Dating an SP

[Lurker 123]

Dude that sucks. Sounds like she was using you. Maybe she didn't think she was, but if you two are together, you're paying the bills, and she expects you to support a separate pad for her? She wasn't putting much into the relationship. At best she was your mistress.

Yes, she didn't think she was as she became an alcoholic! She did allow me to have all sort of sexual priviliges as in a relationship. You can say she was my secrete lover than a mistress as I was and am still single!

 

[Mathias82]

I posted this in the last thread, and seems even more appropiate for this one.

Words of wisdom from Silent Bob:

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[Synshine]

Thanks, however I really will use bear spray if ilovejenny ever darkens my door~! VERY bad attitude and extremely disrespectful towards SP's. Sorry that someone burst his bubble, but to say that the ONLY love an SP is capable of is Free Bareback is a sick, disgusting and dangerous comment. Men like him are the reason I took kickboxing.

oxoxo

Maryn

 

[Synshine]

Do you get to fuck her without a condom? How about cum in her mouth? Or her pussy? She can't certainly be allowing her clients to do that (well, except maybe her mouth, some SPs love that anyway). What I mean is, she gives you special priviledges that other guys don't have and she probably doesn't force you to pay any money before you stick it in her. For an SP, that's the extent of the LOVE they can give, free bareback!!! So dude relax, be confident she feels about you and displays her love through those actions, and she ain't doing that with anybody else.

Wow......DIRTBAG! If you love Jenny, I pray that Jenny has changed her identity and moved as far as possible from your ignorant and disrespectful ass!! YOU know NOTHING about what SP's love and don't love darling because YOU are obviously quite unlovable.

 

[ilovejenny]

Men like him are the reason I took kickboxing.

LMAO!!!!
I was just stating the blatantly obvious to help the guy know she treats him special!

 

[HB40]

Today? We don't date..she's my GF. And most of her rage is gone. The woman that's fucked 100s of men has shown me she's entirely able to separate "work" from personal intimacy. She's shown me that I had my own perceptions of people and perhaps i was wrong to judge a person on their past. In short..a woman that's dealt with the dark side of males is often the most passionate when she finds someone willing to take that risk. I'm not saying it was easy just that I'm damn glad I didn't walk. She's nothing short of awesome and I still take a breath and think OMG..my GF was a hooker.

PS. there aren't that many of you making MSOG. LOL. Perhaps today's word is "embellishment"

Hey dood! Glad you dropped in, awesome post buddy. That explains a lot, thanks.
So does that mean you are going to choose Buckcherry's Crazy Bitch for your wedding song?!?

PS. keep in mind a former SP is probably going to disembellish a lot of things.....for your benefit. I'm just sayin'

Good luck to ya buddy!

 

[HB40]

And I don't pay extra for DATY, CIM, etc, etc, etc.

That comment is unnecessary dood. Contrary to what you might think I am very happy for you, and the woman you speak of. I do know what it is like to date an SP, dated and lived with a working girl when I was 16-17 and I married a former escort. You should never sully their dignity, even in jest. It takes a unique man to date an SP, firstly one who is confident and very secure with their manhood, which I respect that you are dood. And secondly, something that is intangible and totally dependant on the chemistry between two people, but you need to be able to be that calming, rational, considerate and gently controlling influence for her. There will be a lot of baggage, it's not our job to carry it, but it helps to unpack it, air it out, fold it up neatly and pack it away again while we live and share each day in the adventure and understanding of this crazy thing called life.

 

[jim]

Do you get to fuck her without a condom? How about cum in her mouth? Or her pussy? She can't certainly be allowing her clients to do that (well, except maybe her mouth, some SPs love that anyway). What I mean is, she gives you special priviledges that other guys don't have and she probably doesn't force you to pay any money before you stick it in her. For an SP, that's the extent of the LOVE they can give, free bareback!!! So dude relax, be confident she feels about you and displays her love through those actions, and she ain't doing that with anybody else.

Well I see that your trailer park has internet access now, just kidding because we all know that the homosapien asshole-ignoramus can be found across the entire socio-economic spectrum. It is unfortunate that your type still survives from generation through generation similar to the way cockroaches do.

 

[HB40]

HB, you took the comment the wrong way...cause those are HER words ;-). I don't find those comments bad, I find them good because she feels open enough to talk to me about it.

OH! Well then that is different. I forgot the third most important thing....laughter!

 

[ungreatfuldead]

Dood, HB40 thanks for your insight as it is very helpful at this point. Your points about baggage and patience are well taken. I think that these seem to be crucial in these types of relationship. The girl that I am seeing so affectionate that it is amazing-the most affectionate person that I have been with.

"There will be a lot of baggage, it's not our job to carry it, but it helps to unpack it, air it out, fold it up neatly and pack it away again while we live and share each day in the adventure and understanding of this crazy thing called life. " This is an amazing quote that is so true to be able to deal in this situations. Thanks
You are all awesome for sharing your experiences and I thank you-I think I get better advice here than from the counsellor I am seeing!!

From the responses, dating an SP seems to be more common than I thought-interesting and enlightening!

 

[Synshine]

Well I see that your trailer park has internet access now, just kidding because we all know that the homosapien asshole-ignoramus can be found across the entire socio-economic spectrum. It is unfortunate that your type still survives from generation through generation similar to the way cockroaches do.

My sentiments exactly Jim....you and I seem to always be on the same page (or thread....lol) ~!~ oxox

*waiting patiently for Saturday*

M

 

[HubbaHubba]

The only thing is I try to not imagine Hubba Hubba banging away at my GF. Ewwwwww. LOL

LOL...that would have set the bar a little to high for you

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Thanks for your feedback. Well I assumed without asking so my own fault. The relationship has become quite serious so I guess I was afraid to ask and tried to convince myself that she wasnt doing it anymore. I am quite upset to the point i feel like throwing up and my hands are shaking. I am a fool so I get what i deserve. I knew what i was getting into and am not a person who judges but it still is upsetting. april thanks for your kind words.

Your concern is not whether she is still working as an SP. Instead it is trying to learn and understand just what factors in her early evolution (contributed mightily) to her acceptance of this sort of work. Selling sexual company for money fits splendidly with the present stage of the emotional/psychological evolution of some women, yet the sale of sex for money is merely a symptom of factors, almost always first introduced in the distant past, which are best addressed with therapy.

Your putting your foot down and pretending to forbid her from continuing to work in this business would only be a reintroduction of the same sorts of impropriety (usually at the hands of males) which first rendered her a prime candidate for this business. You can ride the wave of her being so used to that sort of trauma, chaos, and impropriety in her life that she may put up with you for six months or six years, but if you really want to help, don't concern yourself as much with the symptom as you do with the underlying areas in which her family, her environment, and her society let her down long ago.

Most women selling sex in the western world have it within their power to be deep and vulnerable people, but for their having been violated so many times, and in so many ways, it is a rare, rare personal treat when their lovers really get to know that vulnerability. Most probably can't reach that point of willing vulnerability without considerable efforts at therapy.

Their willing vulnerability is so hot... and such a personal gesture... but how will they ever know...?

 

[Synshine]

Gentlemen,

I just have to say that this business is the oldest job in the world. If there wasn't a demand for it, we wouldn't be working.....

Every housewife is a whore at heart. The husband goes to work and makes the money. The woman has the babies, cooks, cleans and sucks and f*cks. SO...tell me again what is more expensive. 20 years with a woman and screaming kids that need college....or a beautiful lass that makes you feel like a king.

You don't pay to come see us...you pay because you want to leave with no strings attached. We sincerely enjoy our clients, we truly enjoy pleasing men that are pleased by our company (at least I do~!) and we don't tell stories later~~!

oxoxo

Maryn

 

[ungreatfuldead]

Thanks April! that seems like great advice as I agree love and acceptance are the key-I am doing that to the best of my ability.

Dr T- your points are well taken so thank you.

 

[palmtree]

all of this thread sounds like bs and rationalizing to me

 

[87112]

I dated a SP and just broke up with her 2 weeks ago. She was a China City girl and you know what they say about pretty China City girls. They have a sense of entitlement that is so out of whack with reality. When we were agruing about breaking up she reveals to me she expects to never work after marriage, and maybe at best work 20 hours a week or volunteer. I said why dont you volunteer after you win the 649. I told her you came to Vancouver with it high livng cost and never expect to work at age 27? Are you going to find a surgeon, lawyer or one of the Canucks to provide you with retirement at age 27.

I thought she was a normal girl who after qutting the biz would just get a job 40 hours a week, but she cant handle it and now is back as a SP. I dont think after making the money she did she will ever join the normal workforce again.

I will say I will never date a SP again.

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

Just pump them ...have a bit of fun n leave. They are nothing more than getting your nuts off

I will say I will never date a SP again.

 

[87112]

And here is the funny part during agruing she reveals how Vancouver's Chinese food courts like the ones in Crystal Mall, Parker Place etc are too " ghetto" for her and Chinatown is too dirty. This from a girl who has lived in China for 25 years and from the dirty city of Kunming. I thought she was a bit nuts. Plus I only saw her once a week and she wanted me to pay her rent and some living expenses.

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

Dude i dont think she's the only one who thinks chinatown is dirty. Im kinda like her ..i cant stand food court food.

And here is the funny part during agruing she reveals how Vancouver's Chinese food courts like the ones in Crystal Mall, Parker Place etc are too " ghetto" for her and Chinatown is too dirty. This from a girl who has lived in China for 25 years and from the dirty city of Kunming. I thought she was a bit nuts. Plus I only saw her once a week and she wanted me to pay her rent and some living expenses.