A call from an sp's boyfriend...my heart hurts

[steverino]

I had a call from a part time sp's boyfriend who noticed my name and number among a few others in her notebook. I felt the need to explain that his girlfriend was a prostitute and we chatted for 20 minutes about personal matters....

Just thought I would change the situation a bit to see the reactions.

Just to be clear this is a scenario I created.

 

[mistressfreyja]

Grin. Shit-disturber.

I would have done the same.

But, always remember things are not always as they seem. (or as someone conveys....two sides to the story and that kinda stuff.)

I had a call from a part time sp's boyfriend who noticed my name and number among a few others in her notebook. I felt the need to explain that his girlfriend was a prostitute and we chatted for 20 minutes about personal matters....

Just thought I would change the situation a bit to see the reactions.

 

[uncleg]

steverino, you did good. If he truely loves her he will get past this revelation. Most important he will realize that any expansion of his gf's "playground" is not the sole result of his "gigantic genitalia." Imagine the possible embarrassment after a drunken bar bet if he is asked to plop it on the bar ?

 

[mistressfreyja]

I missed the precursor post. Misinformed, and still haven`t read the other post at all.....any page. Maybe time to do so?

Grin. Shit-disturber.

I would have done the same.

But, always remember things are not always as they seem. (or as someone conveys....two sides to the story and that kinda stuff.)

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

I had a call from a part time sp's boyfriend who noticed my name and number among a few others in her notebook. I felt the need to explain that his girlfriend was a prostitute and we chatted for 20 minutes about personal matters....

Just thought I would change the situation a bit to see the reactions.

Just to be clear this is a scenario I created.

It's a different situation Steve. In your case he didn't know she was a prostitute. ...in my case she did know that I was and that he was my client.
Cute spin but not at all the same basis for comparison I'm afraid.

However, what if her boyfriend had the courage to call you knowing all of what she did and what you do with her, explaining that he knows who you are and where to find you daily ...and asked you for your help because of an extremely sensitive personal situation that was transpiring between them ...saying quickly and kindly and gently that he is not angry nor will he become angry, that he understands if you won't talk to him but truly all he wants is peace of mind surrounding the details which he already knows to be true. What if the strain and sadness and reality in the quiver in his voice spoke to you as if it could be you on the other end of the line?

I appreciate you trying to see this from another perspective but the angle is entirely different based on what she knew compared to what your SP's boyfriend knew.

 

[steverino]

How did she know you are an sp? The first line of your thread suggests that she had no idea who you were. She did not know you were an sp until you told her.

 

[Pillowtalk]

How did she know you are an sp? The first line of your thread suggests that she had no idea who you were. She did not know you were an sp until you told her.

Exactly. And she went ahead and confirmed her business, and his btw. Best case scenario, is JPR was taken for a ride by some rival sp or joker, because the alternative (outing her client, confirming to his SO that he sees sps, confirming to a complete stranger that she (JPR) provides services in either incall or mp, etc etc) AND continues to justify it, too much.

btw, steverino, funny thread. On your topic, awesome.

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

How did she know you are an sp? The first line of your thread suggests that she had no idea who you were. She did not know you were an sp until you told her.

If you've never been in the situation where you are faced with a painful fact that you wish was not true perhaps her asking who I was doesn't make sense to you. It was her opening comment. What else could she say? She had no intention of getting angry, that quickly became evident. How did she know I am an SP? You would have to inquire with her as to how she found out ...a combination of email access, text or phone number existing in the phone, my work name ...a thing called the internet with a search engine, a website with my photos on it which would match the one she was looking at ...just a few potential ways but I really don't know.

 

[vanessa kelly]

You put a smile on my face to steverino
VK

 

[JessicaPrabbit]

Exactly. And she went ahead and confirmed her business, and his btw. Best case scenario, is JPR was taken for a ride by some rival sp or joker, because the alternative (outing her client, confirming to his SO that he sees sps, confirming to a complete stranger that she (JPR) provides services in either incall or mp, etc etc) AND continues to justify it, too much.

btw, steverino, funny thread. On your topic, awesome.

I don't think you read my information stating that I spoke to the client yesterday afternoon ...after she had called. This was not a rival SP or joker, this was in fact his wife and she did in fact know what she said she knew. Not too sure why you think this is funny. My information was meant as a wake up call to not leave information where it can be found by your SO. If you read what I've written you will see that I knew I was placing my neck on the chopping block here by writing about what happened but there are some instances where the potential gains outweigh the potential losses.

 

[steverino]

So everytme a woman sees a picture of her husband and another woman, that woman has to be an sp. I am not writing this to be confrontational, I am trying to bring out the discussion of discretion and how we all deal with it.

 

[uncleg]

So everytme a woman sees a picture of her husband and another woman, that woman has to be an sp. I am not writing this to be confrontational, I am trying to bring out the discussion of discretion and how we all deal with it.

So when my SO sees the our MERL thread I'm in trouble ? Aw shit...........

 

[Pillowtalk]

I don't think you read my information stating that I spoke to the client yesterday afternoon ...after she had called. This was not a rival SP or joker, this was in fact his wife and she did in fact know what she said she knew. Not too sure why you think this is funny. My information was meant as a wake up call to not leave information where it can be found by your SO. If you read what I've written you will see that I knew I was placing my neck on the chopping block here by writing about what happened but there are some instances where the potential gains outweigh the potential losses.

Unless your name is steverino, where do you get that I think what you did is funny? What you did was wrong, unethical, and judgemnetal, and you are in the wrong business. I could care less if the client (after it is now too late) talked to you about it. Who cares? It was not your place, it was not your business. Besides, what happened to your previous excuse that you were concerned about your "safety" , I suppose worry about what else she might or could do to you, if you did not talk to her? You contradict yourself too much, that is why you are full of crap.

 

[sonoman]

What is the point of this thread?

 

[steverino]

The point is to see the issues of discretion from both the client and sp perspective. What is the point of you asking what the point is of half the threads on the board?

 

[steverino]

Excellent points Odette, that was the purpose in me posting this thread as it supplements the debate going on about the ladies responsibility.

 

[athaire]

What in the hell is the fictional sp doing leaving her book lying around where the boyfriend could find it? Why didn't you just hang up on him Rino? LOL.......

 

[athaire]

Both parties have to have it, in this industry. SPs and clients.

As an SP:

~ If called by a clients SO, no matter what she says... ALWAYS tell her you can't help her, she has the wrong number, you have no clue who she's talking about.. whatever you have to say. You NEVER carry on the conversation, even if she knows exactly who you are, and has proof you have seen her SO.

~ Don't acknowledge clients when out in public

~ Don't return texts/voice messages if you are late to get them

~ Not dressing too provocative around your incall (in the lobby, or heading out of the building), or when heading to an outcall or dinner date.

As a client:

~ Do not acknowledge an escort out in public

~ Do not mention identifying details about her incall, or the location (even mentioning cross streets is bad) in reviews

~ Repeating building info/escorts name around the vicinity of her incall is a no-no

~ Calling her from inside her building, because you forgot her suite number is a bad idea... best to leave the building, and call from outside to get it again. Be aware that some ladies do not like to text the building info, so be prepared to write it down.. so that you are sure, and do not accidently knock on the wrong door.

~ Loudly knocking can draw too much attention from neighbours

~ Wait to verbally greet an escort, until you are inside her incall and the door is closed. Again.. voices outside draw unwanted attention from neighbours. Also, being silent as you are leaving.


Feel free to add.

This post needs to be stickied somewhere.....great post Odette......

 

[island-guy]

The funny thing is that I actually HAVE had a call by an SP's boyfriend.

He didn't know where she had gone and my number was on her caller ID so he called me looking for her.

It was about 3 am at the time. I was not amused at being woken up by this moron.

Imagine if I had been out banging her at the time and was married and wife got a call from SP's boyfriend looking for her at 3am ?

Do I even have to mention that I never saw her again after that and that I no longer bother with SPs who don't take calls from blocked numbers, or I call them from a payphone if I really really want to see them.

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

I had one of the most famous sp on this board who claim to have retired but prvt message me saying she's still working. But not to tell anybody cause her bf reads this board and doesnt want him to find out she's sneaking around. Nobody is perfect and i never told anybody about this.