/guidance).
It's just one more aspect of your vulnerability that men are paying to witness.
But practice this communication... it could be great practice for future lovers in your civilian life.
PS - the quoted statements you cite above are those that are fitting for the random teen girl in the random car with a high school boy.
YOU as an adult, with a lot of investment IN your environs, should probably be more direct
before the fun starts.
Being GUIDED by a woman toward HER pleasure is an amazing bit of vulnerability to witness... and those most eager to dine on your charms WILL respond favorably to your earlier/immediate efforts in that way.