I had to read that dangerousdan reply a few times as I thought wow, what are the chances of two pooners knowing the same woman and having completely different views of her.
I mean one guy has this friend who sounds to me like exactly the kind of woman I would want to be hooking up with regularly. And the other guy sees her as being way past her prime, out of her league and bad news.
Just so confusing as to which pooner to believe
This is actually quite common for middle aged females. Once you see it, you won’t unsee it. With dating apps, almost all females get hit up by dozens and dozens of dudes, but the converse isn’t true. Guys will go many steps down for a quick fuck. A guy who is a “9” will fuck a “5”. But a “9” female will never fuck a “5”. Why? Females can be selective because that’s basic sexual dynamics.
That pumps up the ego of females to think they’re higher quality than they are. The cognitive dissonance is, “I can’t find a guy”. That’s much easier for the ego to accept. A lot of chicks like to think they are a “9” because they fucked a “9”. Ask yourself why the “fat acceptance movement” only applies to females. Same dynamic at play.
Some women figure it out eventually but many don’t. The ones that don’t are destined to a life of many cats.
In a City with 400k people, it’s not hard to find a compatible partner. If a female can’t find one, she’s the problem.
Imagine if pooners here only banged 10’s and then ha the same expectation for the dating world. It would be laughable. But guys aren’t wired to think that way. We’re far more able to separate sex from feelings and ego. Most females can’t.
My advice to guys, or at least if you’re high value, is only date younger women, sub 30. “Widowed” females over 40 are mostly bad news. The higher their notch count, the less likely they’ll make a good partner. If a female says it took them a long time to find a suitable guy, that’s just a huge red flag. Run.
As to good job and a house, that’s more of a negative than a positive, but I won’t get into that argument if you haven’t yet internalized the first.