Caught feelings - what do you do?

[PeterPannedRedux]

I've been seeing an SP consistently for about a year at an AMP. I went from seeing her once a month to lately once a week. She's really kind to me and I do everything I can to be a great client for her. She's always happy to see me and we have great physical chemistry but we've just never found our social stride in that time. Talking is downright awkward even though there's a lot of trust and connection physically. I realized today that I've created a weird fantasy around her in my mind and I think I'm subtly (I hope subtly!) forcing a type of intimacy on her that she doesn't want.

My problem is that I don't know what to do. I realize I'm the dummy for turning this into something bigger in my head when she was just doing her job! Do I just have to stop seeing this person? I'm so attracted to her that it breaks my brain, and obviously I don't want to stop going! But I genuinely can't perform lately because of the fantasy version that's not happening and my self-judgement about it all. It's like I'm torturing myself and I'm so in my head about it.

Surely this has happened to some gents before - a sort of unrequited desire for more intimacy and care. Is the solution to go cold turkey? Do I book a session just to talk to her and let her know I caught feelings and I'm sorry and that's why I won't be back? I've really lost perspective on this. Any help is appreciated!

 

[Banged_Up]

Slam your dick in a car door, go for a 10 km run and then have a cold shower.
That’s what our sergeant said to do.

 

[jjm86]

Go cold turkey, she's nice to you because youre a cash register, she's working dont forget that
I wouldn't bring it up because she wont know how to respond or itll be a scripted response shes given to the 10 guys before you

 

[Big Dick Bob]

Sorry bro, but she likes you because you're a paying customer, nothing more.

 

[Seekingbenefits]

This is how I'd try it. Book a session normally, let her know you want to finish early to talk for a while in the end. In the end mention how you're feeling and maybe ask her out. Who knows she could be open to it or if uncomfortable she can let you know. Slim chance of success but you never know. At the very least she will know it's sincere with post-nut clarity lol.

 

[ChromeGasCap]

Go cold turkey, she's nice to you because youre a cash register, she's working dont forget that
I wouldn't bring it up because she wont know how to respond or itll be a scripted response shes given to the 10 guys before you

This is by far the best advice.
Go over it in your head, how the lines she gives could and probably do apply to several other clients.
At some point you will realize your place in their life, and you will regain control.

 

[Big_Guy_Rye]

"Catching Feelings", imo, usually implies that you're envisioning a future with this person.... marry her.. have kids.. mortgage... yearly vacations to Disneyland....white picket fences,..dog and cat.

Now I'm guessing you yourself are a gentleman, since she's allowed you to see her every week. Otherwise, if you weren't, or even if she found you a little too clingy to a neurotic level, she'd probably start ghosting you for her own protection. But if this has been going on for a year, then that could only mean she's found a steady stream of reliable and 'safe' income that she can shorten her network. If she can rely on 10 other 'nice guys' to see her once a week at (ie) $500 an hour, including extras... then she doesn't need to spread herself too thin, finding other clients to top up her demanded income.

Reading the rest of your post, you're going off attractiveness, and I'll assume her 'skills' too... but I'm not hearing anything from a personal level, beyond just 'intimacy'. Not hearing how you two see each other outside those professional boundaries, or go above and beyond with her, or she with you... she's just looking good and giving your great sex.

How much do you know of her personally? Has she opened up to you completely in any small way? Told you a tragic story, farming for sympathy...?

From my own second-hand experience, as in my brother dabbled with the trade and fell into this trap with someone he saw frequently. She might be all 'sugar and spice' but once the 'transactional' becomes 'personal' there's a good chance you're going to get sucked down her spiralling life that she's kept hidden under her professionalism. One step, you're having the best sex of your life with a goddess tier provider; next step, you're in the middle of a street-beef with her 'ex-boyfriend-pimp' who's shaking you down for money she owed from a drug debt...

Now I'm not saying "Cinderella/Pretty-Woman" scenarios don't happen, they probably can... but those odds are better used buying lottery tickets.

 

[Newuser505]

Just enjoy the good fuck bro. Stop complicating things.

You should feel lucky to find an escort you can fuck the brains out of, and then just bounce immediately after

 

[Jim Morrison]

I've been seeing an SP consistently for about a year at an AMP. I went from seeing her once a month to lately once a week. She's really kind to me and I do everything I can to be a great client for her. She's always happy to see me and we have great physical chemistry but we've just never found our social stride in that time. Talking is downright awkward even though there's a lot of trust and connection physically. I realized today that I've created a weird fantasy around her in my mind and I think I'm subtly (I hope subtly!) forcing a type of intimacy on her that she doesn't want.

My problem is that I don't know what to do. I realize I'm the dummy for turning this into something bigger in my head when she was just doing her job! Do I just have to stop seeing this person? I'm so attracted to her that it breaks my brain, and obviously I don't want to stop going! But I genuinely can't perform lately because of the fantasy version that's not happening and my self-judgement about it all. It's like I'm torturing myself and I'm so in my head about it.

Surely this has happened to some gents before - a sort of unrequited desire for more intimacy and care. Is the solution to go cold turkey? Do I book a session just to talk to her and let her know I caught feelings and I'm sorry and that's why I won't be back? I've really lost perspective on this. Any help is appreciated!

Damn son...
Listen, and listen good..
I have connected to almost every quality provider I've seen 1 way or another.
I go for quality and sober, respectful, and professional providers..
The kinda girls optically if you saw on the street you'd be like damnnn ...I want it, I need it, I gotta to gotta have it..
I do sweet things for them..bring them food I make.. home made bread, soups, organic chocolate, Manuka Honey candy etc...special shit I didn't just go buy or if I did its worthy..
Anybody can give extra money etc But the extra thought you bring to a date can have the most profound results sometimes..something like shaving your dick..simple thing right.. guaranteed you get better blowjobs..so who did you really do it for 😜 Or "I ate mango for you so my cum tastes sweeter" 🤣
I've always felt connection to the special ones.
Then one day in after glow chit chat one of my favs started telling me about how bad some cum really tastes especially guys who drink diet soda..go figure huh..
It had the most profound effect on me and really gave that honest perspective of how much cum these girls gargle and/or swallow.. she swallowed me lots cause she knew I'm clean, and I guess mine tastes really good after all 🤣
And not meaning to disrespect any SP that may read this but really did make me think about being soley with someone who's maybe banged hundreds or even 1000s of guys..
Is that what I really want..
I mean Ive probably banged a 1000 or more maybe 1000s, I never kept track but it's a fkn big number for sure..
Glad to say Im 💯 healthy and disease free after all the bbjs, condoms coming off, etc over the years...I meen shit happens..
And not saying I never would, if I found the babe of my dreams.. but given a choice like most men, low body count is invaluable in the relationship market..
So maybe if you need a smack in the face, wakeup call, think about how much cums been on them lips, in her pussy, maybe her ass..then see how you feel..🤣
Might matter, might not..but the simple truth is you pay her to fk and suck you..thats hard for anybody to ignore..
If that dont help you..
Find an image of her, cut a whole in her mouth and put it in front of a mouse trap...then stick your dick IN it...
Ssssnnaaaaaaappp...Yyyeeeeeooooooooooowwwwww..
Youuuu fkn biaaaatch you tricked me AGAIN !!!
CURED....
YOUR WELCOME 😁
🤣😂🤣😂🤣

 

[kingtut]

I've been seeing an SP consistently for about a year at an AMP. I went from seeing her once a month to lately once a week. She's really kind to me and I do everything I can to be a great client for her. She's always happy to see me and we have great physical chemistry but we've just never found our social stride in that time. Talking is downright awkward even though there's a lot of trust and connection physically. I realized today that I've created a weird fantasy around her in my mind and I think I'm subtly (I hope subtly!) forcing a type of intimacy on her that she doesn't want.

My problem is that I don't know what to do. I realize I'm the dummy for turning this into something bigger in my head when she was just doing her job! Do I just have to stop seeing this person? I'm so attracted to her that it breaks my brain, and obviously I don't want to stop going! But I genuinely can't perform lately because of the fantasy version that's not happening and my self-judgement about it all. It's like I'm torturing myself and I'm so in my head about it.

Surely this has happened to some gents before - a sort of unrequited desire for more intimacy and care. Is the solution to go cold turkey? Do I book a session just to talk to her and let her know I caught feelings and I'm sorry and that's why I won't be back? I've really lost perspective on this. Any help is appreciated!

I was the same. I was falling for this SP. I booked her all the time for like 4 months. I even helped her cleaning up her place. Have dinner, throw garbage and play family with her. I had fantasies about spending my life with her. Like you, I know she was using me and seeing me as a cash cow. Her service is a hit or miss to some people but I kept coming back to her. One time, she just played mobile game after I finished early and I just wanted to cuddle with her and watch her play. I kid you not; I was considering just paying her entire day so no one can book her. At some point, I asked her if she would date anyone. She said no and that's how I was able to move on.

Well, not exactly, each time I miss her; I book a SP. First day cutting off, I booked my first threesome. I met so many better/cuter SPs but I still miss her sometimes.

But for sure, "Go cold turkey" is the best advice thus far.

 

[Tsubame]

Good answers here.

Yes, time to either decide to be just a friendly client, or let it go.

I know it's great when they are pretty, smiley, and give you sweetest hug before you leave. Everything a lonely guy could ever want.

But, it needs to stay in the friend zone. Maybe like your favorite hair stylist, or that bartender you always chat with.

I know some guys here will bring small gifts such as snacks or drinks. I think that is a wonderful act of kindness. Something you might do for anyone you are good with.

Just don't let yourself get hurt.

 

[Jim Morrison]

Good answers here.

Yes, time to either decide to be just a friendly client, or let it go.

I know it's great when they are pretty, smiley, and give you sweetest hug before you leave. Everything a lonely guy could ever want.

But, it needs to stay in the friend zone. Maybe like your favorite hair stylist, or that bartender you always chat with.

I know some guys here will bring small gifts such as snacks or drinks. I think that is a wonderful act of kindness. Something you might do for anyone you are good with.

Just don't let yourself get hurt.

 

[jjm86]

The problem is you are loyal to one SP, build a roster, then youll see things from their perspective.

They didnt get into this career field to have their Pretty woman fantasy come true.

Dude book another provider, itll help you understand the connection is strictly transactional,
Have you paid for every session?
Has she ever offered to see you outside of work?
Is the effort mutual? She texts you thru the day to see how you are, to share a funny meme

 

[Jim Morrison]

The problem is you are loyal to one SP, build a roster, then youll see things from their perspective.

They didnt get into this career field to have their Pretty woman fantasy come true.

Dude book another provider, itll help you understand the connection is strictly transactional,
Have you paid for every session?
Has she ever offered to see you outside of work?
Is the effort mutual? She texts you thru the day to see how you are, to share a funny meme

 

[Jim Morrison]

My bread is next level 😂
I use to bake fresh bread at like 8am.
Have a 1pm booked with a fave fk toy.
Id make her a cold cut sandwich with my fresh bread..she absolutely luved it..
Did she suck my dick a little harder..
Well maybe 🤣
*Sorry this attached to the wrong response..
But you get the point 😁

 

[Tsubame]

My bread is next level 😂
I use to bake fresh bread at like 8am.
Have a 1pm booked with a fave fk toy.
Id make her a cold cut sandwich with my fresh bread..she absolutely luved it..
Did she suck my dick a little harder..
Well maybe 🤣
*Sorry this attached to the wrong response..
But you get the point 😁

Looks great. Who wouldn't want that?

 

[thomasles]

Sorry bro, but she likes you because you're a paying customer, nothing more.

I realized this in my mid twenties in Vegas as the strip club. Ladies will give you attention as long as you have cash. At the end of the day they are hustlers through and through

 

[lukom]

Time to rebound. Book with a few other ladies, Multiple hours at a time with each, youll be over her. Truth is this is unhealthy to fall for someone through this field as a client. It's unlikely she has those feelings for you, and you'll always be a client and the relationship will always feel like there's a transactional component. It's different if you met her somewhere outside of this and she disclosed she escorts and you mutually agreed to take her up on her services and it became something through that. Much like seeing a friend who is a registered Massage therapist, where that can later become romantic.

 

[ChrisAYC]

It's never happened to me, but I would personally stop seeing that lady.
I know it's hard, but I don't think any good will come out of you hoping that she reciprocates your feelings.
This is just work for her at the end of the day.

 

[Vlanvan]

It’s hard to learn from other people’s mistakes.

But this is your chance.

I had the same warnings you’re getting now. I knew they were right. And I still chose to learn the lesson the hard way.

If you’re here, reading this, you already feel it in your gut. You know this is a mistake. You’re just hoping someone will tell you it isn’t.

I won’t.

The cost is higher than you can see from where you’re standing.

Run.