Are you body conscious?

[Happy4336]

Since COVID I've been working from home and have been indulging on my snacks and treats way more than I should. I've let myself go considerably, and starting to hate my body image.

Late 30s, average height, but up like 20-30 lbs and no exercise. So I've got a belly and dreaded manboobs. I went to an SP last week who I complimented her breasts, and she said "thanks, I like yours too". I get she was joking but now I'm so upset.

Do SPs look at a fatter client and dread touching them? Is SP work off limits if you are old and round? I want to make sure I'm not the only chubby guy doing the rounds, disgusting these poor gals.

 

[Theguyfromvictoria]

I can relate 100%.
The past 5 years have not been kind to me.
And the last 5 months especially.
No excuse for it, but I have many.

I am actually now hesitant to book w/ anyone die or my own body-insecurities.
i wouldn’t wanna fuck myself if I came in through the door!
The worst part? I am now so chronically fatigued that I don’t have the strength or motivation to get out / work out and ‘do something about it’

It’s been a real mind-fuck for me on how to overcome this

 

[ElectricWoodie]

Late 30s, average height, but up like 20-30 lbs and no exercise. So I've got a belly and dreaded manboobs. I went to an SP last week who I complimented her breasts, and she said "thanks, I like yours too". I get she was joking but now I'm so upset.

I hear you Happy. I've put on quite a few pounds the past few months myself...about 15lbs...probably more LOL. She was kinda insensitive with the "I like yours too" but kinda funny though...I'm curious as to how you reacted after she said that.

My advice is if you're working from home and concerned about your body image, pick up a dumb bell, do some push-ups and lay off the snacks!! 'Nuff said.

 

[Happy4336]

I laughed it off, she was very sweet and making a joke. But still, it was said.

Its good motivation to get back on track if nothing else, I just hope that I don't ruin a nice SP's day with my dad-bod (even though many tell me that's what is attractive these days).

 

[SkylerAnne]

I know for me the thing I find sexiest is a great attitude! If you come looking to have fun, in a good mood, then I am thrilled! Try not to be hard on yourself. We all look at our selves under a fine microscope when most the times others don't.

 

[happycanuck99]

I'm starting to get more sensitive about my weight as well, but interestingly the ladies I've seen really haven't given me any indication that they're bothered. Sure, they may hide it from me, but that's ok - we're paying for a fantasy anyway!

(There is, of course, one exception. I did have an encounter with one lady that made a snarky remark, but it was in the context of other complaining, which is, according to other reviews of her here, in character for her. I'll simply never visit her again.)

My advice: don't worry about it! Pick a reputable lady and I'm pretty sure you'll be fine.

 

[oldshark]

Since COVID I've been working from home and have been indulging on my snacks and treats way more than I should. I've let myself go considerably, and starting to hate my body image.

Late 30s, average height, but up like 20-30 lbs and no exercise. So I've got a belly and dreaded manboobs. I went to an SP last week who I complimented her breasts, and she said "thanks, I like yours too". I get she was joking but now I'm so upset.

Do SPs look at a fatter client and dread touching them? Is SP work off limits if you are old and round? I want to make sure I'm not the only chubby guy doing the rounds, disgusting these poor gals.

I am not too pretty to look at but after many encounters I would say that only a couple in twenty years have said something unkind. Most providers are professionals. You treat them with kindness and respect and they will respond in that way to you. I would say that most providers have been kinder to me than the general public.

 

[take8easy]

This topic has been discussed here a number of times.

SP's don't care at all what you look like. They want you to be respectful and have good hygiene. If they started to screen men based on their body type and looks, they would be spending a lot of time waiting for their phone to ring.

 

[Newb808]

Imagine a mechanic who only serviced high end vehicles in perfect condition. A cardiologist who only treats young fit people. A lawyer who only represents the inculpable....

 

[Theguyfromvictoria]

Imagine a mechanic who only serviced high end vehicles in perfect condition. A cardiologist who only treats young fit people. A lawyer who only represents the inculpable....

Well said. Hadn’t actually considered it from that perspective

 

[ExpCharlee]

I find all bodies sexy and have hooked up with men and women of all body types outside of work. I’m not fatphobic. And, at this point—if I’m 100% honest—when a good looking guy walks through my door I have more fear. More fear he’ll be entitled, take advantage, think he’s special somehow...99% of my bad experiences in session have been with fit (especially white) men. When a dude messages me and says he’s in shape/attractive it’s a red flag for me.

 

[Andrew69913]

There's a lot to be said for a fit body. Then there's a lot to be said about what feels good to touch, caress, and cuddle at night. Confidence and hygiene matter, whether its with an SP or anyone else. I'm 44 years old and don't really feel like teaching somebody how to be comfortable having sex on TOP of the covers with the dreaded lights on lol.

 

[angry anderson]

Time for a motivational pep talk

 

[Miss Hunter]

with the dreaded lights on lol.

Re: the dreaded lights

If you're going to keep the lights on, you may as well take it to the highest level. The brighter the better. Go bright or go home.

I remember back in the days of working at parlours, some clients would insist on taking the lampshade off the lamp so they "could see everything!"

Ok great. I get to suffer through the entire session in blinding bright light. Now I cant see anything at all. I may as well just go outside and stare at the sun instead.

 

[Miss Hunter]

To be serious.. If you're feeling down about yourself about covid weight gain and haven't been working out, just try to get in the routine of getting active. If not right at this moment, after the smoke clears. The smoke has been kicking my ass lately too.

I find working out regularly to be the best antidepressant. I don't do it to watch numbers raise and fall on the scale, I do it to keep myself as close to the sanity spectrum as I possibly can.

 

[LexyLustt]

Body shaming isnt where it's at xo

 

[LexyLustt]

I find all bodies sexy and have hooked up with men and women of all body types outside of work. I’m not fatphobic. And, at this point—if I’m 100% honest—when a good looking guy walks through my door I have more fear. More fear he’ll be entitled, take advantage, think he’s special somehow...99% of my bad experiences in session have been with fit (especially white) men. When a dude messages me and says he’s in shape/attractive it’s a red flag for me.

I agree with this

 

[zippy45]

If I am paying her, I hope she looks fit, unless its a BBW thing,

 

[Poon Raider]

Everybody has different scenarios, but if you feel completely shamed in the fitness dept. when looking across at the lovely lady. Why don't you use the SP's fit level as motivation for you. Workout to close the gap. I've had the pleasure of booking with a few fitness SPs, and it's helped me stick to a mild workout schedule, nothing crazy. I'm not saying do it for them, do it for yourself man, cause bottom line it's your health. As a reward, that gap will get smaller. AND age is not it, I'm early 40s, and feel in better shape then before the lockdown.

 

[80watts]

Because of Covid and getting older, exercise seems to be at the bottom of the "to do" list.
Become active. A walk after dinner. (the smoke will clear up eventually).
Morning stretches when you get up and keep a regular routine (wake up, bed time etc).
A weekly hike somewhere near a park. When grocery shopping park far away in parking lot.
Meal plan. Prepare your meals in advance. Plan for healthy snacks like veggies (carrots or celery).
Engergy IN = Engergy OUT

If your stuck at home, try those on the shelf workprojects you been planning.

Another thing to try is Meditation.

As you get older, take up yoga, its great for getting the body moving....