Asian women and white men chemistry??

[76duster]

I've had 15 white girl friends. When I got to be 35, I stopped dating them for relationships (but I did enjoy fucking them still) mostly because as I got older, the white girls who I was eligible for also got older and they don't age so well so the yuck factor started to set in. That's when I started dating asian girls.

The truth is, when I was dating white girls I still had a thing for asian girls but they wouldn't date me - and I'm asian. I came from Victoria where the population was mostly white and the asian population was much much less than here in the lower mainland, and the asian girls that were there would try so hard to fit in they would only date white guys so that was hard for me. It was such a cliquey town that if an asian girl was to pair up with an asian guy, that would make a much bigger statement because everyone in the asian community knew each other, and she would not have any anonymity to enjoy her life, whereas if she dated a white guy she could live life more as she pleased. That is quite the opposite to Vancouver where the asian population is far more prominent so it changes the dynamics.

Now looking back on my years of dating, I prefer asian girls overall because their values seem to fit more in line with mine. However occasionally I would meet someone white who was more akin to me but they are usually imports from outside of western Canada. I find that white girls in this part of Canada and the upper north west of the U.S. all have things common to them that works against having a decent chance at a stressless and easy relationship. There is something wrong with the WF of western Canada and upper north west of the US.

 

[kewlkid2020]

It's all about how the media portrays people. Asian males aren't seen nearly as much as White males. And Asian women are overly fetishsized. The times are changing though and Asian men are rising to change the tides. I guarantee it.

 

[87112]

Was at the bike shop getting my grips replaced when the worker who was a young white lady touched my hand as we both went to touch the grip twice. Both times I felt that spring in my heart like in high school when you see your crush. I wonder was it just me? She was totally the girl next door with glasses and a wholesome look, underdeveloped chin but an inch or so taller than me.

 

[1nitestan]

Was at the bike shop getting my grips replaced when the worker who was a young white lady touched my hand as we both went to touch the grip twice. Both times I felt that spring in my heart like in high school when you see your crush. I wonder was it just me? She was totally the girl next door with glasses and a wholesome look, underdeveloped chin but an inch or so taller than me.

That's an open invitation right there. Did you close the deal?

 

[87112]

That's an open invitation right there. Did you close the deal?

No, I can't hit on a total stranger. It was just dumb luck we reached for the grip twice and touched twice. She has that Midwest farmer's daughters look but not hot just very very cute.

 

[PierreCoeur]

white, yellow, black or green I like all women as far as colour goes. I think I am more selective about body types but still am open to a range. The extremes I don't fancy. Variety is the spice of life.

 

[Tugela]

Anyone have insight why so many Asian women have seemingly instant chemistry with white men? But the reverse is never or hardly seen White women and Asian men? I get the height thing and good sex, that's easy to figure out. I rarely see them fail. IMO the odds of marriage when when those 2 date are 70-75% from the 1st date. Just try to figure out the between the ears thing. When I see a Asian gal I always think her other is a white guy or black.

Most Asian women have instant chemistry with Asian men rather than European men as far as I can tell. They are just not the ones you want.

I suspect what you really are talking about are the hot ones (the ones most guys want). The thing is, hot women know they can leverage their looks to get the top 10% of "attractive" men, and statistically that is probably going to be mostly European men in west coast culture. The hot European women are going to be going after the same guys for the same reasons, and that is why they have no interest in you. The rest of the female population barely registers, other than as what is left over when hot girls can't be found. So while some of those *might* be interested in you, you are probably looking past her at the babe behind.

In my opinion when men describe the behaviour of women in general, they are really describing the behaviour of the top 10% of the female population and their personal reaction when that 10% shows no interest in them. It is as though the other 90% don't exist, or don't contribute at all to stereotypical female behaviour, and it results in this weird dysfunctional attitude that so many people have regarding the opposite sex.

Women do the same thing btw, it isn't purely a male attitude.

 

[76duster]

These recent articles from the Van Sun are very topical and have interesting links .

Do Asian women prefer whites? Responses

Which ethnicities do white women and men like to date? Surprising study

Mixed marriages in Canada: Forces for and against.

Although the last article focuses on marriages , it reveals many factors effecting intercultural couples.

. msg .

I think this mad rush to interracial couplings is mistaken. Those of stronger cultures matching up with the weaker, predominant culture lose a lot in that coupling, and it is the weaker one who makes all the gains. These are gains such as - more stable family lives, more concrete values, less tendency towards financial debt, more tendency toward higher education or enterpreneurship, stronger interfamilialr relations, stronger extended family relations, etc. The watering down of the stronger culture is a big loss in my opinion. That is why I stopped seeing white girls.

 

[1nitestan]

I think this mad rush to interracial couplings is mistaken. Those of stronger cultures matching up with the weaker, predominant culture lose a lot in that coupling, and it is the weaker one who makes all the gains. These are gains such as - more stable family lives, more concrete values, less tendency towards financial debt, more tendency toward higher education or enterpreneurship, stronger interfamilialr relations, stronger extended family relations, etc. The watering down of the stronger culture is a big loss in my opinion. That is why I stopped seeing white girls.

You just stopped seeing the trashy ones. There are plenty of white women with good values and positive/strong outlooks on life.

 

[anon1]

Quote:

"Who do white women prefer?
The Cardiff researchers discovered that white women (in Britain at least) opt first for black males, followed by whites and then Asians.
White men, on the other hand, tend to first prefer Asian women. That was followed by white women, then black."

 

[hornygandalf]

I think this mad rush to interracial couplings is mistaken. Those of stronger cultures matching up with the weaker, predominant culture lose a lot in that coupling, and it is the weaker one who makes all the gains. These are gains such as - more stable family lives, more concrete values, less tendency towards financial debt, more tendency toward higher education or enterpreneurship, stronger interfamilialr relations, stronger extended family relations, etc. The watering down of the stronger culture is a big loss in my opinion. That is why I stopped seeing white girls.

This suggestion of 'stronger' and 'weaker' cultures troubles me. Why are we making these judgements, and who is to say our judgements are correct? I don't think we should be considering any culture as 'stronger' or 'weaker'. We are all individuals influenced by culture, but their isn't a hierarchy of which cultures are stronger than others.
That I have to disagree with. Different cultures have different values, but that doesn't mean that some are better than others.

 

[Scorcher123]

Someone said to me once "well, family is very important to Chinese people and so is food. ". I said "wtf ? You don't think Italians like to eat ? That we don't have big family meals ? We all hate each other ?". Every ethnic group has some good points and not so good points. And there's exceptions to every rule. You don't want to date a white girl ? Don't ! But spare me your race based we're better than you bullshit . Careful what you say . One of us older guys might wind up banging your mom or another family member . Stranger things have happened.

 

[Tugela]

I think this mad rush to interracial couplings is mistaken. Those of stronger cultures matching up with the weaker, predominant culture lose a lot in that coupling, and it is the weaker one who makes all the gains. These are gains such as - more stable family lives, more concrete values, less tendency towards financial debt, more tendency toward higher education or enterpreneurship, stronger interfamilialr relations, stronger extended family relations, etc. The watering down of the stronger culture is a big loss in my opinion. That is why I stopped seeing white girls.

So you didn't want to water them down?

 

[LisbethNova]

So you didn't want to water them down?

LOL ... the quote you are referring to sounds like something the KKK lives by.. Honestly, I am caucasion and was married to a caucasion, it did not work out at all and we were a terrible match. Now, I only date Asian for the most part in my private life and I think it suits me quite well.

But seriously, its not even about race, its about the person. Yes I maydate Asian but they tend to be Canadian born and therefore are very much CANADIAN... hell sometimes they are even more Canadian than me!

 

[Cami Parker]

They don't have "automatic chemistry with white men". Lol they want to marry a white man. They can also be very charming and know how to turn it on and off easily. Which they do when you're white and seem like you could feel good husband material. Or you're paying to feel like a king for the day. God Bless 'em, it's a fantastic business practice! :clap2:

 

[Cami Parker]

I'm just saying, after reading through this thread I think it's getting dangerously touchy. Walking a very fine line and even crossing it at some points.
I foresee this getting very messy...

 

[76duster]

This suggestion of 'stronger' and 'weaker' cultures troubles me. Why are we making these judgements, and who is to say our judgements are correct? I don't think we should be considering any culture as 'stronger' or 'weaker'. We are all individuals influenced by culture, but their isn't a hierarchy of which cultures are stronger than others.
That I have to disagree with. Different cultures have different values, but that doesn't mean that some are better than others.

What I meant by "stronger" and "weaker" is really that "stronger" = "less resistant to change" , "weaker" = "changes more easily". I prefer those whose cultural values are more static and less easily influenced. For example, the work ethic is stronger and less resistant to change in Asian cultures than in North American culture. I prefer a person whose personal values include a strong work ethic, and don't want to be with people who are looking for ways to take advantage of the system or be lazy, etc. In my opinion, a strong work ethic is better than a weak one, and that's just my opinion. Others prefer those who think it is clever to do things such as voluntarily become unemployed to take social assistance and EI, etc.

Another example is a stronger ethic regarding traditional education vs a liberal education. I prefer those cultures that orient themselves to traditional education (ie: reading, writing, mathematics, sciences, etc., lots of exams, lots of homework, learning discipline), over liberal education (ie: teaching sociability, anti-bullying, feminism, few or no exams, less homework). Typically Asian cultures prefer traditional education, whereas the trend in North American culture is towards ever more liberal education. I personally know a CBC girl just out of high school here and she's a total moron when it comes to math, geography, biology, and just about everything else except English and Marketing - when compared to her counterparts who were educated in Asia. She's comparably lazy and entitled too. What a great way to start your life after high school eh?

 

[summerbreeze]

word of advice to 76duster

a closed mouth gathers no foot.....

 

[james1944]

They don't have "automatic chemistry with white men". Lol they want to marry a white man. They can also be very charming and know how to turn it on and off easily. Which they do when you're white and seem like you could feel good husband material. Or you're paying to feel like a king for the day. God Bless 'em, it's a fantastic business practice! :clap2:

Cami, what do you think of asian men?

 

[1nitestan]

As for white guys marrying asian women....chances are she'll run your life. Just like her mom did to her dad. LOL You haven't experienced "short leash" until you marry an asian girl. They are not the submissive little flowers the stereotype makes them out to be. I don't have any stats to back this up....only my large circle of friends which includes quite a few WM/AF couples and they (the wives) all are pretty stifling/dominant in the relationship.