Dating an SP

[ungreatfuldead]

I know this topic has come up before but I thought I would get some feedback. Obviously I have been dating an SP and somehow thought that she wasn't doing it anymore since we were dating (it has been sometime now) but I found out that she still is. Needless to say I was upset but i suppose I shouldnt be surprised. I guess I am a total idiot who is clued out. I dont really know how to address the situation now so any feedback would be great from both males and females.

Thanks

 

[CLIT COMMANDER]

The fact that you just assumed she wasn't working anymore means that your relationship may lack some serious communication skills! If she said she quit and you found out that she lied then I can see you being upset. If however you assumed without acutally asking then you have no reason to be upset.

So which was it?

 

[ungreatfuldead]

Thanks for your feedback. Well I assumed without asking so my own fault. The relationship has become quite serious so I guess I was afraid to ask and tried to convince myself that she wasnt doing it anymore. I am quite upset to the point i feel like throwing up and my hands are shaking. I am a fool so I get what i deserve. I knew what i was getting into and am not a person who judges but it still is upsetting. april thanks for your kind words.

 

[ungreatfuldead]

I guess she does have to earn income and my feeling is that is why she is still doing it. thanks again

 

[ungreatfuldead]

thanks muffineater-very true what you have said. It is difficult for certain

 

[suPERB]

its not easy. many relationships start with talking, then onto activities (like dinner/movies) and finally to the bedroom. when dating a SP its like going in reverse. all her clients skip right to the action but remember she probably still has a need for companionship and conversation. those end up being the special things that she shares with you and not every stranger that walks through her door. if you can wrap your mind around that then you might be in better shape.

 

[Guardian Angel]

I agree with pretty much what everyone said here. But one thing I think we forget is, as much as the ladies in this business might like the companionship outside of the business aspect of things, so do many pooners.

I will admit as much as I love the raw sex provided, I can be just as satisfied by sharing and receiving the companionship of someone. There is a real warmth felt knowing we can enjoy ourselves without any pressure seXually speaking. A walk in the park or just laying around on a warm sunny day talking, having a refreshment, enjoying each others smiles can be the best day you can imagine.

Maybe I am old fashioned, but it is what I like.

G.A.

 

[Pillowtalk]

I know this topic has come up before but I thought I would get some feedback. Obviously I have been dating an SP and somehow thought that she wasn't doing it anymore since we were dating (it has been sometime now) but I found out that she still is. Needless to say I was upset but i suppose I shouldnt be surprised. I guess I am a total idiot who is clued out. I dont really know how to address the situation now so any feedback would be great from both males and females.

Thanks

Did she expect you to quit your job just because you are dating?

I don't get the problem. She has guys pay money to spend time with her, and she chooses to spend her free time with you, putting you in a very enviable position amongst other men, don't you think? You should be eternallygrateful, not ungreatful lol.

Appreciate the time she is offering, cuz expecting her to live on dreams is ridiculous when the rent is due.

 

[ilovejenny]

Do you get to fuck her without a condom? How about cum in her mouth? Or her pussy? She can't certainly be allowing her clients to do that (well, except maybe her mouth, some SPs love that anyway). What I mean is, she gives you special priviledges that other guys don't have and she probably doesn't force you to pay any money before you stick it in her. For an SP, that's the extent of the LOVE they can give, free bareback!!! So dude relax, be confident she feels about you and displays her love through those actions, and she ain't doing that with anybody else.

 

[Synshine]

Do you get to fuck her without a condom? How about cum in her mouth? Or her pussy? She can't certainly be allowing her clients to do that (well, except maybe her mouth, some SPs love that anyway). What I mean is, she gives you special priviledges that other guys don't have and she probably doesn't force you to pay any money before you stick it in her. For an SP, that's the extent of the LOVE they can give, free bareback!!! So dude relax, be confident she feels about you and displays her love through those actions, and she ain't doing that with anybody else.

Are you angry at every female on the planet or just a particular SP? End point was nice, but the build up a little unsettling to say the least.

Ummm....yeah. Quite the...perpsective. I just felt an undeniable urge to purchase bear spray. lol

 

[Krustee]

Most ladies, including SP's, exotic dancers, club girls (especially if she’s a 9 or 10) aren't going to stick around very long unless you demonstrate characteristics of a true “alpha male”.

You must:
-know exactly what you want from women and life.
-feel emotions but be in control of them at all times.
-learn from your experiences rather than cry about them.
-no matter how difficult she gets…..you’re the man, and whatever she does
can NEVER influence your inner frame of emotions.
-be confident around women…..they’re just girls, dude…lol
-ALWAYS take the lead.

In my case, I’ve already made it clear that its going to have to be an open relationship. As long as you’re on the same page it should be fine. If you’re not, then be a man about it and end the relationship immediately, otherwise you’ll end up coming off as a wussy.

To a great extent - this advice is spot on!

Considering the demographic of woman you are dealing with here the above is pretty righteous wisdom.

Not every SP, dancer or CG is going to be the same but those who choose this lifestyle & hover around this scene will have a certain personality type which is a bit more driven than other passive subdued women.

If you want to gain interest with an aggressive, vibrant & outgoing type of woman, you'll need to have at least 1 or more of the following:
- Good Looks - (think Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Will Smith or Robert Pattinson)
- Confidence - (think Einstein, Obama & Trump)
- Wicked sense of humour - (think Russel Peters, Seinfeld or Dane Cook)
- A huge cock that vibrates & tingles (& can be detached & shared with her girlfriend) mine does & I'm hugely popular!

Spineless marshmallow, crybaby sissy boys may be toyed with & abused but never taken seriously.

Welcome to the real world!

 

[Very Veronica]

chez cheeze

Then I leave the room to get a pop and collapse on my chez while I turn on the TV.

 

[ungreatfuldead]

Thanks all for your feedback-it as been very helpful to get some different perspectives. Somedays I feel like im in way over my head but the feelings are mutual it seems. I have discussed the situation with her and communication has been good and helpful. I know that I get special privledges with her and that she treats me special as she she strong feelings for me. I guess its the first time i have been in the situation and it was awkward thinking of it-now that I know about it is better as it was worse wondering I believe.
Like one of you said it is weird because it is like working backwards and as the feelings develop you get more nervous-so weird!! I think I am coping well with it and all the responses have been great. I think I am better equipped to deal with it now. Thanks

 

[suPERB]

Good to hear, like any real relationship, it takes work. good luck!

...Like one of you said it is weird because it is like working backwards and as the feelings develop you get more nervous-so weird!! I think I am coping well with it and all the responses have been great. I think I am better equipped to deal with it now. Thanks

 

[DaMix]

If you have any slight problem with her continuing her profession as an SP you should walk away from this relationship cause you certainly aint supporting her.
People have different jobs and with some people who have a problem against that person with that particular job then your judging them I would think that everytime you mention something negative about the SP profession she takes it as a personal insult to her own self which in my opinion is wrong of you to do to her. Because who are you to judge her for something that she requires to do to stay healthy and alive.
If I was dating a Service provider and I was fully aware of it I would try my best to embrace it and support her through it. Husband pornstars having to watch there wives have sex on camera with a male stunt cock. You gotta do the same as this case and not have a problem with it.
If you dont support her then you dont deserve her and you are mainly using her cause you know how she feels about you. Since you cannot support her financially she has to continue with her profession whatever it may be.

 

[dudeharsh123]

I don't think I would ever serrously date an SP or stripper, but I'd love to hang out and party with one... Maybe have a casual type relationship....

 

[DaMix]

" I am quite upset to the point i feel like throwing up and my hands are shaking. I am a fool so I get what i deserve. I knew what i was getting into and am not a person who judges but it still is upsetting. "

You obviously didnt know what your getting into because of the feelings your feeling at that moment. Mind you those are pretty harsh feelings to feel towards someone and if she read that that wouldnt be a very pleasant thing to hear from her bf especially. My opinion you dont have the mindset to date this girl.

 

[ungreatfuldead]

DaMix
Thanks for your words-very helpful. I am not judging her as I dont believe I am in a position to judge and in general do not judge people-life is hard enough. After discussing it I feel alot better and realize what is really important so it is ok. I think my quote was how I felt at that moment and not how i really feel. I was just caught off guard and it hurt for a moment but that has passed. I have no harsh feelings towards her as I understand the situation well. I am human and do get emotional every so often like each and every one of you. I guess time will tell if I have the mindset to date her!!
Thanks again for your feedback-much appreciated!

 

[DaMix]

You seem like a nice man who is polite. However I dont see you having the right attitude to dating an SP
you still seem a bit uneasy to the idea of her escorting " I guess time will tell if I have the mindset to date her"

You should accept it right now.

 

[Lurker 123]

Being an SP can become more than just a job and venture into the domain of becoming a lifestyle. Quitting will need to be her choice and if she's any good, and if the money's good, it will be a difficult one to make. Are you willing and able to support her financially? If not, did you expect her to pack away her lingerie and sexy little outfits, and flip burgers at McRaunchys? You better think this whole thing through and figure out where you want it to go; take a look in her eyes the next time you're together, and judge for yourself how she feels about you.
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I was there and been there. The biggest problem is to support your SP friend financially. If you cannot fully support her financially , then you have to give up. I had tried and I got burnt!

Can you imagine that I had paid for my SP friend rent and daily expense for three years ? It was totally addictive! Until one day I realised my bank account was totally broken. I couldn't support her anymore and she refused to move in with me!!! We enjoyed each other company. Was it true love? Honestly I still don't know .But as soon as I stopped supporting her, the relationship died!

At the end she blamed me not supporting her. Then I ask if you truely loved me why didn't you move in with me. Of course the answer was no!