be honest - who's done this?

[SweetVIPs]

You're on the street, in a restaurant, or in the grocery store and much to your surprise a beautiful service provider turns the corner you make eye contact.

Instantly a flood of memories of some very hot and sexy times shared with this stunning beauty fill your mind, what do you do? Smile, wink, give a friendly wave and hello?

If your answer wasn't immediately look the other way, stop eye contact and do not motion any acknowledgement - THEN YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG!

PRO TIP : Even if they seem to be alone - always error on the side of caution when presented with this scenario. If you think it's rude - just explain you "snubbed them in public for discretionary sake" next time you are together. I gauren-fuckin-tee that SP is going to appreciate this approach to seeing them in "the wild" WAY MORE - and instead of being black listed - you get to keep making sweet memories together - WIN WIN.

XOXO Ms.Harvi

 

[grusse]

You're on the street, in a restaurant, or in the grocery store and much to your surprise a beautiful service provider turns the corner you make eye contact.

Instantly a flood of memories of some very hot and sexy times shared with this stunning beauty fill your mind, what do you do? Smile, wink, give a friendly wave and hello?

If your answer wasn't immediately look the other way, stop eye contact and do not motion any acknowledgement - THEN YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG!

PRO TIP : Even if they seem to be alone - always error on the side of caution when presented with this scenario. If you think it's rude - just explain you "snubbed them in public for discretionary sake" next time you are together. I gauren-fuckin-tee that SP is going to appreciate this approach to seeing them in "the wild" WAY MORE - and instead of being black listed - you get to keep making sweet memories together - WIN WIN.

XOXO Ms.Harvi

Totally agree....but it's happened to me 3 times and my reflexes are quicker than my cognitive ability I guess.
I recover and apologize saying I mistook you etc. which has made it ok.
One of the ladies didn't give a toss,gave me a hug and we had a nice chat...at Granville and Georgia!

 

[EuroSZabina]

There's nothing wrong to look at a beautiful lady or a handsome guy anywhere we are.
Just be discreet if you recognize her.
Use your common sense what to do or what is inappropriate in certain situations.

 

[masterblaster]

There’s no place for honesty on the internet.

 

[FreeG]

You're on the street, in a restaurant, or in the grocery store and much to your surprise a beautiful service provider turns the corner you make eye contact.

Instantly a flood of memories of some very hot and sexy times shared with this stunning beauty fill your mind, what do you do? Smile, wink, give a friendly wave and hello?

If your answer wasn't immediately look the other way, stop eye contact and do not motion any acknowledgement - THEN YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG!

PRO TIP : Even if they seem to be alone - always error on the side of caution when presented with this scenario. If you think it's rude - just explain you "snubbed them in public for discretionary sake" next time you are together. I gauren-fuckin-tee that SP is going to appreciate this approach to seeing them in "the wild" WAY MORE - and instead of being black listed - you get to keep making sweet memories together - WIN WIN.

XOXO Ms.Harvi

Well said!

As someone else once said (here or on Twitter?): “If you think you see a SW in public, YOU DIDN’T.”

 

[masterpoonhunter]

This is that scenario whether its a SW or a civi gorgeous gal, it gives me the opportunity to pull out an ancient totally corny line of "Well Hi, do you make a habit of being the most beautiful woman in this part of town?" Almost always gets a laugh and I haven't been face slapped yet, and its been decades.
But seriously its happened a few times and every time (its been just me) I have no hesitation of walking over and saying hi, chit chatting then moving on so I don't cramp her style.
Not 100% sure what I would do if I was with friends, family, etc.

 

[Ed Neil]

This only happened to me once. I was going into a restaurant with some friends and a SP that I had frequented a couple years before was coming out also with a group of friends. We made eye contact and both smiled and nodded hello, but did not really say anything. Had we met like this and both been alone, I probably would have said hello and asked how she was doing.

 

[steverino]

What I find amusing/perhaps distressing is that sometime, when I first see someone, I recognize them, but out of context I am not sure where. As I have worked in the "education" field I am frequently in the presence of young ladies. I have smiled or nodded or maybe even said hello not realizing at the moment in time that it was an escort. I have never had repercussions but it can happen without intent.

 

[oldshark]

in a public setting, I don't ever make eye contact if it is a chance encounter. Pretend that the lady is unknown to me. Everyone deserves their privacy outside work.

 

[Forum mod]

This topic has been done a few times, the only way to proceed is to pretend they are strangers, from both sides. Laugh about it later, but avoid any issues with families, spouses and the like.

 

[ExpCharlee]

I totally fuckin broke character once and saw an old sugar daddy at a Death Cab for Cutie concert and just ran up to him and said his name and gave him a huge hug LOL OOPS. I dunno we would have just made up a story if he’d been with someone 😂

Disclaimer: I would never do that now this was quite some time ago haha

 

[SweetVIPs]

This topic has been done a few times, the only way to proceed is to pretend they are strangers, from both sides. Laugh about it later, but avoid any issues with families, spouses and the like.

For sure it's a topic that's been discussed many times and you would think or hope that people get it. It's just for me the reason to post this was I've had three girls that I know in our small town be approached and outed by clients on the street in this year alone.

One of them was a discussion right here on perb explaining where the girl lived who she was seen out in public with and people commenting on it for days - I actually even contacted support but they didn't take down any of the info for ages which resulted in the girl quitting the industry which was really a loss because everyone who met her absolutely loved her.

Aside from that another girl had one of her independent clients do this just the other night and she was out in public with her boyfriend so lots of questions. now she can't have any advertising with pictures for the foreseeable future which hurts her bottom line.

Another situation was from a blacklisted client who pulled up to the girl in her vehicle where she was parked sat there waited to make eye contact and then waved and smiled and drove off- what the fuck!

I know we are human and I know we can make mistakes in the moment I guess it was a PSA reminder - but also to find out what other experiences people have had recently and maybe communicating and understanding better ways to deal with it when it happens.

xoxo ms.Harvi

 

[SweetVIPs]

This only happened to me once. I was going into a restaurant with some friends and a SP that I had frequented a couple years before was coming out also with a group of friends. We made eye contact and both smiled and nodded hello, but did not really say anything. Had we met like this and both been alone, I probably would have said hello and asked how she was doing.

Never assume = best to have this topic of conversation with your provider and ask what they would prefer if you ran into each other in public. I know for the ladies I provide orientation with - we really make sure they understand what is expected to error on the side of discretion and respect people's privacy.

 

[westwoody]

Never assume

Then don’t assume your stance applies to everyone ok?
Anyone can approach me any time. I am fine with it. I have several co workers who are extremely attractive ladies, never had an issue with them saying hi.
I don’t approach any sp’s. It’s their call.

 

[SweetVIPs]

Then don’t assume your stance applies to everyone ok?
Anyone can approach me any time. I am fine with it. I have several co workers who are extremely attractive ladies, never had an issue with them saying hi.
I don’t approach any sp’s. It’s their call.

I'm sorry - but I do believe in our industry it is prudent to err on the side of caution or to even be hyper diligent about it.
I think we all want to protect the providers who work in an industry that is historically known to stigmatize them for their profession.
If you are ok with ladies approaching you - then yes by all means - let them know when you spend time in person, as most experienced professionals wouldn't assume it was ok.
I do apologize if I came across negatively - it's been a crap year for clients assuming it's ok to write about or approach ladies in their private lives and I've seen how negatively it affects their lives.
I've worked with 1000s of ladies in Victoria, Vancouver, Calgary, Edmonton etc for almost 20 years - and it is a RARE that a service provider is comfortable being approached in their private lives - but you are right they do exist.

 

[LLLurkJ2]

I ran into an Sp id never visited once. We both kind of eyed each other up with recognition, but it wasnt till i found her later on Leos that i realized who she was. Not sure why she eyed me up though.

 

[Uncled]

Not sure why she eyed me up though.

Oh come on, don’t be modest.

We all know she was mesmerized by your awesome studlyness.

 

[ExpCharlee]

I ran into an Sp id never visited once. We both kind of eyed each other up with recognition, but it wasnt till i found her later on Leos that i realized who she was. Not sure why she eyed me up though.

probably because you were staring at her and she was trying to asses the situation, like "is this guy gonna hurt me? does he recognize me? is he a client I've seen who I don't recognize?" lots of stuff goes through our head when strange men stare at us, almost never good. it's terrifying tbh

 

[Overthetop1]

Ok but I have been in the position before ( airport , on a plane , in a bar , in an eatery and even in a different country half way around the world ) and most of the time I go dead pan and they wink or grin when they recognize me ….. never had someone totally give the I have never seen you in my life gaze !

You're on the street, in a restaurant, or in the grocery store and much to your surprise a beautiful service provider turns the corner you make eye contact.

Instantly a flood of memories of some very hot and sexy times shared with this stunning beauty fill your mind, what do you do? Smile, wink, give a friendly wave and hello?

If your answer wasn't immediately look the other way, stop eye contact and do not motion any acknowledgement - THEN YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG!

PRO TIP : Even if they seem to be alone - always error on the side of caution when presented with this scenario. If you think it's rude - just explain you "snubbed them in public for discretionary sake" next time you are together. I gauren-fuckin-tee that SP is going to appreciate this approach to seeing them in "the wild" WAY MORE - and instead of being black listed - you get to keep making sweet memories together - WIN WIN.

XOXO Ms.Harvi

 

[luvsdaty]

Happened a couple times in Victoria. Just ignored both women and laughed about it the next time I saw them.