Being in Love

[Corym]

There are many types of media on the subject of Love.

You know, books, films, songs, real life experiences, etc.

I have a strong and compelling desire to post another one.

So here goes....when I was young, I met a gorgeous woman a few years my junior and we fell madly in love with each other.

We had dreams of being with each other until death due us apart.

However these dreams fell apart and the unpredictability of life set in.

Our love ended and it took me a very long time to get over her.

Lately I have dreams of her and we are together again than I wake up to realize it was just a dream.

To my point I want to be in Love again but for me, I feel it will never happen again.

Maybe I am a sentimental fool....hmmm okay I admit I am.

I work hard and give tirelessly to my friends and family and don't expect anything back in return.

However I know the Love component is missing :-(

All I want is to be the happy guy in the love song videos you see.

I feel like Paul Giamatti in the movie Duets....he comes home and no one gives a S*** so he hits the road and becomes an outlaw.

Feeling empty somewhere in Vancouver :-(

Corym

 

[Miss Hunter]

Helen Fisher's book Why We Love is a good read

 

[MissingOne]

... All I want is to be the happy guy in the love song videos you see. ...

I hope you find your love, but I think you will be most successful if you understand that the guy in the videos exists only in the videos.

 

[angry anderson]

There are many types of media on the subject of Love.

You know, books, films, songs, real life experiences, etc.

I have a strong and compelling desire to post another one.

So here goes....when I was young, I met a gorgeous woman a few years my junior and we fell madly in love with each other.

We had dreams of being with each other until death due us apart.

However these dreams fell apart and the unpredictability of life set in.

Our love ended and it took me a very long time to get over her.

Lately I have dreams of her and we are together again than I wake up to realize it was just a dream.

To my point I want to be in Love again but for me, I feel it will never happen again.

Maybe I am a sentimental fool....hmmm okay I admit I am.

I work hard and give tirelessly to my friends and family and don't expect anything back in return.

However I know the Love component is missing :-(

All I want is to be the happy guy in the love song videos you see.

I feel like Paul Giamatti in the movie Duets....he comes home and no one gives a S*** so he hits the road and becomes an outlaw.

Feeling empty somewhere in Vancouver :-(

Corym

Well, as they say in support groups. "you are in the right place"

 

[Corym]

Thank-you for your comments and suggestions, I appreciate it

Corym

 

[poonerboi]

I don't think that "true love" exists anymore. With both sexes working on being successful career wise, it doesn't leave alot of room for time invested in socializing. Add in the cost of living and the fact that to have a nice place ,nice car,etc most people can't afford it on their own. Hence the immense popularity of dating sites and apps. Many get married out of necessity and convenience.

In any case, passionate love usually doesn't work out in this day and age with divorce being so easy. Couples don't want to work at relationships anymore: they are as disposable as a starbucks coffee cup.

I had found 2 great loves in this life. Unfortunately, one was just using me financially and the other didn't reciprocate it. So I would be happy to just find someone I get along well with and marry a "best friend" to grow old with.

 

[Corym]

I think true love is still out there...I had a best friend but we left it at that. She married someone and today we are still good friends. Although we laugh about what if we ever became a couple back in the day.

Corym

 

[mercedeswest]

"Couples don't want to work at relationships anymore: they are as disposable as a starbucks coffee cup."

In my opinion, I believe it's not that people don't want to work on relationships, is that people realize that once you have tried working on your relationship and nothing changes, then you realize life is too short to spend it with someone who's not willing to make the changes necessary to make it a happy and fulfilling one. There's not the stigma that there once was where if you got a divorce, you are the Talk of the Town. I'm talking out of personal experience of course. I tried my hardest to make my relationship work. But I knew that if I stayed, we would both be miserable.

 

[GerryD]

Hey I know the feeling. I met this awesome gal chemistry was awesome , sex was intense like from a past life ... the emotional connection was overwhelming . Could not get her out of my head. Never experienced anything like that in my life... I wish I had that with my so, life feels half empty... so I know the feeling. I know we won’t be together as a couple ...life would be perfect so we are friends that have so. I would be with her in a heartbeat and never look back if she was free. Then again love is a feeling , people change over time , life circumstances change.... but I can’t forget that feeling it’s like a beam connected to my heart . Once in a lifetime thing I guess.

 

[604jbear]

Maybe I'm the lucky one? I truly love my wife. Our marriage has not been perfect, have had our shares of ups and downs (been married for 10+ years), but I cannot imagine my life with anybody else - I'd do anything for her. We did see a couples counsellor at one point which really helped. Unfortunately due to some health issues, our sex life took a nosedive which caused some initial friction - after some discussion she allowed me to see SPs - understanding that I had physical needs not being met and that I'm not trying find another partner. I'm lucky she is more open than the typical wife - prior to said issues we would go for couples erotic massages and visit domes together. Apart from work we do almost everything together. She picked up on my hobbies so we do them together - I don't have a lot of friends so she has truly been my soul mate. When we're old, I hope I die first - I don't know what I'd do without her.

 

[EuroSZabina]

Maybe I'm the lucky one? I truly love my wife. Our marriage has not been perfect, have had our shares of ups and downs (been married for 10+ years), but I cannot imagine my life with anybody else - I'd do anything for her. We did see a couples counsellor at one point which really helped. Unfortunately due to some health issues, our sex life took a nosedive which caused some initial friction - after some discussion she allowed me to see SPs - understanding that I had physical needs not being met and that I'm not trying find another partner. I'm lucky she is more open than the typical wife - prior to said issues we would go for couples erotic massages and visit domes together. Apart from work we do almost everything together. She picked up on my hobbies so we do them together - I don't have a lot of friends so she has truly been my soul mate. When we're old, I hope I die first - I don't know what I'd do without her.

Very sweet, thank you for sharing and I'm so happy true love still exist. I got a bit tear up at your last 2 sentences.

 

[take8easy]

You have come to the perfect place.

This forum is full of lovers; Russian lovers, Greek lovers, Amazon lovers, Asian lovers, Indian lovers, CIM lovers, Donguan lovers, doggy lovers, missionary lovers.

 

[luvsdaty]

I'd like to believe true love exists. But like anything worth having, it takes a lot of work,compromises and understanding. Boundaries, even learning how to fight,you can't unsay something once you've said it and some people just go too far.
There's not a lot that feels better than when you have that special connection with someone,the little things that you share just between the two of you.
I hope you find your true love.

 

[koko2019]

well said I hope you find your true love.

 

[Corym]

Thank-you all for your replies...it means a lot to me.

To 604jbear...wow that is amazing...I am happy for you!!!

To luvsdaty and koko2019...Thanks for your wishes.

I keep want to feel that excitement of being in love...you know when your breathe is taken away for a moment when you see each other.

Anyways...I have to rush off but will check in once in awhile.

Cheers,

Corym

 

[UhOh]

Unfortunately sometimes you don't recognize it until its gone

 

[Correct]

Unfortunately sometimes you don't recognize it until its gone

Words of wisdom right there!