An uncomfortable situation for some (CBJ)

[GetHappy]

Hello all,

I've just recently started posting here, but I would like feedback on a subject that's very near to my ... well, let's just say heart.

Like many males, I am intact/uncut/uncircumcised (choose the word you prefer), and I have found that it can cause problems in the bedroom (especially when I am in North America). The problem comes with condoms, which cannot seem to stay in place at the tip and take on the consistency of garbage bags flapping in the wind. I have had a few women in my day, including a few SPs, and it seems that none of them can get it right, particularly for a CBJ. Even FS can go horribly wrong if the condom is not applied properly (resulting in extreme and lingiering pain). Fortunately, I have not had a woman freak out over my foreskin, as some others have had, but it may only be a matter of time.

What I would like from the people of this board, is suggestions when dealing with SPs on this issue. I have been upfront about it a few times and everytime I ask if they know what to do, they say yes (a blatant lie), and refuse to talk about the subject any further (maybe because it will lose them business or force them to talk about previous clients). I would welcome suggestions from all people on this board, from the SPs, the clients, anyone, especially if you have experience with this issue.

Also, if there is someone out there who can mangae this extremely well, let me know. Also, if I have posted this in the wrong place, let me know, this is my first thread (I'm very nervous about it).

Thanks for reading.

 

[Cinnamon Girl]

Trojan Twist

a gent brought some for this very reason, they are tight on the bottom & looser on the top/tip. They were in a lime green package. Often some lube before sliding the condom on helps & maybe you should be the master of ceremonies & place it on!!

 

[GetHappy]

Often some lube before sliding the condom on helps & maybe you should be the master of ceremonies & place it on!!

Thanks for the help. I have done both, unfortunately, I have noticed that some of women (SPs in particular) don't even like me to touch the condom due to safety concerns (particularly because of oils on the hands). And there is always a bit of "I use this brand because ..." from the girls (and I usually assume that they have a little more knowledge on the safety aspects), but Trojan is my home brand, so I'll check it out.

Also, a cock ring was suggested as another solution (keep it tight), anyone know about these? And would an SP allow me to bring one along (I'm not sure any of my gf's would notice if I snuck one on) because of safety stuff?

Thanks for the help so far .

 

[mrhk400f]

OK. I am uncut and have never had to use a condomyet (soon to change). What advice do you have on buying and using a condom if one is uncircumcized...

 

[georgebushmoron]

why don't you just go get circumcised? What's the big deal? Once it's done, end of problem.

 

[Maury Beniowski]

I'm uncircumsized and have never had this problem, so I'm quite puzzled about this inquiry.

Unless his dick looks like a Shar-pei, of course...

 

[ace85]

I Wonder

If in the real world this leads more UN CUT men to having un protected sex.

Maverick do a pool (scientific preferably) to determine whether un cut men have a higher rate of STDs becasue condoms are un comfortable.

Thanks.

Your reward is the board will pay attention to you this week.

 

[Avery]

I'm uncircumsized and have never had this problem, so I'm quite puzzled about this inquiry.

Likewise for me. I've been scratching my head (the big one, that is) over it. Ordinary, regular size condoms fit me perfectly, without wrinkling, and certainly without pain.

What does the presence or lack of a foreskin have to do with the way a condom fits? Assuming GetHappy's foreskin retracts fully, his dick should be virtually indistinguishable from a circumcised one (the frenulum is too small to affect the fit of a condom). It sounds to me as if GetHappy may suffer from phimosis (difficulty in retracting the foreskin). Phimosis affects about 2 per cent of adult males. In extreme cases, it is fixed by circumcision, but the foreskin can usually be stretched without surgery.

The other possibility (and I'm not being facetious) is that the condoms are too big. Why else would they slip off the end and flap like a garbage bag? Condoms aren't "one size fits all". The problem appears to be poor fit due to the size and/or shape of GetHappy's dick.

And. why would an SP "freak out" over the sight of a foreskin? About half of Canadian adult males are uncircumcised, so a foreskin would be a very common sight to them.

 

[Random]

Maybe he's got a big old ant eater for a foreskin

 

[necko]

cbj

I'm not circumsized its only bean a problem when it comes to oral sex and girlfriends some just won't do without a condom. I'm too old to go get cut now.

 

[ace85]

I'm not circumsized its only bean a problem when it comes to oral sex and girlfriends some just won't do without a condom. I'm too old to go get cut now.

Get it done when you are young.

More staying power and you don't have to remember the pain.

There is a 5 -10 % chance of issues with kids. I can only imagine it is pretty traumatic for a 6 year old.

I know of 3 different people that had it done around 14 and they all wish they would have had it done as a baby.

 

[Avery]

I'm not circumsized its only bean a problem when it comes to oral sex and girlfriends some just won't do without a condom. I'm too old to go get cut now.

Why would that be a problem? If you pull back the foreskin and wash your dick, it would be virtually indistinguishable from a cut one. I've never been refused a BBBJ by anyone on those grounds, presumably because I make sure my dick is clean before the action starts.

 

[necko]

cbj

Most women are not as wise and worldly as u.I have 3 son's none are circumsized.

 

[Travelingman]

I'm uncircumcized, and have never had any problems with my equipment. One of my brothers had to get his willy trimmed later in life, and it made him very cranky.

I understand religious and cultural reasons for circumcision. But it makes no medical sense to me for babies to have it done as a matter of course. Next thing, we'll start giving babies appendectomies to prevent having to have an appendectomy later in life!

I've read that in normal penises, there is no functional difference between toques and helmets when erect.

 

[Ariel]

If you are with an sp and not a gf why don't you just do the honors yourself?A girlfriend will likely figure things out quickly and moreso if you say so but i can see how you could be frustrated otherwise. Sp's aren't mind/body readers and everyone is different. So say ! if its a concern

 

[stryker]

Maverick do a pool (scientific preferably) to determine whether un cut men have a higher rate of STDs becasue condoms are un comfortable.

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It's POLE,,,not pool

sorry,,I'm boared

 

[Cinnamon Girl]

Lmao

Maybe he's got a big old ant eater for a foreskin

now thats a bad visual

 

[GetHappy]

Behind my back (or to my front, I'm not sure)

Wow, I leave for the evening and people start talking about me in very unflattering ways.

As far as circumcision goes, I am aware that as far as the world's population goes, there are very few cut men (it's like 5% or something). Same thing goes for Europe. However, in the United States (and I thought that this held true for Canada as well), the position is reversed, so about one in ten (if I remeber correctly) are uncircumcised, though maybe my figures are older.

As for women freaking out, I was talking about my gf, not an SP, sorry if I wasn't clear. Anyway, SPs seem to not have a problem with any sort of abnormaility, real or imagined. And I haven't had anyone freak out yet (and let me know about it anyway), but I have heard some awful stories.

As for myself, I am not a coinisiuer of cock, and I have only ever seen two others that were uncut (not that I was looking), but if I am unusual, I wouldn't know, except for the phimosis thing, which did affect me earlier in life but has mostly subsided now. And by the way, I do have a lot of loose skin (I am not sure if that is "normal") before motion begins, but it tighens afterwards (definitely not a shar pei, people like Maury can single handedly cause people to undergo this unnecessary, and by all accounts painful operation).

Incidently, STDs are more common in uncut men, the theory was that the bacteria can survive longer under the foreskin, but I think that the idea that uncut men are more likely to go bareback deserves some investigation. I have only had one unprotected encounter with an SP (gf is different long term), and that was only a BBBJ, so I can't vouch for my self on that one.

As for the condom issue, which is why I started this thread, for me, the problem is mostly during oral sex, when my gf (and a few SPs) had to stop because the tip had come loose and she felt like she was going to inhale it. But it was still snug at the base. The condom needs to move with the foreskin, or else it is down right painful, and this allows (with proper suction) the condom to come loose at the tip. It may happen during regualr intercourse more often than I am aware, but when I'm down there, I don't think about the condom much.

Still, thanks to everyone so far for their help, keep the suggestions coming. I think there are more people out there who have this problem.

And Parents: it's not a fashion statement, unless there is a religious reason, please leave your children intact.

 

[Big Trapper]

Time for a joke...

A Revenue Canada auditor was doing an audit of the affairs of a synagogue. The Rabbi ran a pretty tight ship and the little weasel couldn't find anything wrong with the books, so the weasel decided to question the Rabbi by asking him ridiculous questions, hoping that he would slip up and reveal something he shouldn't.

His first question was that he had noticed a lot of receipts for candles. The Rabbi said that yes, they did use a lot of candles. The weasel asked what did the Rabbi do with the drippings? The Rabbi immediately replied that they collected the drippings and when they got enough to fill a box, they sent them back to the manufacturer, who in turn would donate a free box of candles to the synagogue from time to time.

The weasel was stunned that the foxy old Rabbi had such a ready answer, so he said that he had also noticed a lot of reciepts for matzo balls. The Rabbi said that they used a lot of matzo balls. The weasel asked what they did with the crumbs from the matzo balls. The Rabbi assured him that they collected all the crumbs from the matzo balls and when they had a box full, they sent them back to the manufacturer, who in turn would donate to the synagogue the occasional free box of matzo balls.

Infuriated by being so easily deflected by the Rabbi, the weasel thought for a second, then asked what he thought would really stump the old Rabbi, that he had noticed that there were a lot of invoices for circumcisions, and did the Rabbi care to comment on THIS. The Rabbi cooly said that performing circumcisions was one of the things that a Rabbi traditionally did. The weasel quickly asked what the Rabbi did with the foreskins. The Rabbi responded that he saved them up, and when he had a boxful he sent them to Revenue Canada! The weasel, shocked to hear this, asked what Revenue Canada did with them.

The Rabbi responded angrily that when they got enough of them, the sent around A LITTLE PRICK LIKE YOU!!!

 

[festealth]

circumcised vs uncircumcised..... (un)fortunately i have to experience through all this. i can say it really does change your sex life a lot, at least for myself. the feeling is like scrapping off the skin on your hand and having it like that for a long period of time. i've had mine 2 years back and nowadays it is still very sensitive especially after having an orgasm, or maybe it's just a sign i need to work out my "little buddy" a bit more, lol. anyways, the first week is basically the worst.....i remember my blue underwear turning into a pair of red underwear, yeah, not very fun. plus you have to keep changing the bandages/cloth, which is extremely painful of course and time consuming. once your penis is healed, at least for me, the more sensitive part isn't where is used to be, so you gotta adjust and find where it feels best.

on the bright side, it did make sex easier for me, prior to the circumcision, the foreskin was completely covering the penis, so it doesn't pull down, and if you tried, or be aggressive in sex, it does get a bit painful as well. there is also the odor problem, you just can't clean it no matter what you do, unless you're willing to brave the agony. and lastly, my doctor said that the foreskin tend to collect a lot of bacteria, obviously, so the chance of getting sick or any disease is significantly higher.

yep yep, enough of my ranting