‘My Sugar Daddy Pays me $12,000 a Month’

[thodisipagal]

I didn't find it unusual at all. I have been offered several exclusive arrangements over the years, ranging from 10-50K/month. The average was 30K/month, and only one offer was for 50. From a financial standpoint, it made a lot of sense, but I from a lifestyle point it didn't make any. I love the variety and freedom that having full agency of my life provides me, and signing a 1-3 year exclusive contract with somebody holds zero appeal to me.

I'm not unusual in the rates offered either. My best friend in the industry signed a contract for 2 million a year. They stayed together for 3 years. A lady who used to advertise on this board signed one last year for over 300K/year plus a large signing bonus.

Everything is perspective. What we may consider to be an exorbitant amount of money is pocket change for someone else. We do it too. Spending $30 or $50 on a meal and drinks once in a while is pretty normal for us. In other parts of the world, that is more than 2 weeks salary for a doctor....and for a regular person, just getting clean drinking water is a struggle.

In a sugar daddy relationship, you are asking somebody to put their life on hold for you. If you are hiring a companion as a sugar baby, you are asking her to put her business AND personal life on hold. It isn't the same as hiring somebody by the hour, an experience, or even an extended but finite period of time. The lady is expected to be and to remain single. She is expected to remain monogamous. She is expected to be available on his schedule. If she was a companion, she is also giving up all her regular clients, and the real and genuine relationships she has forged with them. There is a lot more involved than just how many hours of time does he get to spend with her for how much.

In the end, it really just boils down to what the individuals want. As long as both parties are happy with the arrangement, then why or how can those of us on the outside judge it?

I wish I was that wealthy.

I'm sure the gentleman must be Dickson.

 

[Lady Companion]

Will your sp be there there for you though when you're recovering from surgery?
I know some sp's would like to convince us that pooning is a better alternative than marriage but I don't think many are buying that.

This is what Ava said. Been there done that , sat vigil on the death beds of not one but 2 clients , when another human being reaches out to me for help and it is sincere that they have a need I have always been there , and for the cynical men , no I was not paid to do this , but you do end up loving someone who has taken care of you financially or otherwise , you just cant help but love someone that takes care of you well in the way they are capable of doing so

Love to me is a verb not some magical elusive feeling that you search for all your life , but something you always have... inside that you share .


I'm with Ava on this one. I've also sat with 'clients' in a hospice as they transitioned into whatever comes after this. No, I was not compensated. I was there because I wanted to be. All of the gentlemen I spend time with are somewhere on the spectrum of "I genuinely like you" right through to being some of my best friends and relationships.

Yes, providers are here to earn a living. However, many of us develop very real, deep and meaningful relationships with people we meet through this. Many of us are living a life based on unconditional love, caring and service. Not because we have to. Not because we are being compensated. We do it because that is who we are. We embody love, cherish connection, and great meaning and joy in being of assistance in a multitude of ways.

Have you never been friends with somebody who provided you a service, or vice versa?

 

[PierreCoeur]

that's nice to hear , sorry I must have peercieved you wrong , because you sure came off judgemental to me ( my bad

I also apologize.

 

[Tugela]

In a round about way you actually validated the viewpoints of others. By suggesting that paying to keep a suitably desirable woman's interest in you, you are supporting the notion that the wealthy man is buying a girl's affection for him, where the interest of the girl is the financial arrangement primarily. That is sad. You also say that the money is chump change. Chump means a person easily duped and fooled. I would suggest that is also correct. The man is a fool thinking he has bought loyalty and affection and the girl is a fool because she is now in the servitude of a man because of the payment of chump change. He considers her a chump and he is a chump.

Money can't buy love.

Oh please, unless you are a subscriber to that Mills and Boone fantasy romance crap, real world relationships can be reduced to more fundamental quantities.

It is not a question of buying anything, it is a question of satisfying what your partner is looking for in a relationship. This varies for everyone. If you can successfully do that, AND MAINTAIN IT, you will have a successful relationship. If money makes that process easier, well, wtf is wrong with that?

All relationships, without exception, are based on a combination of four pillars, namely power, charisma, beauty and wealth. These embody various things, overlap to some extent and everyone has all four to some degree. Those are the things that determine if someone is attractive to someone else or not, depending on their personal needs and priorities. None of the four pillars has greater or lesser moral value. Relationships can be reduced to a formula based on those four parameters and how two people are able to provide them, and what they need/want in return. Everything else stems from that.

Being able to provide for your partner's material needs is not different from being able to provide for their aesthetic needs or emotional needs. If you can understand and provide what they want, and if they can do the same for you, then you have a solid foundation for a relationship. End of story, no matter what form it takes.

IMO if people would pay more attention to those four pillars and how that affects the interaction between them and their partner, it would make more far sounder relationships and a lot fewer divorces. You need to understand what you bring to the relationship, what your partner wants, and actively work to ENSURE THAT REMAINS SO. If you fail to do that you are almost certain to eventually have serious issues.

Give up all that Mills and Boone courtly love romantic nonsense, that is all BS and a fantasy society has woven to try to cookie cutter people into a particular convention without making too much disruption or fuss.

 

[UhOh]

This is what Ava said. Been there done that , sat vigil on the death beds of not one but 2 clients , when another human being reaches out to me for help and it is sincere that they have a need I have always been there , and for the cynical men , no I was not paid to do this , but you do end up loving someone who has taken care of you financially or otherwise , you just cant help but love someone that takes care of you well in the way they are capable of doing so

Love to me is a verb not some magical elusive feeling that you search for all your life , but something you always have... inside that you share .


I'm with Ava on this one. I've also sat with 'clients' in a hospice as they transitioned into whatever comes after this. No, I was not compensated. I was there because I wanted to be. All of the gentlemen I spend time with are somewhere on the spectrum of "I genuinely like you" right through to being some of my best friends and relationships.

Yes, providers are here to earn a living. However, many of us develop very real, deep and meaningful relationships with people we meet through this. Many of us are living a life based on unconditional love, caring and service. Not because we have to. Not because we are being compensated. We do it because that is who we are. We embody love, cherish connection, and great meaning and joy in being of assistance in a multitude of ways.

Have you never been friends with somebody who provided you a service, or vice versa?

A hug or two from you would definitely speed the recovery process for anyone in any sort of recovery. Your posts alone are uplifting. Thank you for that and for always being classy.

Not friends with anyone thats provided me a service. Not that I would be opposed to it but I've never made enough repeat visits to any one SP for such a relationship to develop.
But for you if you ever need a favor and its within my ability to deliver on just ask.

 

[Missy Mariposa]

I have to echo the others. I was 'hired' so to speak, to be someone's last companion. It was a true honour and the experience changed me as a human being. It was way beyond anything I could have imagined and not all compensation is monetary.

 

[Addison Cortez]

For me any relationship that I allow to happen is a carefully considered mutual effort and agreement to "take care of each other", whatever the requests. Over n Out

 

[bdan]

Oh please, unless you are a subscriber to that Mills and Boone fantasy romance crap, real world relationships can be reduced to more fundamental quantities.

It is not a question of buying anything, it is a question of satisfying what your partner is looking for in a relationship. This varies for everyone. If you can successfully do that, AND MAINTAIN IT, you will have a successful relationship. If money makes that process easier, well, wtf is wrong with that?

All relationships, without exception, are based on a combination of four pillars, namely power, charisma, beauty and wealth. These embody various things, overlap to some extent and everyone has all four to some degree. Those are the things that determine if someone is attractive to someone else or not, depending on their personal needs and priorities. None of the four pillars has greater or lesser moral value. Relationships can be reduced to a formula based on those four parameters and how two people are able to provide them, and what they need/want in return. Everything else stems from that.

Being able to provide for your partner's material needs is not different from being able to provide for their aesthetic needs or emotional needs. If you can understand and provide what they want, and if they can do the same for you, then you have a solid foundation for a relationship. End of story, no matter what form it takes.

IMO if people would pay more attention to those four pillars and how that affects the interaction between them and their partner, it would make more far sounder relationships and a lot fewer divorces. You need to understand what you bring to the relationship, what your partner wants, and actively work to ENSURE THAT REMAINS SO. If you fail to do that you are almost certain to eventually have serious issues.

Give up all that Mills and Boone courtly love romantic nonsense, that is all BS and a fantasy society has woven to try to cookie cutter people into a particular convention without making too much disruption or fuss.

And yet ... with all this knowledge ... you're here. How unique.

OT: I know an SP who took care of a cherished client for 7 years ... till his death, not with the understanding she would benefit, but because she WANTED to. He said she would be in his will ... and she was. But the family contested it because she was just a "hooker" and her loving and caring time was thrown in her face by the family that never visited him. She was penniless, as she never accepted a dollar.
Would you?

 

[hohumm]

I bet there are SPs on this board right now that gross $12K a month. Of course, they incur more mileage along the way, but at the same time, they don't have to walk on eggshells fearing that they will piss off their sole sponsor either.

Mileage is a function of hotness. The really hot ones incur very little mileage because they command high prices that few men are willing to pay.

 

[Fullhouse]

All relationships, without exception, are based on a combination of four pillars, namely power, charisma, beauty and wealth. .

No wonder none of my relationships lasted longer than a day or two.

I don't have much power (the most I can bench press is 68 pounds), and certainly not much charisma.
She or 'they' don't display much beauty, --- and my wealth is dictated by the number of trips to the 'Empty Bottle Return Depot'.

That's why I rent my relationships by the minutes. --- 15 minutes, 30 minutes, or sometimes even 45 minutes. (That's if I have some actual paper money, instead of a bag full of coins)

Sometimes those 'rentals' don't work out too well. Not long ago I took a lady out for dinner. While we were eating, I asked her how much she charges for some 'after dinner dessert'. $300.00 an hour was her reply.---- I asked if she could give me $25.00 worth. ---She slapped me and then continued eating her Big Mac.

Oh well, there's lots of fish in the ocean ---- if I could only get some of them to bite.

 

[ddcanz]

Some men are just generous by nature as well when it comes to women. And also of generous spirit
Paying for a "service" or contributing to a household and SO/GF/Wife etc. is one and the same. The more available- the more they throw on the table.
Has nothing to do with insecurity, control, buying love or what have you.
You know what the biggest turnoff is to a woman? A man being a cheap fucking chiseler- on whatever level.
Do not underestimate how a woman feels about her self worth and how she values herself- and even her view of a man's perception to this.
Open your wallet and reap the rewards.
Might be overly simplistic, and for sure there are gold diggers and the like that will take advantage.
But 10,000/mo-1,000,000 dollars/yr and up to pay for a woman's company without any strings attached seems like no big deal to me for those that can afford it and are so inclined.
Those that stew in envy soup or squeeze nickels probably don't get it.

 

[westwoody]

You know what the biggest turnoff is to a woman? A man being a cheap fucking chiseler- on whatever level

Some guys look at every interaction, sexual or otherwise, as a win/lose game.
If they can haggle a woman down from 300 to 280 they consider it a victory. And they are now entitled to look down on her as a loser because they beat her down.
One guy told me " It doesn't matter what you pay, what matters is what discount you get".

If both sides take a win/win approach everyone is happy.
Both have something the other wants, both get what they want.

 

[ddcanz]

Some guys look at every interaction, sexual or otherwise, as a win/lose game.
If they can haggle a woman down from 300 to 280 they consider it a victory.

Yup- it amazes me.
For less than a 7% discount the quality of a session suffers in some fashion- make no mistake.
Why would a woman/SP fully "give herself to you" when you nickel and dime her?
Pay the rate and receive (ideally) a 'full' service.

 

[ddcanz]

Exactly. Some push just for the sake of pushing. And it’s not just about rates either. Since I stopped advertising in Leolist Companion section, I rarely get anyone try to negotiate my rates, but when it comes to my restrictions it’s an ongoing battle. My restrictions and style of service are crystal clear in my ads... so why they don’t just move along to the next lady who happily provides what they want? It’s like they see it as some sort of trophy challenge or something.

It’s like they’re going to a shoe store to buy pants, then throwing a whiny tantrum because the sales lady won’t sell them pants.

This is because you are an object in their minds.
You are hot, therefore they feel the need to push you towards the fulfilment of their personal fantasy, which might include a BJ, some titfucking, maybe a body slide, intercourse, anal- whatever.
You are who you say you are- this isn't even about pushing boundaries.
You offer and provide very specific services- and some can't see past their cocks.