Dating a prostitute

[Warl0ck]

After reading 100+ threads on this, I'd like to offer some advice about this for your future success.

Treat her like the woman she is.


/goodluck.

**I meant treat her as a person versus defining her by her chosen career. You date the person not the job. The above came across as really snarky and mean. Sorry. That was not my intention at all.

The good luck was meant positively.

I should proof read before I post.

/endcorrection

 

[diamondd5243]

Thanks tips

 

[UhOh]

Didn't work out for you eh! Don't blame yourself, it was doomed from the start.

 

[poonerboi]

After reading 100+ threads on this, I'd like to offer some advice about this for your future success.

Treat her like the woman she is.


/goodluck.

For starters, DO NOT refer to her as a prostitute!!!

 

[maniacalone]

After reading 100+ threads on this, I'd like to offer some advice about this for your future success.

Treat her like the woman she is.


/goodluck.

What inspired this thread and the above remark?

 

[Warl0ck]

Well Opps it was meant to mean "treat her like a woman". As in view her as a person not an object. Don't define her by her job. Instead it came across rather snarky and mean. That's not what I intended.

 

[westwoody]

After reading 100+ threads on this, I'd like to offer some advice

Are you going to say something about it that has not been said before?

Cause everything there is to say about it has been said before.

 

[GrandMarnier]

Didn't work out for you eh! Don't blame yourself, it was doomed from the start.

You may be right but as they say in the financial world.. Past performance is not necessarily an indication of future returns. One has to look closely at the statements to understand why things are what they are. Just saying. ��

 

[Warl0ck]

@Westwoody

Yes I am. As with what I meant to say initially in this thread *but typing on a smart phone = stupid idea*, everyone could start by changing "dating a prostitute" to "dating a woman". What's it like dating a woman? Well some of them are outright bat shit crazy. Others, you just might marry. There is a good chance the woman would leave the industry once she has faith you're the real thing. Why throw away all those regulars and income for some flakey male? Now, assume you need to be open minded about sex, but that's a given. What might bother you is the late hours, the risk & the always on nature of the business.

For nearly 10 years I've read this forum and never posted once. Every single "date a sex worker" reeks of this opportunist guy who figures if he marries a sex worker he'll have a full time porn star in the bedroom just waiting to suck his dick. She'll be his personal sex kitten on call. She's always viewed as a one dimensional thing. What you're really signing up for is a relationship with a woman.

So these threads should be "Could you date a woman" & the subheader would be "she is a sex worker" and I hope she'll leave the industry once we're serious. So relationships are like computer programming. There is input and there is output. If you're goal to is to date a sex worker to have a personal sex kitten, the output is likely going to /dev/null (that's Linux for nowhere). If your input is "When you trust me, we'll talk about what YOU want in your future, I'll accept it and be part of that future", the output just might be "awesome fucking relationship". You just might wanna put a ring on it.

 

[Alix Turner]

edited op's update

fixed it for you -"treat people with respect". As in, always respect the boundaries of others, never anticipate they have or will change with circumstances. Don't define people by any single variable.

How you treat women, or any person should never fall below this standard.

 

[take8easy]

For starters, DO NOT refer to her as a prostitute!!!

Hear Hear!

 

[take8easy]

Did you read through the thread?..the OP already corrected himself to "dating a woman"

Did YOU read MY response? I was merely applauding what poonerboi said.

(imagine a 'face palm' emoticon here)

 

[Warl0ck]

@Alix: I referred to women in this example because we are talking about women, but I agree with you.

@Miss Hunter: My initial comment was meant to mean "treat her like the woman she is" in a positive sense that she IS a woman. It's just it doesn't come across that way and that's my fault for not actually reading the post and thinking about how others would perceive it. I guess what my real point is I've seen this thread 50 times and in each thread the woman is pigeonholed into this little box. I realize it's a unique situation in what SP's do for a living but it doesn't define them. I think part of that assumption is because males tend to define themselves by their careers.

And while I think about it, another thread I always wanted to comment on

"If I see my SP in public should I say hello"

Answer: No.
Exception: She acknowledges you first.

 

[clu]

Some times I think it's easier to see the fallacies in these discussions in an analogy. For those who think dating an SP would be hitting the jackpot in the sex department, consider this: you have a great meal at a restaurant. You meet the chef to compliment her and you kinda hit it off. She invites you for a great home cooked meal. You think "this is awesome" and start looking forward to all those meals, bragging to friends about it, etc. Thing is even if she enjoys cooking, she's got no shortage of people who admire her work. The question is "what are you bringing to the relationship for her that she can't get from a mere fan?" Which of course leads to OP's intended point: treat her like a person (not a prize), and support her in her needs and insecurities and ambitions and willfulness, etc. like we all wish partners would.

 

[EuroSZabina]

Some times I think it's easier to see the fallacies in these discussions in an analogy. For those who think dating an SP would be hitting the jackpot in the sex department, consider this: you have a great meal at a restaurant. You meet the chef to compliment her and you kinda hit it off. She invites you for a great home cooked meal. You think "this is awesome" and start looking forward to all those meals, bragging to friends about it, etc. Thing is even if she enjoys cooking, she's got no shortage of people who admire her work. The question is "what are you bringing to the relationship for her that she can't get from a mere fan?" Which of course leads to OP's intended point: treat her like a person (not a prize), and support her in her needs and insecurities and ambitions and willfulness, etc. like we all wish partners would.

WOW, so beautifully said. You look like a respectful person.
Thank you

 

[Boobfetish]

Some times I think it's easier to see the fallacies in these discussions in an analogy. For those who think dating an SP would be hitting the jackpot in the sex department, consider this: you have a great meal at a restaurant. You meet the chef to compliment her and you kinda hit it off. She invites you for a great home cooked meal. You think "this is awesome" and start looking forward to all those meals, bragging to friends about it, etc. Thing is even if she enjoys cooking, she's got no shortage of people who admire her work. The question is "what are you bringing to the relationship for her that she can't get from a mere fan?" Which of course leads to OP's intended point: treat her like a person (not a prize), and support her in her needs and insecurities and ambitions and willfulness, etc. like we all wish partners would.

That is very well put... although with a slightly different slant, I would have to say that when I am spending time with someone, its because I value them and enjoy spending time with them.

What they "do" really has little to do with it, other perhaps than sharing an interest in something that we share in common, which helps to enhance our bond.

 

[1nitestan]

I did....sadly it was not returned in kind in the end.

 

[UhOh]

Some times I think it's easier to see the fallacies in these discussions in an analogy. For those who think dating an SP would be hitting the jackpot in the sex department, consider this: you have a great meal at a restaurant. You meet the chef to compliment her and you kinda hit it off. She invites you for a great home cooked meal. You think "this is awesome" and start looking forward to all those meals, bragging to friends about it, etc. Thing is even if she enjoys cooking, she's got no shortage of people who admire her work. The question is "what are you bringing to the relationship for her that she can't get from a mere fan?" Which of course leads to OP's intended point: treat her like a person (not a prize), and support her in her needs and insecurities and ambitions and willfulness, etc. like we all wish partners would.

Not for one second would I expect sex with an SP to better than with a non SP.
There is no comparison between the nights of sex I've had with girlfriends over the years and any visit I've ever made to an SP.

 

[clu]

Not for one second would I expect sex with an SP to better than with a non SP.
There is no comparison between the nights of sex I've had with girlfriends over the years and any visit I've ever made to an SP.

I didn't think we were comparing SP visits with girlfriends. I thought we were talking about girlfriends that were SPs.

 

[Sphubby]

I was abstaining from this post but in my experience which could be much different than others its having the best of both worlds. My experience is probably different than most for when we met she was not a sp, it was 4 yrs into our relationship when that change came about. It was something she wanted to try and I supported her in any way I could.

Fairly obvious to say if you aren't secure with yourself or the relationship it definitely won't work out.

And for clu, well done!! :amen: Don't think I could have come up with a better analogy.