Arousal/foreplay or Release ? What's your priority ?

[tdhmale]

I find this an interesting topic, since I have met other people that have shared the same preference. Not many, but a few. Although there are tons of people, both males and females,
that absolutely love all the foreplay that takes place, but for many, the end game is that almighty orgasm. For some, that release is what they are aiming for.
For some males, their priority is to just "get their rocks off" or "blow their load", or whatever slang term they label it as, but as strange as I find in myself, I really don't have any priorities
for that release at all. Sometimes I don't even really understand my own sexuality that way, but I seriously have never given two craps whether I do have release or not during an
encounter. I've been that way my whole adult life.
It's not so much loving the foreplay, but even more, I love being in a state of arousal. I find that feeling much more enjoyable than the orgasm could ever be. I would go for days on end
in a state of arousal, if I was capable, but unfortunately, once the physical touching stops, so does the arousal. The bright side to that, I will never experience what some refer to as
"blueballs". Haha
This is all probably the main reason I love the foreplay so much, without concern for my own release. The longer I can remain aroused in the encounter, the more enjoyable it is for me.
As far as the foreplay with a female, I have met some that enjoy prolonged foreplay, but I only met one that didn't want to put a limit on it and get to the orgasm. I must confess though,
the more a female partner gets aroused, the more it does for my own arousal. But that just adds more fuel on the fire and feeds the addiction to being aroused, haha
I did have an encounter once with an SP, which I asked her to simply lay there and let me do everything and she was ok with that, for a little while, but after the foreplay caused her to
have an orgasm, she was not interested in the extended foreplay anymore and started pushing for the end release. It ended up being kind of downer for me, since my most enjoyable
moments were coming to an end. Not by the clock, just her own preferences for what she wanted to do next.

 

[Warl0ck]

Interesting question. I'd have to say definitely arousal & foreplay do it for me. But it's much more than just physical foreplay, it's being imaginative, incorporating voyeurism or exhibitionism, or just sometimes playing mind games with people around you. Sort of like going to IKEA and testing out a couch by making out on it while people stroll by.

To quote Breaking Bad when Walt and Skyler were fucking in his car:

Skyler: Where'd that come from and why was it so damn good
Walt: Because it was illegal.

 

[tdhmale]

Haha, YES, it's always society's taboo activities that are the most fun. I had a cop walk up to the window of my car once during an innocent encounter. Thank goodness he was "down to earth".
Great times.

 

[sevenofnine]

it seems to vary a lot with my age and mood,
maybe it comes down to what I ever seem to get the most enjoyment out of in the end, the next time I search for the same thing.


I have had great enjoyment from all to be honest.

I think when your young sex is mostly physical, its a hunger, so it comes down to the act itself release
the older you get it shifts to more emotional. not necessary love, but power, desire, memories. lust etc,
so things like anticipation foreplay the chase, arousal, play a bigger part.

 

[Ctian]

I agree with everything said...for me arrousal is alot, and with say a massage and happy ending I like the tease at the end or before the flip to get Stanley ready for the next phase...but with Full service it is nice to take it slow and not get Stanley too arroused so we can enjoy our time with out blowing off too soon...it is quite a challenge sometimes to stay calm but yet enjoy...I don't frequent SP's as often as I would like...so excitement usually gets the better of me...and being in my 50's MSOG isn't always an option in alloted time...I am still trying to find the perfect connection...which would include DATY, LFK, DFK, 69 BBBJ etc...