Contacting An SP

[lukom]

I actually don't contact many providers who are NOT on Perb. It's conversations like this that gets me to check out the providers who respond. I find intelligence extremely sexy. If providers like those in this thread @LADY-LYRAH @Harmony-bc for example, keep showing how savy and yet compassionate to help perb'ites, it's a turn on for me, and I've booked providers because of it. The personalities come out in threads like this.
So yeah I'd use my Perb handle, as I know they are here too. I don't message random Leo messages, as I don't trust them. (sad)
Plus I'm not a Toftt guy, I like to read about them that they are real first.

That's fair, and yeah I'd give my perb handle as a reference point where relevant such as in this case. Otherwise I'll mention it as an after fact, not as part the booking process.

I usually book providers who generally have good reviews even if they're not on perb.

 

[GeeBeeP]

First thing since you’ve had a real streak of no replies, have you changed phone numbers or are you using a text app? Tons of ladies will ignore them.

As a general rule I’d say three strikes. Try a second time a day later, if still nothing try next week if you’re really interested in her.

Also make sure that you’re contacting her in the way that she prefers, some SP's will only answer texts, some only emails. If she has a website look there to see how she wants to be contacted, several will now only reply to requests through the website contact link.

Sometimes persistence will pay off because many ladies are like Harmony, busy with other things in life, and may not be constantly on their SP phones. Remember too that not all girls do this full time. Like WW said, make sure the SP’s ad is current and that she’s actually working, but some will have an active ad while not currently seeing anyone.

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[lukom]

First thing since you’ve had a real streak of no replies, have you changed phone numbers or are you using a text app? Tons of ladies will ignore them.

As a general rule I’d say three strikes. Try a second time a day later, if still nothing try next week if you’re really interested in her.

Also make sure that you’re contacting her in the way that she prefers, some SP's will only answer texts, some only emails. If she has a website look there to see how she wants to be contacted, several will now only reply to requests through the website contact link.

Sometimes persistence will pay off because many ladies are like Harmony, busy with other things in life, and may not be constantly on their SP phones. Remember too that not all girls do this full time. Like WW said, make sure the SP’s ad is current and that she’s actually working, but some will have an active ad while not currently seeing anyone.

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Well it's funny you mention that cause YEARS ago I changed my burner number, cause a lady I had been seeing regularly confided in me that another lady I had inquired with got spooked cause the number I was using looked close to the number of someone she had a bad interaction with and sent it out to a group of ladies as a "Be safe it may be the same guy" type of message. So for a while I wasn't getting replies from some ladies, and when I changed it everything was good again. I personally use the apps just to inquire if it's someone unknown and if I'm ready to book I'll use my real number.

 

[take8easy]

I actually don't contact many providers who are NOT on Perb. It's conversations like this that gets me to check out the providers who respond. I find intelligence extremely sexy. If providers like those in this thread @LADY-LYRAH @Harmony-bc for example, keep showing how savy and yet compassionate to help perb'ites, it's a turn on for me, and I've booked providers because of it. The personalities come out in threads like this.
So yeah I'd use my Perb handle, as I know they are here too. I don't message random Leo messages, as I don't trust them. (sad)
Plus I'm not a Toftt guy, I like to read about them that they are real first.

I don't contact random girls on LL either. Like you, I am not a toftt guy. I make sure the lady I am contacting is well reviewed here and that's what makes me mention my PERB handle and honestly, it has worked to my advantage, or so I think.

 

[take8easy]

First thing since you’ve had a real streak of no replies, have you changed phone numbers or are you using a text app? Tons of ladies will ignore them.

As a general rule I’d say three strikes. Try a second time a day later, if still nothing try next week if you’re really interested in her.

Also make sure that you’re contacting her in the way that she prefers, some SP's will only answer texts, some only emails. If she has a website look there to see how she wants to be contacted, several will now only reply to requests through the website contact link.

Sometimes persistence will pay off because many ladies are like Harmony, busy with other things in life, and may not be constantly on their SP phones. Remember too that not all girls do this full time. Like WW said, make sure the SP’s ad is current and that she’s actually working, but some will have an active ad while not currently seeing anyone.

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No, it's not about me changing my phone number because I am talking about contacting SP's for the very first time. I did change my number a while ago, but if I am contacting someone for a repeat visit, I make sure that I mention that. So all my repeat providers

 

[Deguire]

Well, by chance do you mention being a board member ? Unfortunately that’s a strike right there coming in the door & many will ignore you for that purpose alone.

Well now, I'll have to revise my opinion 180 degrees. Up to now I thought that providing my PERB handle was a real positive. The lady could review my contributions and come to the conclusion that I was a very civilized gentleman. Or so I thought. In my humble opinion. It never crossed my mind that being a board member was negative. We live and learn.

 

[take8easy]

Well now, I'll have to revise my opinion 180 degrees. Up to now I thought that providing my PERB handle was a real positive. The lady could review my contributions and come to the conclusion that I was a very civilized gentleman. Or so I thought. In my humble opinion. It never crossed my mind that being a board member was negative. We live and learn.

I think I will still continue to mention my handle in my intro even there might be some disadvantage, in some cases. For me the positives far outweigh the negatives.

 

[VinVan]

In general I won’t mention I’m a Perb member unless it comes up in conversation (or unless it’s requested as a booking reference).To me, it would be like booking a reservation at a restaurant and informing the phone person you write a lot of Google reviews. It serves no advantage.

Of the SPs I’ve spoken to about Perb, those in-the-know understand its utility in generating more business, but even those SPs tolerate it as a necessary evil. Many SPs dislike Perb because of its often frank, crass and hurtful language. I’ve seen some indie SPs that would cut me off if they knew I was a Perb member, and others who explicitly ask for no reviews if Perb comes up in conversation (despite the fact it would likely generate more business). My experience is certainly consistent with Lady-Lyrah’s post at the top of this thread, re: Perb handle.

 

[Cock Throppled]

I Never mention my perb handle. It can be seen as a coercive tool for those that like to bargain or threaten reviews. And I agree the board has changed, and the type of reviews have changed. I always state my age, and ask if they're comfortable seeing someone older.

I wait longer than an hour before giving up, since you could contact someone at the start of a 60 or 90 minute session. I think 4-6 hours is fair if you're not looking for an immediate booking.

I too get frustrated by non-responses, and it can hurt to feel ignored, but it's not like there aren't other providers.

 

[angry anderson]

Well, by chance do you mention being a board member ? Unfortunately that’s a strike right there coming in the door & many will ignore you for that purpose alone.

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

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Oh, well I’m just someone who’s been around for a while, & generally know what’s she’s talking about.

I wouldn’t waste my time on here unless I happen to have something valuable or useful to say.

I’m someone who actually takes the time to give back to a community which has provided & given me plenty over the years, & I only do so because I actually care.

Im someone who’s kind of one of those nice people.
You’re welcome.

 

[westwoody]

it would likely generate more business

All business is not necessarily good clientele.
Remember all the guys who say ladies should drop their prices so they can get more customers? These guys have no clue about the woman’s circumstances- kids? - another job? - health? But they can yap away like they know everything lol 😂
I used to write pretty explicit reviews and the women told me they attracted guys who were the exact opposite of the guys they wanted.
Especially for women who work part time, less but higher quality is better than a steady stream of low grade customers and tire kickers.

 

[Fallenaries]

Because a lot of women don’t fancy board members or review guys. They don’t want to be engaged in review culture. They find it disrespectful. Board members unfortunately have acquired a bad rep for being over critical & pushy clients.

This information is easy to pick up if you follow social media accounts. Perb isn’t held up in high regards the way it once was among SPs. Claiming to be a board member is almost the equivalent to mentioning you’re an “ attractive fit white male “

it airs some sense of entitlement in a way.
This is unfortunate but that’s kind of the way it is.
the not so pleasant members on here make the pleasant ones less desirable, just like the deposit scam artists make it more difficult for legitimate providers.

I would agree and usually I won’t be talking about board stuff unless they asked. And for the same reason I respect their privacy and not usually share much.

 

[Harmony-bc]

All business is not necessarily good clientele.
Remember all the guys who say ladies should drop their prices so they can get more customers? These guys have no clue about the woman’s circumstances- kids? - another job? - health? But they can yap away like they know everything lol 😂
I used to write pretty explicit reviews and the women told me they attracted guys who were the exact opposite of the guys they wanted.
Especially for women who work part time, less but higher quality is better than a steady stream of low grade customers and tire kickers.

Even for full time people like me, quality over quantity every time. I love a good afternoon quickie but I also want people in my space and in my life that respect and genuinely like sex workers.

 

[goldeneye95]

I seem to be going this patch where I am getting repeatedly no response from some of the ladies that I have been trying to contact.

I understand that they get lots of messages and they have to filter and screen them and I totally understand that keeps them busy.

My questions are:
1. How long do you wait before you ‘text-ually’ contact them again? After all you don’t want to annoy them either.

2. After how many (failed) attempts do you just give up?

3. Do you have to rewrite the introduction all over again? (Which I can understand because I don’t expect them to save messages.

I wouldn’t even bring it up but seems like the response to no response ratio has reached at a rather concerning level.

May be because I honestly tell them my age (I am much older). But some of the ladies I have contacted aren’t very young

May be it is my ethnicity. (No I am not black.) May be just coincidence(s).
I hope it’s the last one.

I just thought I should throw it out there and see what my fellow perb-ites think.
Thanks!

If I have never seen her before, then I will just contact her once and maybe try again after a few months upon her next visit.

If I have seen her before, (and her ad is active) then I will text again after two days because it happened to me a few times that they were having trouble receiving texts or unknowingly missed my message.

 

[take8easy]

If I have never seen her before, then I will just contact her once and maybe try again after a few months upon her next visit.

If I have seen her before, (and her ad is active) then I will text again after two days because it happened to me a few times that they were having trouble receiving texts or unknowingly missed my message.

Yea, I usually do the same, but last few months have been eerily different. It's almost like my messages are not even getting thru which is possibly not true because I AM getting some responses (mainly from my regulars). Must be some kind of conspiracy, or at least that's what I tell myself.

 

[MikeyFox]

If I don’t get an answer right away, or within 10 minutes I’ll send a second text

“Ok to reply anytime”

lots of girls if it’s been an hour or so since it’s been sent won’t reply as not wanting to risk your discretion

make sure they know they can reply whenever they are free

 

[take8easy]

If I don’t get an answer right away, or within 10 minutes I’ll send a second text

“Ok to reply anytime”

lots of girls if it’s been an hour or so since it’s been sent won’t reply as not wanting to risk your discretion

make sure they know they can reply whenever they are free

Great point!

 

[GeeBeeP]

Great point!

The flip side of this is that if I’m with a girl I don’t want her on her phone all the time. If I have to wait for a reply I’m cool with it, she might be entertaining some other lucky guy for a couple of hours and he’s getting her full attention.