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This article shows that there Women outnumber men in Victoria which is one of the most female-heavy cities in Canada. but there are way more single men than single women. Why? The article does not provide an explanation for this.
 

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This article shows that there Women outnumber men in Victoria which is one of the most female-heavy cities in Canada. but there are way more single men than single women. Why? The article does not provide an explanation for this.
Their methodology is deeply flawed - they define "single" as someone who is not married or in a common law relationship. So what they are saying is if you are not married you are single, therefore, if you are in a non-married, non-common law relationship (i.e. dating someone) they consider that single. With such an arbitrary definition of "single" (and that definition by any reasonable standard is woefully inaccurate) this article actually tells you nothing about the actual number of single people in Victoria. Think about it, if I define "a nice person" to be a person whose natural hair colour is neon green - I can theoretically write an article about how there are no nice people in the world: and technically, based on my arbitrary definition of "a nice person" I would be correct!
 
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Their methodology is deeply flawed - they define "single" as someone who is not married or in a common law relationship. So what they are saying is if you are not married you are single, therefore, if you are in a non-married, non-common law relationship (i.e. dating someone) they consider that single. With such an arbitrary definition of "single" (and that definition by any reasonable standard is woefully inaccurate) this article actually tells you nothing about the actual number of single people in Victoria. Think about it, if I define "a nice person" to be a person whose natural hair colour is neon green - I can theoretically write an article about how there are no nice people in the world: and technically, based on my arbitrary definition of "a nice person" I would be correct!
Actually it's based on official statistics by government of Canada census 2016. That was the exact question asked to respondents in official government forms.
 

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Actually it's based on official statistics by government of Canada census 2016. That was the exact question asked to respondents in official government forms.
I'm not disputing the source of their data. I'm saying it is unreasonable to consider all non-married people as being single. By defining a single person as someone who is not married (which the article is doing) the article in fact is not measuring "single" people in Victoria of a certain age group - they are in fact measuring non-married people in Victoria of a certain age group. If you actually look at the 2016 Victoria, BC census data...


they do not track "single" people. They track things such as "never married", "widowed", "separated", "divorced", "married" and "living common-law." The census apparently does not track if someone is in a relationship other than married or not. Therefore, the author of this article, could not actually get at data indicating how many people in Victoria of a certain age group are "single" and so he/she applied an arbitrary definition of single, as per the article " with 'single' being defined as anyone not married nor in a common law partnership." That definition is purely arbitrary (and by most reasonable standards not correct). In fact, if you look at the StatsCan data, nowhere does StatsCan define what "single" is. Again, this article is tracking non-married people of a certain age group in Victoria, NOT single people. It's only tracking single people if you truly believe "single" means simply being not married - if you believe that, so be it!
 
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I'm not disputing the source of their data. I'm saying it is unreasonable to consider all non-married people as being single. By defining a single person as someone who is not married (which the article is doing) the article in fact is not measuring "single" people in Victoria of a certain age group - they are in fact measuring non-married people in Victoria of a certain age group. If you actually look at the 2016 Victoria, BC census data...


they do not track "single" people. They track things such as "never married", "widowed", "separated", "divorced", "married" and "living common-law." The census apparently does not track if someone is in a relationship other than married or not. Therefore, the author of this article, could not actually get at data indicating how many people in Victoria of a certain age group are "single" and so he/she applied an arbitrary definition of single, as per the article " with 'single' being defined as anyone not married nor in a common law partnership." That definition is purely arbitrary (and by most reasonable standards not correct). In fact, if you look at the StatsCan data, nowhere does StatsCan define what "single" is. Again, this article is tracking non-married people of a certain age group in Victoria, NOT single people. It's only tracking single people if you truly believe "single" means simply being not married - if you believe that, so be it!
Ok it's tracking couples who live together ( married or common-law). Any explanation why more women live with a partner than men?
Possible reasons:
1- More lesbian women than gay men living together
2-Polygamy or men living with multiple female partners?
 

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Keep in mind that single men can just change their partners every week and stay on their own. And they are happy with it, if they are not ready for a relationship, and partners are only needed for sex. That is why such statistics are available. I don't want a serious relationship anytime soon, but I want to enjoy guys. I'm just looking for adult dating . I think that later I will grow up and find a serious relationship to build a family, but I don't think about it yet. I think the guys in Victoria think the same way, ha ha ha. Why not, in our time this is normal, I believe that everyone should enjoy life and think first of themselves
 
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This article shows that there Women outnumber men in Victoria which is one of the most female-heavy cities in Canada. but there are way more single men than single women. Why? The article does not provide an explanation for this.
Take a good look at the age groups. There're more women than men in all age groups over the age of 40.

However, this is not the case for age groups 20-39, which is the prime dating age. Men outnumber women in those age groups.
 

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Everyone perceives meeting differently. Someone feels lonely in a couple, and someone is happy being alone. I definitely cannot be alone for a long time and I like to get acquainted. Thanks to the chat, I met my girlfriend https://isexychat.com/chatrooms/live-chat/ Communication on the network still brings you closer and you can better understand and get to know a person.
 
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What I gather from the data is that women in Victoria are busy dating each other until 40, and which point it flips and all the men start dating each other.

Did I get it right?
My take is that the women start killing off the men when then they turn 40.
 
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A 47 year old friend of mine is beautiful, successful, and has her shit together. Has a great job, owns her own home, is not insane, and has a cool 17 year old son and a German shepherd she adores.
She likes all kinds of guys - doesn’t have a ‘type’ per sense - but man or man is she ever having a hard time meeting a good guy. She’s been on a million 1st/2nd dates and could write a best seller on the shit that men pull on her .
It’s unreal.
She would be a terrific catch.
I share for those of you looking to date in Victoria - there are good ones - GREAT ones- out there.
Just be sure you have your shit together: )
 

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its pretty simple... women who are in common law relationships identify themselves as such. men who are in common law relationships identify themselves as single. dogs.
 
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A 47 year old friend of mine is beautiful, successful, and has her shit together. Has a great job, owns her own home, is not insane, and has a cool 17 year old son and a German shepherd she adores.
She likes all kinds of guys - doesn’t have a ‘type’ per sense - but man or man is she ever having a hard time meeting a good guy. She’s been on a million 1st/2nd dates and could write a best seller on the shit that men pull on her .
It’s unreal.
She would be a terrific catch.
I share for those of you looking to date in Victoria - there are good ones - GREAT ones- out there.
Just be sure you have your shit together: )
She’s dating guys out of her league. She thinks she should be able to long term the type of guy that will fuck her. But guys will fuck anything and it has little bearing on what she can attract long term. The reality is she’s two decades past her prime and has a kid. Quality guys don’t care about a female owning a house or not nor her career.

And she’s bad news for a guy that goes into a relationship with because her ego will think she can do better than him because of the long list of first and second date guys that she think she deserves.
 
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I had to read that dangerousdan reply a few times as I thought wow, what are the chances of two pooners knowing the same woman and having completely different views of her.

I mean one guy has this friend who sounds to me like exactly the kind of woman I would want to be hooking up with regularly. And the other guy sees her as being way past her prime, out of her league and bad news.

Just so confusing as to which pooner to believe :)
 

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I had to read that dangerousdan reply a few times as I thought wow, what are the chances of two pooners knowing the same woman and having completely different views of her.

I mean one guy has this friend who sounds to me like exactly the kind of woman I would want to be hooking up with regularly. And the other guy sees her as being way past her prime, out of her league and bad news.

Just so confusing as to which pooner to believe :)
This is actually quite common for middle aged females. Once you see it, you won’t unsee it. With dating apps, almost all females get hit up by dozens and dozens of dudes, but the converse isn’t true. Guys will go many steps down for a quick fuck. A guy who is a “9” will fuck a “5”. But a “9” female will never fuck a “5”. Why? Females can be selective because that’s basic sexual dynamics.

That pumps up the ego of females to think they’re higher quality than they are. The cognitive dissonance is, “I can’t find a guy”. That’s much easier for the ego to accept. A lot of chicks like to think they are a “9” because they fucked a “9”. Ask yourself why the “fat acceptance movement” only applies to females. Same dynamic at play.

Some women figure it out eventually but many don’t. The ones that don’t are destined to a life of many cats.

In a City with 400k people, it’s not hard to find a compatible partner. If a female can’t find one, she’s the problem.

Imagine if pooners here only banged 10’s and then ha the same expectation for the dating world. It would be laughable. But guys aren’t wired to think that way. We’re far more able to separate sex from feelings and ego. Most females can’t.

My advice to guys, or at least if you’re high value, is only date younger women, sub 30. “Widowed” females over 40 are mostly bad news. The higher their notch count, the less likely they’ll make a good partner. If a female says it took them a long time to find a suitable guy, that’s just a huge red flag. Run.

As to good job and a house, that’s more of a negative than a positive, but I won’t get into that argument if you haven’t yet internalized the first.
 

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The traditional conservative myths of dating,leading to marital/common law cohabitation, is an archaic mirage veiling the pitfall.
Even if you were to win "the prize",it will not necessarily be in one best interests to have won.
Both genders must rise above,wasting their time,reaching for what just isn't there.
I have no desire for long-term relationships,while cherishing my light baggage & lightheartedness.

Engelbert Humperdink
 
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This is actually quite common for middle aged females. Once you see it, you won’t unsee it. With dating apps, almost all females get hit up by dozens and dozens of dudes, but the converse isn’t true. Guys will go many steps down for a quick fuck. A guy who is a “9” will fuck a “5”. But a “9” female will never fuck a “5”. Why? Females can be selective because that’s basic sexual dynamics.

That pumps up the ego of females to think they’re higher quality than they are. The cognitive dissonance is, “I can’t find a guy”. That’s much easier for the ego to accept. A lot of chicks like to think they are a “9” because they fucked a “9”. Ask yourself why the “fat acceptance movement” only applies to females. Same dynamic at play.

Some women figure it out eventually but many don’t. The ones that don’t are destined to a life of many cats.

In a City with 400k people, it’s not hard to find a compatible partner. If a female can’t find one, she’s the problem.

Imagine if pooners here only banged 10’s and then ha the same expectation for the dating world. It would be laughable. But guys aren’t wired to think that way. We’re far more able to separate sex from feelings and ego. Most females can’t.

My advice to guys, or at least if you’re high value, is only date younger women, sub 30. “Widowed” females over 40 are mostly bad news. The higher their notch count, the less likely they’ll make a good partner. If a female says it took them a long time to find a suitable guy, that’s just a huge red flag. Run.

As to good job and a house, that’s more of a negative than a positive, but I won’t get into that argument if you haven’t yet internalized the first.
Sure, if you say so you pooning authority you. I take it a young one, but obviously an authority on the topic of whom to bang and whom not to.

As an opposing view, I say approach the 10's, whether they are full of themselves or not and whether you think you are high value or not. Give them the chance to figure it out, on the spot. You might be surprised.

Now back to that 47 yr old over in Victoria. When I get over there, theguyfromvictoria, I'll be on you for a phone number :)
 

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I'm not claiming to be the authority. I'm just passing on information that is pretty well known. Females peak early and men peak late. It's not an opposing point of view to approach 10's. That's consistent with my world view.

Again, the situation described by OP isn't uncommon. This is a dime a dozen. With apps and hook up culture, it's easy for a female in her 40's to climb up the SMV ladder, at least for a night or two. But, not for an LTR. The graph explains why.

She can't find a guy, but she can find a 1,000 dicks.

The reality is that the guys of Victoria share my world view whether they know it or not. They're all in it for a quick lay and then GTFO.

So what can she do? Get used to a life of cats and a build a life around family instead. She won't be happy settling down with a guy that is truly at her level because she's already wired her brain to think she deserves the "hot guy" she could pull on Tinder. It's not likely either person in that LTR will be happy.

And to be clear, I use "she" in the most broad statistical sense possible. This may or may not be true of the person in question, but statistically it is true. Most of the time, this is what is really going on when a middle aged female says she can't find a guy.

Truth is you can't have it all. Society and media tell people that. But there is a reason that so many middle aged females are unhappy, on antidepressants and drink wine 7 days a week.

 
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