Bashing on Negative Reviews

[dare.devil]

I observed a pattern on perb on the reaction on negative reviews, where I would like to put my balanced perspective. We all appreciate well written reviews but there is difference in reaction based on its nature being positive or negative. I have seen people bashing, trolling and raising suspicion on the person posting negative review. Moreover I have seen person posting negative reviews are frequently banned. I do expect that even the tone of review is negative, it has to be classy and within the limits rather than the intention of defaming someone.
The way we appreciate hyper worlds in positive review like "Goddess", "Best of the Best" "No-one ever in the world is near her", etc etc., why cant we accept the some of the words used in negative reviews. Or we just want to listen goody goody words where all the positive reviews looks like almost similar. Why don't we understand that the person posting the negative experience has also paid the same amount of money as others and should not feel bad further for his/her bad experience. Its a platform where people should share their OWN experiences, regardless of its tone, not with intention of neither endorsing nor defaming.

Having said that a review must be informative within the limits and should not target anyone. I might be wrong on my assumptions, observations or perspective, hence I look forward to the comments from other fellow forum members.

 

[Asian Fever]

Sometimes they are banned because their ip address matches another sp etc. The mods know more than you think.

Other than that I don't think there is a problem sharing a negative experience, but it can be done politely. Too often people are super rude and disrespectful. it's just uncalled for.

A review is just that, a review. It should not be a tool for revenge because you had different expectations. There are lines and crossing them can piss off the mods.

*Edit typo

 

[dare.devil]

Sometimes they are banned because their ip address matches another sp etc. The mods know more than you think.

Other than that I don't think they is a problem sharing a negative experience, but it can be done politely. Too often people are super rude and disrespectful. it's just uncalled for.

A review is just that, a review. It should not be a tool for revenge because you had different expectations. There are lines and crossing them can piss off the mods.

Thats absolutely true, review is just an experience and must not be a note of revenge or payback. Its not the mod I am concerned about but the reaction from other members. Even on the most polite negative ones, people start cross questioning the person and raise suspicion, which barely happens with any postitve comment. I see a minor issue with some of the positive comments also, they make the praise at some another level, but at least over praise doesnt hurt someone's feeling .

 

[wintersurfer]

Sometimes they are banned because their ip address matches another sp etc. The mods know more than you think.

Other than that I don't think they is a problem sharing a negative experience, but it can be done politely. Too often people are super rude and disrespectful. it's just uncalled for.

A review is just that, a review. It should not be a tool for revenge because you had different expectations. There are lines and crossing them can piss off the mods.

100% THIS⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆

 

[80watts]

This speaks to the very nature of man, why type of human is he/she anyways? People have been undermining other people since the beginning of time. A person can have a very reputable character, but you start chipping away at the edges and that reputation goes downhill.
Its a dog eat dog world, despite humans' best intentions....

 

[PuntMeister]

Good post. I reflect that i am guilty of focussing mostly on positive experiences, yet havd found equal value from other Pedbites who have saved my bacon by posting honest negative reviews.

Pure Perb is awesome. +\- is the way of things.

 

[luvsdaty]

I'll usually check out the dudes profile and see if there's a pattern of negative posts. As far as over the top praise,meh. There are tools in place for guys that are constantly pumping the tires of the same girl,I'm guilty of this myself and corrected myself.
Short answer ,I take any review good or bad with a grain of salt as we all have different tastes.

 

[Mr. J]

It's no skin off my nose. Take the good with the bad, that's what I say.

 

[Forum mod]

You have a number of people and personas at play here.

You have the white knight, aka simp, aka supporter, who can also sometimes be the boyfriend or agent, or pimp. They do everything possible to discredit a bad review, even when honest and accuse the reviewer of being biased, misogynist and sometimes worse. A variant on this is the guy who won't see a single negative thing posted about any lady and gets quite passionately butt hurt even when the mildest of criticisms are posted. Rest assured that when these types pop up, the mods are checking every means necessary to ensure they are legit members and not a duplicate account or other rule breaker. If they are found, they are banned PDQ.

You have the locker room dude, the Bro, the Andrew Tate acolyte. They love to call ladies bitches, broads, cows and worse. They are crude, often idiotic and post like they talk, coarse language, insulting, misogynistic for real and are similarly given a very short leash, they are the worst sort of posters on the board and give the real clients, the gentlemen, a bad name. They also tend to come back time and again after getting banned.

You have the activist SP, who wants to stand up for her sisters and will sometimes jump in with a passionate defense or even an attack on the poster. They are swiftly reminded that ladies are not allowed to comment on other provider's reviews and the posts deleted, infractions issued and even bans assessed based on track record and previous issues.

Thankfully, most of the time, these types are all balanced out and even overpowered by rational, common sense folks with the right mindset, share real information in a respectful way and we all benefit. Even providers who have received real feedback can benefit and adjust their business model and approach. There are some traveling ladies these days who in years past were rightly exposed as rip offs and they took that feedback to heart and are now respected providers of good service and great attitude.


All of these types need to realize we are dealing with human beings and respect is required. Even if the service didn't happen or you got robbed at gunpoint, that can be said without name calling, being a pig or otherwise behaving like an animal instead of a rational adult. That's the expectation of the mods and we will take actions as needed to make sure it happens and correct the situation when it doesn't.

 

[grusse]

I wonder if it comes to huMAN natURE?

 

[dare.devil]

You have a number of people and personas at play here.

You have the white knight, aka simp, aka supporter, who can also sometimes be the boyfriend or agent, or pimp. They do everything possible to discredit a bad review, even when honest and accuse the reviewer of being biased, misogynist and sometimes worse. A variant on this is the guy who won't see a single negative thing posted about any lady and gets quite passionately butt hurt even when the mildest of criticisms are posted. Rest assured that when these types pop up, the mods are checking every means necessary to ensure they are legit members and not a duplicate account or other rule breaker. If they are found, they are banned PDQ.

You have the locker room dude, the Bro, the Andrew Tate acolyte. They love to call ladies bitches, broads, cows and worse. They are crude, often idiotic and post like they talk, coarse language, insulting, misogynistic for real and are similarly given a very short leash, they are the worst sort of posters on the board and give the real clients, the gentlemen, a bad name. They also tend to come back time and again after getting banned.

You have the activist SP, who wants to stand up for her sisters and will sometimes jump in with a passionate defense or even an attack on the poster. They are swiftly reminded that ladies are not allowed to comment on other provider's reviews and the posts deleted, infractions issued and even bans assessed based on track record and previous issues.

Thankfully, most of the time, these types are all balanced out and even overpowered by rational, common sense folks with the right mindset, share real information in a respectful way and we all benefit. Even providers who have received real feedback can benefit and adjust their business model and approach. There are some traveling ladies these days who in years past were rightly exposed as rip offs and they took that feedback to heart and are now respected providers of good service and great attitude.


All of these types need to realize we are dealing with human beings and respect is required. Even if the service didn't happen or you got robbed at gunpoint, that can be said without name calling, being a pig or otherwise behaving like an animal instead of a rational adult. That's the expectation of the mods and we will take actions as needed to make sure it happens and correct the situation when it doesn't.

Really loved it, very well put. "Payback time" types negative people must be stopped right there and I believe mods are doing an amazing job there in identifying them and pitching in for stopping further damage caused by them.

 

[Forum mod]

There's one other type, the complete bullshit fake review being posted by a disgruntled asshole who was denied an appointment, or who tried to push the ladies' boundaries and was shut down or in general is giving a bad review to get revenge of some kind. Those guys are banned immediately and forever.

We will not allow the board to be used to coerce or influence providers. CBJ? Better be BBBJ or I am giving you a bad review. 400? Make it 250 and I will give you a great review. You won't see me? You will be sorry when I roast you on PERB. That kind of crap will not be tolerated.