Blackmailed....
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I tried that too and told him it'll be $1500 and he can't touch me with his hands, nor put his lips anywhere on my body and if he does, the session is over. He would have to lose my personal number and if he wants to contact me, to go through my agency. He asked why so much and i said, "cos you're a difficult client". and he got mad but agreed to it!!! After that I thought about the possibilities of him robbing me after, rough handling me during session etc. cos he's probably 3x the size of me!!!
I did call the military police but I hardly know where he lives etc. or what unit he is in etc. so I doubt it will be fruitful. I wish i had gotten that officer's name though that didnt take me seriously.
It's been a day since I changed my number and I haven't heard anything yet so hopefully he was all talk!
Thank you SOO much for the support, I can't exactly rely n family for this since they only know I work as a waitress heh...
If you lose friends over it, they were not real friends to begin with. Its a shame that we cant be proud of our choices and brag about the career we choose. There are a lot of judgmental, small minded, mean spirited people in this world and its better to not have that type as a friend any way.
There are two blackmailers here. The jerk harassing Moi and the broader community with its puritan right wing red neck hypocrisy and bigotry that gives Moi good reason to avoid being outed.
There was lots of advice I agree with above but I see problems with the “deny, deny, deny” approach and the suggestions that Moi should offer services she does not intend to provide.
As soon as you start lying you compromise your credibility generally and, perhaps more important, you run the risk of undermining your own self-respect. Moi has a right to demand that she be treated with respect by the jerk, her friends and the community at large. At the same time she has no obligation to answer in any way the accusation that she is an SP. There is a huge difference between deliberate silence and denying something that is true or saying something that is not true.
There was lots of advice I agree with above but I see problems with the “deny, deny, deny” approach and the suggestions that Moi should offer services she does not intend to provide.
As soon as you start lying you compromise your credibility generally and, perhaps more important, you run the risk of undermining your own self-respect. Moi has a right to demand that she be treated with respect by the jerk, her friends and the community at large. At the same time she has no obligation to answer in any way the accusation that she is an SP. There is a huge difference between deliberate silence and denying something that is true or saying something that is not true.
Agree totally. If people can't live with what you do Moi, perhaps they aren't that great of friends. I think most would just be curious about it really.
Good luck.
Just a thought
Moi,
You could add that you will only do it outcall to his place. This will give you his address. A piece of ID (copy of license) which you will hand back after the visit to prove his address. - Perhaps simplistic but that could get you his information.
The other thing you could do is arrange to meet him in a public place and get 6 PERBites to show up as well.
Above all stay strong and this will pass, keep your head and as others have mentioned you seem like a gal who has her stuff together so just keep on the course.
Moi,
You could add that you will only do it outcall to his place. This will give you his address. A piece of ID (copy of license) which you will hand back after the visit to prove his address. - Perhaps simplistic but that could get you his information.
The other thing you could do is arrange to meet him in a public place and get 6 PERBites to show up as well.
Above all stay strong and this will pass, keep your head and as others have mentioned you seem like a gal who has her stuff together so just keep on the course.
Gee, let me guess... this all took place after you asked him to hang your chandelier???????
You sound so much like V.V. it is funny!
And why all of the completely unrelated detail in your story???
"A huge, black guy, probably 2 1/2 times bigger than you had/has always been pushy and persistent to hang out says: "I just wanna tap that once - why are you making this so difficult?"
So far this is an average night at Richards on Richards!
But you are just out of character when making statements like telling him that he was "being rude and disrespectful" and "I don't feel comfortable with this" and telling him not to ask you anymore. Women simply don't do that in the club scene - otherwise there wouldn't be so much crime associated with such nightspots.
If women would have always established such personal positions in these scenarios then YOU wouldn't have been in the awkward spot you're in.
The facts remain that he asked you for a quote as to the price of your services and made it clear that he was interested in them. You have already established that you "don't like him at all" and that he "creeps you out", so it sounds like a standard evening in the biz.
Now the only variable here is whether you wish to stand on one side of Richards street (in the long line outside of the club) or on the other side of Richards street (under the awning of the long-gone diner on the corner, with the glow of what was Madam Cleo's marquee across the street).
In either case, a big, black guy 2 1/2 times your size putting the moves on your is entirely NORMAL.
The truth is that his size, race, or status as anything aside from a human male (or even female) has NOTHING to do with his taking personal interest in your paid sexual services.
You field his interest as you would that of any other and to do otherwise makes you seem a complete fool. NOTHING says you ever have to sleep with him at all, but heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee is NOT guilty for expressing interest as he would on either side of Richards.
Do you think it makes a difference at Safeway when two humans walk through the door and one is only there to 'look' while the other is 'buying' ?? (clue: the circle of what you might consider 'friends' {whom you "don't like at all"} are the supposed 'lookers' in your world, and anyone else is a potential 'buyer' of your sexual company)
Would you recommend that the checkers there judge the big-ness or the black-ness of one before discriminating against him just because of it?
Sorry girlie, but that would be illegal at Safeway and immoral for you to treat him any differently just for inquiring.
And then of course I'm guessing that you think that the Safeway checkers should then take offense and get mad at such point as when the clear discriminatory practices are pointed out by he/she who is the one being discriminated against.
What happens afterward doesn't matter one bit up to the point at which a crime has been committed.
Seems this post is about "Black Male" a lot more than "blackmail".
But thank you for showing your true colours!
My work and my personal life are separate, always have been. That does not mean people don't know, but to know me in my personal life and offer me money would just make me feel cheap, it is tactless. imho, it is important to have boundries.
If you work at Safe way at the end of your shift, you go home. We are not 24 hour hookers. (some are I suppose, but those are the women that are on drugs, pimped, or will be on drugs soon)
If you work at Safe way at the end of your shift, you go home. We are not 24 hour hookers. (some are I suppose, but those are the women that are on drugs, pimped, or will be on drugs soon)
So its completely acceptable to demand sexual favors and make threats against a person? And if its a person of a visible minority, be him or her black, brown, yellow, gay, straight, tall, short, fat or skinny then its discrimination and the person making the threats is not at fault for anything other than being different. I love your point! Are you part of any groups or organizations? Because i really see you as a president of something.
Huh? Umm, in case you didn't know, blackmail is a crime, so a crime has been committed. Why is it OK for somebody to commit a crime just because he happens to be black? Why is it discrimination to try to protect yourself from a man committing a crime against you just because he happens to be black? I'm afraid the logic of your post is somewhat faulty.
very good points (and funny), Jackcb.
as an independant you can discriminate based on anything you want, that is the wonderful thing about working for yourself.
I agree that color has nothing to do with anything, but he is big and he is threatening her, he's the one in the wrong, not her.
as an independant you can discriminate based on anything you want, that is the wonderful thing about working for yourself.
I agree that color has nothing to do with anything, but he is big and he is threatening her, he's the one in the wrong, not her.
I honestly don't get this whole thread. Tell the lumpy mother fucker to go fuck himself and cut off all contact. If he tells anyone what you do, tell them he said that if you don't screw him, he said he would tell everyone you're a hooker. People close to you will believe you and think he's a total scum bag. The end.
Wow, are you that naive? If she is a SP it probably happens to her everyday! The girls should be responsible and discerning.
Realistically, pooners are way more discriminating than the ladies...you're getting laid aren't you.
Dude, seems you didn't even *GET* my point:
The fact that this person is BLACK has exactly NOTHING to do with the post. Her merely having brought it up puts her in the wrong.
We can let her slide for bringing up the irrelevent part about somebody's death.
So far he is a friend she doesn't like... and a "client" she doesn't have...
Now exactly what, other than his blackness, is her problem with the way things have transpired?
Sorry pal, you're wrong:
""If you don't answer my calls or nothing, i'll be forced to tell everyone what you do".
Lets let "Moi" take that little ditty to the police. Sure she has it all saved in her text messages, so there will be no question that he texted exactly that.
As prostitution is perfectly legal in Canada she'll have no barrier to marching right to the police with this evidence, and with you as her counsel, it is a sure thing that he'll be booked and locked up almost immediately.
Furthermore, she would have done exactly that immediately if anyone anywhere thought an actual "crime" had been committed.
Fact is that she TOLD him voluntarily what she does, and he is perfectly free to inform anyone anywhere about that.
The woman ("Moi") brought all of this upon herself by not employing some common sense in the first place, and not conducting herself appropriately beyond that. (two wrongs don't make her 'right')
The more appropriate question is: "why is it OK to blame someone for committing a crime just because he is black?"
I've got news for you, pal. Racial prejudice is far more near to a crime than was anything that Moi's "friend" whom she "doesn't even like" has done in this story... YET.
Dude, I think you missed the point of her post.
Exactly, you are the one making a big deal out of his color. Black men can be intimidating, it's not racist, shit some of them scare me too.
The relevant part about Chantel's death was that she had already stopped communicating with this person and he seemed to use it as a means to contact her again.
Yeah, he's no longer a friend and he's a client she doesn't want.
He is blackmailing her, regardless of how it transpired he is totally in the wrong. It's not his blackness that's her problem, it's the blackmail. You seem to be the only one making something out of his race.
Let me give you some advice then - don't fuck the black men you so fear!
Seems you must not know the definition of the word "client".
I'm getting the feeling you don't know the meaning of the word "blackmail" either.
And no, "Moi" is in the wrong - as she controlled her own destiny from start to finish. Thanks to her foolishness, she just doesn't get to know when the finish is.
Hunh??? I didn't even KNOW his race until I read her first post, and his race continues to have nothing to do with the point.
Racial prejudice is great... and thriving... for those who keep it to themselves!!!
