Are Escorts Honest?

[Reference3A]

I suggest you try not paying your companion and see how quick she is to jump in the sack with you or go on your next trip. Your friends come and see you when your sick. Your escort sucks your dick. For the sake of your own sanity & your wallet I hope you come to understand that.

Well i suffered a pretty serious injury about three months ago.
She offereed all kinds of help off the clock. But i politely declined
as didnt want her to see me in the state i was in.
And yes she has cooked me meals and we shopped together
off the clock. So yup it does happen occasionally.
But nothing physical off the clock. Its something i wouldnt expect
to be honest. But if it happens , it happens. No big deal.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Escorts are human, therefore some are honest and some are not. That's why this forum exists. We meet good and bad and share our experiences here.

Very true

I honestly don't like to mix the two...I have lost a couple good buddies like that.

It is what it is but if it works for you two (Reference3A) so be it.

 

[604rick]

Has she paid for anything ever? If not there's your answer... but who cares

Sometimes a fantasy is all you need

 

[JonnyBoi]

Question might as well be: "Are Humans Honest?"

A: Depends on which ones you meet.

 

[italian233]

Though we only know your side of this story, asking if this lady is honest or not is a little silly. I doesn't sound like you were in a full exclusive agreement and knew she still sees other clients. Seems more like you are treating her as a "Surrogate Girlfriend" something that happens when a guy gets friend zoned. You say she contacts asking you when will you see her again and travel ideas but only get the physical part when you pay for it. Does she contact you just to hang or are you the one making those type of plans? Guys who treat a lady friend as surrogate girlfriend tend to get jealous if they see other guys.

 

[Reference3A]

If you really had so much faith in her and beleive her like you have stated then you would have no BUTS or need to start this thread , seems like you were doubting her now you are being defensive , and I cant understand why?

and as for are escorts honest ? we are no different then anyone else in the honesty dept , some are some aren't .

Well yeah I have some questions as mentioned earlier in the thread. Defensive,
no not really. Just trying my best to explain to the situation to comments that
are coming up.
There is a a lot of assuming going on in this thread which i'm not a big fan of.
Like dont get me wrong either. Nowhere did i state she is some nightmare of
a lady. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Just some things which i maybe thought was deceit on her part but a PM
I received from another member offered some great perspective on what
may be going on.
So i will talk with her about it and see where we go from here.
Obviously I'm not really wanting to say what it is i'm seeing.
But its something thats confusing me a bit and for sure has
me a bit concerned.
The thing with dealing with an escort is whom else can I talk to
about it? There are only two of my friends that know she is an escort.
One friend is unreachable at the moment and the other who sees lots
of escorts views things differrently than I.
So figured see what some other members experienced.
There has been some great advice and i appreciate it.
But think its time to put this thread to rest.

 

[Reference3A]

Though we only know your side of this story, asking if this lady is honest or not is a little silly. I doesn't sound like you were in a full exclusive agreement and knew she still sees other clients. Seems more like you are treating her as a "Surrogate Girlfriend" something that happens when a guy gets friend zoned. You say she contacts asking you when will you see her again and travel ideas but only get the physical part when you pay for it. Does she contact you just to hang or are you the one making those type of plans? Guys who treat a lady friend as surrogate girlfriend tend to get jealous if they see other guys.

Maybe go back and read the whole thread as your way off with your comments.
Nowhere did i state i was in a full exclusive agreement with her.
We talked about more travel and week on week off when not traveling.
A paid companion when we're together.
Its her call during the weeks we are not together if she chooses
to work or not.
No, I dont get jealous when she works etc.
I fully understand the situation.
Like as mentioned multiple times sometimes things just
seem a little off and trying my best to figure it out without
being to intrusive.
But will talk with her and see what is up.

Thanks Again for everyones input

 

[italian233]

Maybe go back and read the whole thread as your way off with your comments.
Nowhere did i state i was in a full exclusive agreement with her.
We talked about more travel and week on week off when not traveling.
A paid companion when we're together.
Its her call during the weeks we are not together if she chooses
to work or not.
No, I dont get jealous when she works etc.
I fully understand the situation.
Like as mentioned multiple times sometimes things just
seem a little off and trying my best to figure it out without
being to intrusive.
But will talk with her and see what is up.

Thanks Again for everyones input

I've read the whole thing b4 posting... Your statements kinda came across that you wanted more then what current arrangement entitles.
Sorry if that's not what you intended to sound like
Good luck!

 

[giaebonyprincess]

however you decide to handle your situation I hope it all works out for the best for both of you

And you manage to put all of your doubts to rest with this thread , good luck

Amen:amen:

 

[LADY-VIA]

I was considering a six month agreement. I've travelled with the lady in question and
spent a ton of time with her. We have a lot of fun. No, she wouldn't take money and run.
Just other aspects kinda give me pause. More of a take me granted situation.
Not always being honest about other aspects seem to have come up.
Once I get to know a person really well I'm very open and always honest.
I kinda woukd appreciate that in return but don't think so.
Think she may play on ones emotions a bit which concerns me.
And before you say it, No , not in love. Just enjoy her company and
we always have a great time. But there have been a few not so great
weekends in the past. But I'm also of the mindset that nobody is
perfect either.

No, no one is perfect, and even the best of friends have off times and argue. This is what make us human and are experiences real. If everything was hunky dory perfect all the time, wouldn't that also make you question the authenticity of the relationship.

People play on others people emotions. It's a card to play. Is it right ? Not necessarily. But is it wrong ? Not necessarily either. I think it's human nature to push boundaries and possibly use someones disadvantage to one advantage. What matters is how you feel about it, and what you feel comfortable allowing. You do have considerable control over how others may treat you. So it's more of a pick your battles situation & weigh out what's really important to you and what's not. Then define this to her and lay out your boundaries clearly before you enter any Arrangment.


Good luck
Xo-LV

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Good tips, appreciate it.
But communication as you said is so very important.
We have talked about it in the past a bit as we generally do have fun. A lot of fun.
When not travelling we were talking week on week off.
The week off she is more than welcome to do what she see's fit. We talked of her
maybe taking some courses in something she is interested in just for example.
I mentioned already that her compensation will give her the option to work
or not to when we're apart. Her call.
As for some of the other comments by other members. No, not a fantasy. A paid
companion who's company i enjoy. She enjoys mine as well.We know one another
very very well. Just as mentioned looking for input as maybe there are some things
I haven't thought of. Sometimes things seem a little off with her, hence the honesty
question I had.
Its difficult to put a fine point on.

I am trying to open my thoughts to consider/feel the big picture here... and while I won't let my reply end without sensing that the OP has a small area of intended answers to his vague-ish post (which he will finally accept as legitimate, even though he seemingly opened the query to all responses representing all angles)... I just... think much of whateveritishewontbespecificabout is likely to transpire between two such people upon such time as when they exit the clear boundaries which are perceived between SP's and their clientele.

Since you truly can't be banging away for hours or weeks on end, in your arrangement, there simply has to be some re-energizing time on both sides, and once you branch-out beyond somebody's body, and their sex organs, and beyond the pay-for-play windows of 60 or 120 minutes, it stands to reason that the professional human involved will surely show more facets of herself, both for better and for worse.

She might burp, or fart, or cough... and/or be human in other ways.


In an arena such as PERB, one's reputation on the board is significant to her income, and those here long enough to value that image are more likely to be honest in the context of interactions with others on the board. Those who just land here to cash-in on their exceptionally-sought-after physical presence for a short time, don't have as much riding on the big picture, and probably aren't as good a bet to be 'honest' over the long haul.


Some people neeeeeeeeeeeeeed the presence of the clearer boundaries to more easily compartmentalize their lives, in the way that so many working girls are said to need to do, in order to withstand the social challenges of life in this business. Perhaps it is one thing if, during your travel to an afternoon session, you can see/sense the $300 dangling in your mind, there for the taking, and for just the renting-out of your sought-after body and company for 60 minutes... but quite another if you got, say, $3000 on the 1st of the month, and spent most of it by the 4th, and are now bound by prior agreement to a 4-hour fuckfest every Friday for the rest of the month.

There are just so many (mostly normal) factors at work in the vague puzzle you describe that we can't really give you many fair answers.


However, you could, finally reveal just which narrow field of potential answers you will (take to heart), and then we'll have 3 people recite them here, and perhaps bring this thread to a slow halt with that.

 

[Total Slacker]

Anybody totally believing the working ladies should read the Al Franken book specifically on the this subject, "Lies and the Lying Liars Who Tell Them".

 

[Reference3A]

I am trying to open my thoughts to consider/feel the big picture here... and while I won't let my reply end without sensing that the OP has a small area of intended answers to his vague-ish post (which he will finally accept as legitimate, even though he seemingly opened the query to all responses representing all angles)... I just... think much of whateveritishewontbespecificabout is likely to transpire between two such people upon such time as when they exit the clear boundaries which are perceived between SP's and their clientele.

Since you truly can't be banging away for hours or weeks on end, in your arrangement, there simply has to be some re-energizing time on both sides, and once you branch-out beyond somebody's body, and their sex organs, and beyond the pay-for-play windows of 60 or 120 minutes, it stands to reason that the professional human involved will surely show more facets of herself, both for better and for worse.

She might burp, or fart, or cough... and/or be human in other ways.


In an arena such as PERB, one's reputation on the board is significant to her income, and those here long enough to value that image are more likely to be honest in the context of interactions with others on the board. Those who just land here to cash-in on their exceptionally-sought-after physical presence for a short time, don't have as much riding on the big picture, and probably aren't as good a bet to be 'honest' over the long haul.


Some people neeeeeeeeeeeeeed the presence of the clearer boundaries to more easily compartmentalize their lives, in the way that so many working girls are said to need to do, in order to withstand the social challenges of life in this business. Perhaps it is one thing if, during your travel to an afternoon session, you can see/sense the $300 dangling in your mind, there for the taking, and for just the renting-out of your sought-after body and company for 60 minutes... but quite another if you got, say, $3000 on the 1st of the month, and spent most of it by the 4th, and are now bound by prior agreement to a 4-hour fuckfest every Friday for the rest of the month.

There are just so many (mostly normal) factors at work in the vague puzzle you describe that we can't really give you many fair answers.


However, you could, finally reveal just which narrow field of potential answers you will (take to heart), and then we'll have 3 people recite them here, and perhaps bring this thread to a slow halt with that.

You make it seem in the beginning of your post is all we do is have sex? Nothing could be further from the truth. When i used the word fun in previous posts i was referring to adventures,
nights out on the town and travel. Now for sure the sex is awesome. So good!!! But for me there needs to be a mental & physical connection. Pure and simple.
I known a lot of guys scoff at longer dates and thats there business. But for me shortest date with current lady is 12 hours.
Shortest date with any lady 4 hours. Even first time meet and greet. We all do things differently and there is no judgement from this side of keyboard.
See below for more answers to your questions.

Good post by the way.
You are a very articulate
writer

 

[Reference3A]

No, no one is perfect, and even the best of friends have off times and argue. This is what make us human and are experiences real. If everything was hunky dory perfect all the time, wouldn't that also make you question the authenticity of the relationship.

People play on others people emotions. It's a card to play. Is it right ? Not necessarily. But is it wrong ? Not necessarily either. I think it's human nature to push boundaries and possibly use someones disadvantage to one advantage. What matters is how you feel about it, and what you feel comfortable allowing. You do have considerable control over how others may treat you. So it's more of a pick your battles situation & weigh out what's really important to you and what's not. Then define this to her and lay out your boundaries clearly before you enter any Arrangment.


Good luck
Xo-LV

I think your bang on with your comment about
Authenticity of the relationship and about picking
battles with what's really important and what's not.
We texted a bit yesterday and something she wrote
really kinda explained everything to me in spades.
She often says things or texts comments that have
significant meaning that she doesn't realize.
So yeah I have my answer to my question and the puzzle now has all the pieces in place,
Let's just say I knew she liked to party. I wasn't sure
exactly how much buts she texted something yesterday
that revealed just how much which is something she always
did her best to mask from me,
Coke and Alcohol really effect a person's life in ways that the user just can't or doesn't want to see.
It's often obvious from the sidelines as I don't do it.
But often I kinda refused to see it as in a way it's none of my business .Also didn't want to believe it either. But I think she uses it so much it did effect our time together in different ways. In retrospect I see it more clearly now.
Number one reliability issues just for starters.
Like I don't want to bash her cause we did have a lot of fun times and adventures together but addictions are serious
and at her heart a good person but I think she is misguided.
So not sure. Not really fair to her to just drop out. So will offer help and if accepts good. If not well than maybe time to move along. That's something I will have to gauge when we talk abouts this all. As it is important to me,
I do prefer reliable, responsible, down to earth time with ladies that like to have fun. Now when I say fun I am referring to adventures. Rappelling, climbing, hiking,Helicopter and Jet Fighter rides, zip lining , stuff like that. Also really enjoy going out & about for the evening. Obviously
sleepovers are always fantastic as well. Lol
She enjoyed the adventures but a few times stuff had to be delayed or sidelined because of unreliability.
So there you have it. It's a shame really. Feels like three years
wiped away . But it's better to figure out a few things now than later.

I do apologize if my vagueness
in the beginning threw some things off. Like I said just wasn't
sure exactly what it was but thanks to a PM and a few posts here it really did help me narrow things down. A lot of comments really made me think lots about
this lifestyle as well. A bunch of great people on this board.

 

[ddcanz]

Fucking yawn.
It's called life- and trying to buy a relationship generally doesn't work.
Maybe just invest your time in a SO and make a commitment, for better or worse, if you don't want "Hmmm?...there's something amiss but she just won't tell me". Maybe because at the end of the day you are just a paycheque to her?
But there are still no guarantees.

 

[Reference3A]

Fucking yawn.
It's called life- and trying to buy a relationship generally doesn't work.
Maybe just invest your time in a SO and make a commitment, for better or worse, if you don't want "Hmmm?...there's something amiss but she just won't tell me". Maybe because at the end of the day you are just a paycheque to her?
But there are still no guarantees.

Fucking Yawn , really?
Than why bother commenting?
You could be very well correct
Maybe just a paycheque but don't think so.
But you are right never any guarantees in
anything.
But in the end her time, her life, her choices.
I've never been one to pry but we do share tons.
So as mentioned we will talk.



I was married for quite a long time.
Never do that or live common law with
a woman ever again .

 

[Damaged]

...Feels like three years
wiped away . But it's better to figure out a few things now than later...

I agree with ddcanz and Miss Hunter that you appear to be trying to buy a relationship. Your mention that "feels like three years wiped away" is clear that you thought you were building a relationship. Wiped away how? because it may be time to move on? "But it's better to figure out a few things now than later" what's later? Were you thinking this would be a forever thing and you'd live happily ever after by paying her?

IMHO I find that those who like to engage in longer sessions, 12 hours as you say, are far more likely to become deluded into believing the relationship is more than paid.

 

[Reference3A]

I agree with ddcanz and Miss Hunter that you appear to be trying to buy a relationship. Your mention that "feels like three years wiped away" is clear that you thought you were building a relationship. Wiped away how? because it may be time to move on? "But it's better to figure out a few things now than later" what's later? Were you thinking this would be a forever thing and you'd live happily ever after by paying her?

IMHO I find that those who like to engage in longer sessions, 12 hours as you say, are far more likely to become deluded into believing the relationship is more than paid.

Buying a relationship is like trying to buy a person.
Nothing could be further off than your statement.
I just enjoy spending tine with her and going on
adventures etc. Its all it is really.
Yeah and for sure spend a lot of tine with
someone over 3 years and bonds will form.
I'm only human.
But I mentioned earlier everything has a tine
frame so no, wasn't looking for a life partner or
anything like that. Don't misinterpret my comments.

But this thread I think has def reached its tine
frame. Lol
Thanks Again
I'm Out

 

[VanessainVictoria]

This is a long thread I did not read all of it. I would ask: Has she done things to win your trust and prove her honesty? Unexpected things, things she didn't "have" to do? Or is she just a taker?

 

[resercher]

Escorts service providers , men , women , freinds etc it is all the same , if you really want to know who your friends are , lose your money lol ( keep your penis and wallet in your pants .... but remember service providers are people that YOU have approached with the intent to pay for a service from ,so you cant always expect a short or long term commitment or life long friendship etc from them,it will certaily depend on how they feel about YOU as a person .

The obvious answer to your question posted about in the thread topic " are escorts honest"

Is as Ava Adams said just like any other social group or service provider some will be honest and some wont But I do not think this is the real question your asking. I see over and over again on this board someone posting The Do you think I can open up to her about my feelings or can I trust her in a long term relationship question



This sentence of yours makes me think that this is not about the service she is providing but you want to open up to her about your feelings towards her


Once I get to know a person really well I'm very open and always honest.

What you seem to be asking the members of this board is can i be open and honest with this person who I am paying to be my companion. What your pretty much asking is can I say something to her without getting emotionally damaged . Even if you told us what you plan to be open an always honest about. Most of the people on this board do not know. At least I hope not. either you or her and what she or you is thinking

from everything you have written It seems to me you are not treating this as what it should be a business relationship . At least not on an emotional level Even though you are saying you are.

Your going to say "she would never do that " and you are most likely going to be right.
But for you to be honest with yourself about what i think is happening to you emotionally suspend disbelief for a few min and imagine this scenario


you and her go shopping for ingredients for a meal you go to your home and she starts cooking for you . You have a nice dinner with her nice conversation everything is fine . next you are thinking about paying her for sex.
then at the end of the meal there is a knock at your door your not expecting anybody . She says" oh that is my five o'clock " I was short on time so I told him we could meet here In walks the fattest ugliest guy you have ever seen. He also smells weird . He hands her some money and she immediately drops to her knees undoes his pants pulls down his underwear and puts a condom on him and gives him a blow job right in front of you .
she then undresses leads him to your bedroom and he fucks her missionary . finishing off by ejaculating on her bust . he leaves and she then takes a shower .
After which she ask you if you want to be serviced next ?

Now it sounds like this woman is most likely not stupid enough to do the above. But you need to realize on an emotional level that yes she does have sex with other men .
Men that you do not know who they are or what they look like For you to get upset about that fact or think it does not happen. Is about as logical as someone getting upset about the fact that a barber that you use has finished cutting the hair of another client . other than yourself .