I always find these discussions around individual body parts to be quite bizarre. If a woman is horny and into me, and I've got my mouth pressed against hers, and our hands are running over each other's bodies, then I am definitely NOT mentally dissecting her body parts, rather, I am appreciating the WHOLE package, including the contents of her mind and heart. Am I right, or am I right?
You, as a woman, are right re your own experience as you described it, i suppose.
My experiences as a man are normally completely & totally different.
For example, I could be having passionate sex with a woman & not even be thinking about her body, let alone her mind or heart, but the bodies and body parts of other women.
Or, if i am thinking about her body, in order to remain turned on & prolong the sex as long as possible, it's her attractive parts, not the ugly ones, i'd focus my attention on. I'd only think of her unattractive features if i was close to cumming & didn't want to.
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