Being too picky might prevent you from having a good experience

[gianni lotus]

I gave her a 7 because that’s my point. I am not telling people to go and book someone who’s a 3 in their opinion. Booking providers should still be enjoyable.

Also, if you can find a girl in real life good for you but not everyone can.

One of the very few that I have repeated with is a generous 3. But she is nice and fun and knows how to make my toes curl like nobody else has. That is why I see her regularly. I kind of wish she was more attractive to me but often I will choose to go see her because I know she is going to make me feel great and seeing some new hottie may be very disappointing.

Good service trumps looks for sure. There is also a provider here now who is a 9.5 in looks for me (subjective!) and a 9.5 in service for me (subjective!). You would think between these two I would be satisfied but I still look for more for some reason.

FOMO or "the thrill of the hunt", or just being plain greedy? Maybe all three? I'm not 100% sure of my motivations and the ultimate dream fantasy unicorn SP may not exist, but I keep on looking.

So I am picky in my quest for the best but I don't limit my experiences by looks alone is what I am trying to say.

 

[apl16]

Obviously, if you are looking to book an escort, you should be able to pick the woman of your dreams (or close to). It is all part of the fantasy after all, calling a girl that you’d probably be too shy to approach in a bar. Meeting up with a woman half your age. Getting a pretty girl on her knees.

However, I fear some of you are unnecessarily picky. Let me explain myself and you can agree or judge respectfully after.

Yes the looks are important when choosing a companion but there’s more to it. There are many providers that don’t exactly look like Adriana Lima in her prime time but that would give you the experience of a lifetime. An addictive personality, a magnetic charm and just amazing bedroom skills.

By closing your mind to seeing white women only, Asian women only or black women only, you are potentially preventing yourself from getting a great experience.

Same for the folks saying they don’t want to meet anyone who isn’t
. I have a lot of things to say about that but for the sake of this thread I’ll just say that booking someone who is able to rent a car (25 and older) isn’t going to hurt you especially if you are above 45, what difference does it make? A 30 year old woman is still already 15 years younger than you. Would a woman 15 years younger respond to your flirts if you approached her in a bar?

Start progressively, if you’re always looking for a 110 lbs woman, start looking for a 115 lbs. if you’re always looking for a 19 year old, start looking for a 20 year old.

TLDR: Keep an open mind, having a narrow vision and being too focused on finding the perfect woman will keep you away from amazing experiences.

I can vividly remember my best 3 experiences with ladies.

- the first one was about 10 years ago. She was very average looking but she seemed to dig me. I saw her weekly for about 3 months. Lower on the price scale but we connected in an amazing way. She would never let me leave without both of us were exhausted.
Second one was again very average looking but again a great connection. She was an amp lady and loved me banging her ass, nearly begging me for it. Some crazy experiences.

The 3rd one was not very physical attractive but again we clicked. Once in the room she would ravage me, tearing my clothes off. Usually she kept me much past the allotted time.
I kinda felt sorry for her after I was gone. The whole room would be covered in cum, sweat, and squirt. Someone had to clean it up!

All of these ladies would refuse extra tips and just want me to come back.

For me it was all about the connection and respecting the lady. Having the ability to satisfy her can lead to amazing encounters!

 

[oldshark]

Don't have too many rules in picking a lady. I like one with a good attitude. I tend to go for smaller slimmer ones but that allows me to cope better with my own medical issues. Finally I won't touch anyone I think is less than 20, indeed I tend to favour women in their late thirties and onwards.

There are a lot of great ladies out there. Treat them right and you usually get a great experience.

 

[white Ninja]

I can vividly remember my best 3 experiences with ladies.

- the first one was about 10 years ago. She was very average looking but she seemed to dig me. I saw her weekly for about 3 months. Lower on the price scale but we connected in an amazing way. She would never let me leave without both of us were exhausted.
Second one was again very average looking but again a great connection. She was an amp lady and loved me banging her ass, nearly begging me for it. Some crazy experiences.

The 3rd one was not very physical attractive but again we clicked. Once in the room she would ravage me, tearing my clothes off. Usually she kept me much past the allotted time.
I kinda felt sorry for her after I was gone. The whole room would be covered in cum, sweat, and squirt. Someone had to clean it up!

All of these ladies would refuse extra tips and just want me to come back.

For me it was all about the connection and respecting the lady. Having the ability to satisfy her can lead to amazing encounters!

This elusive type of connection burns itself into our minds as it is so rare. But also which makes it so treasured. I completely agree, within the confines of basic physical attraction, connection trumps everything.

 

[vanperb]

This elusive type of connection burns itself into our minds as it is so rare. But also which makes it so treasured. I completely agree, within the confines of basic physical attraction, connection trumps everything.

The worse part it is completely random. No amount of photo editing or length of bio can help you figure out if that connection will happen. The fact you're paying for it does increase the odds of her at least pretending.

 

[uncleg]

If I want and can afford a Hummer...the driving kind, why should I settle for a Toyota ? It might be more practical, easier to maintain and park...but it's not what I want. Should I change my position just because a Toyota owner thinks I'm being picky ? It's what I'm there to experience that counts, not what another person thinks I could/should experience.

 

[phukedup1]

If one is already experiencing a variety of partners through this avenue, it seems like the perfect opportunity to expand one's horizons and see what one might be missing. One might find themselves learning something about oneself. Speaking for myself, I did learn that my "type" was not really my type (to a certain extent) after all.

 

[dare.devil]

I can understand being picky could be because of limited time or money. But as per my pov exploring and having fun is the best approach.

It is not only one or two things which make sexual activity pleasurable, there are many things at play and you can't assess it based on just a few characteristics.

 

[Big_Guy_Rye]

I'm not picky at all.

I don't go browsing for that freshly legal, would-be super-model provider....aka: The Unicorn.

Considering the types of providers there are in the Western part of the world. I'm more concerned about safety, cleanliness, enthusiasm, and professionalism.

In my experiences, I've had more fun with girl-next-door types, than 'high-maintenance' types. Makes the session be more 'real', than forcing a fantasy that you are some VIP Socialite....Don't care if she's got a big ass, as long as she knows how to use it, lol.

 

[wincity23]

I think i'm picky, and in some respects, that has increased. Perhaps not in the way LC was referring though. I've gotten a little pickier about body type-i've learned better what i find i find more and most attractive (to me). I'm super picky about communication and my expectations prior to a meet. I'd rather see someone older than too young which is a little pickier than when i first started. Never having expectations is a decent way to stay satisfied with an encounter but having expectations and them exceeded, is where the memories are made. I feel like i have a healthy balance of expectations and that they can be met by a variety of women.

 

[GentlemanJack69]

I have preferences.. things that I like, but they are just preferences (things that appeal to me), not requirements. If you're not willing to try something or someone new that's unfortunate and IMHO your loss. I find the rating "game" very amusing. the things that one person desires and finds erotic or exotic, may be a complete turn off for someone else. I watched a podcast on YouTube talking about the "high value man" and "high value woman" and the attributes that they ascribed to these hypothetical high value individuals were not important to me at all and I don't pursue any of these attributes for myself. Beauty is, as they say, in the eye of the beholder.
Good communication and trust - a comfortable connection are the most valuable criteria in my opinion.. which is why you will often hear differing opinions about the same SP and the acronym YMMV is bandied about quite liberally.
I find the Perb reviews to be excellent in helping to avoid negative experiences and I thank those that went before, for their sage advice and entertaining commentary.

 

[bruce.pepper]

I have preferences.. things that I like, but they are just preferences (things that appeal to me), not requirements. If you're not willing to try something or someone new that's unfortunate and IMHO your loss. I find the rating "game" very amusing. the things that one person desires and finds erotic or exotic, may be a complete turn off for someone else. I watched a podcast on YouTube talking about the "high value man" and "high value woman" and the attributes that they ascribed to these hypothetical high value individuals were not important to me at all and I don't pursue any of these attributes for myself. Beauty is, as they say, in the eye of the beholder.
Good communication and trust - a comfortable connection are the most valuable criteria in my opinion.. which is why you will often hear differing opinions about the same SP and the acronym YMMV is bandied about quite liberally.
I find the Perb reviews to be excellent in helping to avoid negative experiences and I thank those that went before, for their sage advice and entertaining commentary.

Yeah but we are talking about paying money for sex.
Not having a long term relationship.

 

[GentlemanJack69]

Yeah but we are talking about paying money for sex.
Not having a long term relationship.

I wasn't talking about a long term relationship.. I was talking a methodology for increasing the probability of having an incredible experience from a mere business transaction (paying money for sex). If all you're doing is paying money for sex, with zero reciprocal impulse - giving nothing - you will have physical pleasure (about as much as you can get from masturbating).. but no more. You might as well stay home, watch porn and masturbate. Being in the moment, and striving to make the experience an enjoyable connection for both parties, results in a greater experience. (at least that has been my experience thus far). Certainly YMMV.

 

[angry anderson]

I can vividly remember my best 3 experiences with ladies.

- the first one was about 10 years ago. She was very average looking but she seemed to dig me. I saw her weekly for about 3 months. Lower on the price scale but we connected in an amazing way. She would never let me leave without both of us were exhausted.
Second one was again very average looking but again a great connection. She was an amp lady and loved me banging her ass, nearly begging me for it. Some crazy experiences.

The 3rd one was not very physical attractive but again we clicked. Once in the room she would ravage me, tearing my clothes off. Usually she kept me much past the allotted time.
I kinda felt sorry for her after I was gone. The whole room would be covered in cum, sweat, and squirt. Someone had to clean it up!

All of these ladies would refuse extra tips and just want me to come back.

For me it was all about the connection and respecting the lady. Having the ability to satisfy her can lead to amazing encounters!

 

[_Melissa]

Obviously, if you are looking to book an escort, you should be able to pick the woman of your dreams (or close to). It is all part of the fantasy after all, calling a girl that you’d probably be too shy to approach in a bar. Meeting up with a woman half your age. Getting a pretty girl on her knees.

However, I fear some of you are unnecessarily picky. Let me explain myself and you can agree or judge respectfully after.

Yes the looks are important when choosing a companion but there’s more to it. There are many providers that don’t exactly look like Adriana Lima in her prime time but that would give you the experience of a lifetime. An addictive personality, a magnetic charm and just amazing bedroom skills.

By closing your mind to seeing white women only, Asian women only or black women only, you are potentially preventing yourself from getting a great experience.

Same for the folks saying they don’t want to meet anyone who isn’t
. I have a lot of things to say about that but for the sake of this thread I’ll just say that booking someone who is able to rent a car (25 and older) isn’t going to hurt you especially if you are above 45, what difference does it make? A 30 year old woman is still already 15 years younger than you. Would a woman 15 years younger respond to your flirts if you approached her in a bar?

Start progressively, if you’re always looking for a 110 lbs woman, start looking for a 115 lbs. if you’re always looking for a 19 year old, start looking for a 20 year old.

TLDR: Keep an open mind, having a narrow vision and being too focused on finding the perfect woman will keep you away from amazing experiences.

I agree with this! Early on in my career, I worked at a massage parlour here in Toronto. A whole line up of girls said hi to a walk in client. I said hi as well and then he chose me from the line up. I gave him a great experience as I always aim to do! He took my number and booked again the next week. After we finished the second session he looked at me in disbelief.

He then explained that he has a very specific type. I was surprised to hear his type was the opposite of me! He prefers petite spinner blonde Caucasian women, especially if they have fake tits. I’m tall, curvy as hell, all natural and very clearly and ebony woman. I asked him why he chose me. He said he couldn’t quite put his finger on it. He originally chose his preference when he saw the blonde in our line up. But he said that he saw me and there was a kind of magnetism that pulled him in and turned him on. He was surprised he had an unexpectedly fantastic time and I was surprised that I wasn’t his type to begin with because his body said otherwise *wink wink*! Lmao

Needless to say, he was glad he stepped outside comfort zone. He says he still sees his preferred type but every now and then he knows he can switch it up if and when he wants to and it doesn’t have to be the same repetitive thing over and over!He’s been seeing me in and off for years ever since!

He even told me he tried to see other kinds of ladies too! BBW, Asian, Indian, red heads… some experiences he liked and others not so much. But I’m the end he was glad he tired it all because now he knows what flavours he likes and what flavours he doesn’t! Exploration can really take you places you never thought possible!

 

[GentlemanJack69]

He then explained that he has a very specific type.

I completely agree with this. Being able to connect is far more important than physical preferences. I've had two poor/bad experiences in this hobby and both had nothing to do with the physicality, ethnicity, etc. of the SP, but were because of lack of connection / indifference / poor attitude. Learned my lesson, researched Perb and went from there.

 

[bruce.pepper]

I wasn't talking about a long term relationship.. I was talking a methodology for increasing the probability of having an incredible experience from a mere business transaction (paying money for sex). If all you're doing is paying money for sex, with zero reciprocal impulse - giving nothing - you will have physical pleasure (about as much as you can get from masturbating).. but no more. You might as well stay home, watch porn and masturbate. Being in the moment, and striving to make the experience an enjoyable connection for both parties, results in a greater experience. (at least that has been my experience thus far). Certainly YMMV.

No one is saying that just because you are paying for sex its a "zero reciprocal impulse - giving nothing - you will have physical pleasure (about as much as you can get from masturbating).. but no more"
You are putting words in my mouth.

I like to pay for sex with a woman I find physically attractive, who is friendly and gives me good service with a good attitude.

The whole "deep connection" stuff isn't necessary for me, because I get that elsewhere in life, and prefer the real thing to the paid version.
Not everyone who is paying for sex is desperately lonely and lacking human connection. A good chunk of guys here can still get sex and connections from woman without paying for it.

Paying for sex with someone i'm not attracted to makes zero sense. It only really makes sense for incels and those without real human connections.

This whole thread is basically just providers, and extremely lonely men trying to gaslight everyone.

 

[GentlemanJack69]

No one is saying that just because you are paying for sex its a "zero reciprocal impulse - giving nothing - you will have physical pleasure (about as much as you can get from masturbating).. but no more"
You are putting words in my mouth.

I like to pay for sex with a woman I find physically attractive, who is friendly and gives me good service with a good attitude.

The whole "deep connection" stuff isn't necessary for me, because I get that elsewhere in life, and prefer the real thing to the paid version.
Not everyone who is paying for sex is desperately lonely and lacking human connection. A good chunk of guys here can still get sex and connections from woman without paying for it.

Paying for sex with someone i'm not attracted to makes zero sense. It only really makes sense for incels and those without real human connections.

This whole thread is basically just providers, and extremely lonely men trying to gaslight everyone.

Relax Bruce Pepper.. no need to go all aggro attack dog on me..
By your own logic if you're on this thread you're either a provider or an extremely lonely man trying to gaslight everyone. I am willing to assume that isn't the case, and you should do the same for the rest of us.

I apologize if you felt like I was putting words in your mouth, that was not my intent.. I was replying to the connotation that I would equate the SP/customer relationship with a "long term relationship". I am not looking for a deep connection either.. but I am looking for connection in the moment. Perhaps you would equate this to the "friendly" and "good attitude" attributes that you're looking for.

I agree that "not everyone who is paying for sex is desperately lonely and lacking human connection". I am certainly not lonely and lacking human connection - I have an active personal life including family and friends and again my assumption is that most people do.. they simply enjoy uncomplicated sex.

I am not an "incel", nor do I lack human connection. I am not looking to attract a woman sexually, (I'm happily married, love my wife). I'm looking for a relaxing time and release with a sexy woman.. what we're doing is a business transaction but I certainly hope that it's a pleasurable transaction for both of us.

If you, or anyone, does not want to step outside their comfort zone and try someone different that is absolutely fine and their prerogative, just as it's an SP's prerogative to have restrictions themselves. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Take a walk on the wild side.. or don't.. perfectly fine either way.

The intent of the thread is to question those preferences and restrictions in a thought provoking way.
Have a wonderful weekend.

GJ

 

[bruce.pepper]

Relax Bruce Pepper.. no need to go all aggro attack dog on me..
By your own logic if you're on this thread you're either a provider or an extremely lonely man trying to gaslight everyone. I am willing to assume that isn't the case, and you should do the same for the rest of us.

I apologize if you felt like I was putting words in your mouth, that was not my intent.. I was replying to the connotation that I would equate the SP/customer relationship with a "long term relationship". I am not looking for a deep connection either.. but I am looking for connection in the moment. Perhaps you would equate this to the "friendly" and "good attitude" attributes that you're looking for.

I agree that "not everyone who is paying for sex is desperately lonely and lacking human connection". I am certainly not lonely and lacking human connection - I have an active personal life including family and friends and again my assumption is that most people do.. they simply enjoy uncomplicated sex.

I am not an "incel", nor do I lack human connection. I am not looking to attract a woman sexually, (I'm happily married, love my wife). I'm looking for a relaxing time and release with a sexy woman.. what we're doing is a business transaction but I certainly hope that it's a pleasurable transaction for both of us.

If you, or anyone, does not want to step outside their comfort zone and try someone different that is absolutely fine and their prerogative, just as it's an SP's prerogative to have restrictions themselves. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Take a walk on the wild side.. or don't.. perfectly fine either way.

The intent of the thread is to question those preferences and restrictions in a thought provoking way.
Have a wonderful weekend.

GJ

Wasnt attacking you. Sorry you took it that way.

Thanks for clarifying, makes sense, reasonable.
Sorry for misinterpreting what you were saying.

Have a good weekend.