Do you like women/men to be forward?

[mistressfreyja]

Women...do you find it creepy when men are forward with sexual advances...

eg. "wanna meet for coffee, and maybe more...uh...you know...?"

Men...do you get turned away often b/c of being forward?

Men...do you like women to be forward, or quiet on the side?

 

[letitrock]

If a woman is into me, I like her to be forward. No mind games, no guessing
I find this to be a problem in Vancouver (refer to thread entitled "life in vancouver)

I didnt necessarily mean only sexual advances though
I meant in the dating/relationship world, asking someone on a date etc lol

 

[Silver Surfer]

Dating scene

I re-entered the dating scene after 27 years and had a number of dates where, if the mood was right, I simply asked her to stay for the night. I was only turned down once because she had an early start in the morning.

Maybe it's because my dates ad I were older but, if asked politely, there is no harm.

SS

 

[CaraClementine]

I am not dating at this time in my life, but I much prefer men/women to be forward

I consider myself a bisexual (I do not date women, but love being intimate with them.... preferring men for dating), and love it when a woman is sexually forward! Very much a turn on

When a man is forward... as it relates to my personal life - I am flattered, and if I am interested.. he is more apt to get a date and get to know me! With people who are forward, there are no guessing games, disappointments, or embarassments. It also shows interest.

Unfortunately, there seems to be less forward men/women here in Vancouver.

 

[MissJasmine]

I prefer men to start the conversation on a friendly level and later on if we are compatible I prefer to initiate the sexual stuff (I do 99% of the time whether its within a relationship or casual). Pushy men are such a turnoff. I find many men are intimidated when the woman is the one doing the pursuit since we are culturally not by default supposed to be the aggressors.

 

[apple juice]

Women...do you find it creepy when men are forward with sexual advances...

eg. "wanna meet for coffee, and maybe more...uh...you know...?"

In general I don't find it creepy when men are forward with sexual advances. I respect men that are straightforward and honest...lol...it's easier that way.

Maybe if they were men I had no interest in then I may find it a bit creepy...if that makes any sense.

 

[Silver Surfer]

it make perfect sense

In general I don't find it creepy when men are forward with sexual advances. I respect men that are straightforward and honest...lol...it's easier that way.

Maybe if they were men I had no interest in then I may find it a bit creepy...if that makes any sense.

If I were to walk up to a strange woman and be forward, I'd be a creep but, if we had had a date and were enjoying each others company, it's a different story. If you had no interest in a guy, you wouldn't have dated him in the first place.

It's actually fairly simple. If you like someone, ask them out and see what happens. If they decline the date, don't be a creep!

SS

 

[letitrock]

Unfortunately, there seems to be less forward men/women here in Vancouver.

I think maybe it has alot to do with the fear of rejection..along with some ppl being snobby
(again referring to my life in van thread)
Hell if I was never worried of rejection, I'd approach every single girl I thought was attractive and ask them out to try to get to know them better

 

[mercyshooter]

I am not dating at this time in my life, but I much prefer men/women to be forward

I consider myself a bisexual (I do not date women, but love being intimate with them.... preferring men for dating), and love it when a woman is sexually forward! Very much a turn on

When a man is forward... as it relates to my personal life - I am flattered, and if I am interested.. he is more apt to get a date and get to know me! With people who are forward, there are no guessing games, disappointments, or embarassments. It also shows interest.

Unfortunately, there seems to be less forward men/women here in Vancouver.

Wow, I'll definitely be forward on you!

 

[Keithks]

If a woman ever showed even the slightest bit of interest in me, I'd just assume she was either trying to use me (not in a good way) or doing it out of pity.

 

[CJ Tylers]

straight forward and to the point is good!

 

[Keithks]

Keithks......WTF is this suppose to mean man!!! You shouldnt be so tough on yourself bud. I believe there there's alot more than one girl out there. Just be yourself and kind a good person. Have you tried dating sites??

I hope you are not expecting an escort to fall for you??

You shouldnt be getting involved with these escort ladies in terms of dating.

It means exactly what I said. I don't know how to make myself any clearer.

Sure, there are plenty of available girls out there. That doesn't mean any of them would see ME as a prospective mate.

Just be myself, huh? That might have worked in the 50's before the sexual revolution, before the system of harems we call the dating market today. But now women have so much choice that guys like me don't stand a chance. Women may give up the pussy more freely and easily than in the good ol' days, but they're also much more discriminating (because they can be). But I digress.

Of course I've tried dating sites. And yes, it does allow one to initiate contact with more women, but what good is that when they're even pickier than they would be in real life? You do realize that even the fattest, ugliest women on those sites have hundreds of horny guys messaging them, right? And these women all go for the same few studs, while automatically rejecting the vast majority of guys who don't meet their insanely high standards.

Who said I expect these escorts to get involved with me for free? I would never expect that. I can read body language, and the ones I've visited have been as visibly repulsed by me as any woman would be.

I know you're just trying to help, and I don't hold anything against you. I can tell from your posts that you're probably one of those lucky guys who lost his virginity by 15 and has been getting plenty of female attention since, so I can sort of understand why you have such difficulty seeing things from the other side.

 

[BS Detector]

Men...do you get turned away often b/c of being forward?

Men...do you like women to be forward, or quiet on the side?

I'd rather forward to an extent rather than playing guessing games. More important however is being honest. Can't stand women who keep telling you they want to go slow (when they really may not be interested at all but can't come out and say it to your face, esp when you come right out and ask). Then, when you act on what they said (as opposed to what they might have meant) they treat you like a piece of crap. All you did was take them at their word. How can you respect that? How can you have trust? Lose trust and respect and you lose the very foundation of any kind of relationship whether it be romantic, friends, employer/employee etc.

 

[letitrock]

It means exactly what I said. I don't know how to make myself any clearer.

Sure, there are plenty of available girls out there. That doesn't mean any of them would see ME as a prospective mate.

Just be myself, huh? That might have worked in the 50's before the sexual revolution, before the system of harems we call the dating market today. But now women have so much choice that guys like me don't stand a chance. Women may give up the pussy more freely and easily than in the good ol' days, but they're also much more discriminating (because they can be). But I digress.

Of course I've tried dating sites. And yes, it does allow one to initiate contact with more women, but what good is that when they're even pickier than they would be in real life? You do realize that even the fattest, ugliest women on those sites have hundreds of horny guys messaging them, right? And these women all go for the same few studs, while automatically rejecting the vast majority of guys who don't meet their insanely high standards.

Who said I expect these escorts to get involved with me for free? I would never expect that. I can read body language, and the ones I've visited have been as visibly repulsed by me as any woman would be.

I know you're just trying to help, and I don't hold anything against you. I can tell from your posts that you're probably one of those lucky guys who lost his virginity by 15 and has been getting plenty of female attention since, so I can sort of understand why you have such difficulty seeing things from the other side.

You do make a point about the dating sites. Being online allows the women to "screen" the guys she talks with before even messaging with them

 

[MrPeterNorth]

As I touched on this in another thread, by and large most people in Vancouver don't know how to successfully flirt. That's the bottom line. Men don't know how to give it, and women don't know how to receive it.

Dating sites are at best pathetic. It gives even the most undesirable of females the "power" they never have in the real world to feel like all the other hot girls by rejecting anything but the best of the best. By and large most of the women are unnecessarily judgemental and have the mandatory laundry list of what Mr. Right should be. My biggest issue with these things is that I find hardly anyone using it is actually being serious. For women it's nothing but a popularity contest to compare their looks-scores and to compare how many emails they get per day, and the women using it generally don't want to actually meet.

I could never understand how two people, living in the same city, with all the great weather we've been having, would rather sit at home alone and bored, than to meet for a coffee.

Well, that's a Vancouver dating-site experience. Friends also in Vancouver have the same experience. Friends in eastern parts of Canada are meeting 1-2 new girls a WEEK with almost no effort - using PoF that is.

 

[godfather_77]

It is fine line between being forward and and being a dick. Ultimately it boils down to timing: knowing when to be forward and when to hold back. For men being too forward can sometimes be the difference between getting laid or getting charged. altough laws apply to both sexes in our society you are not likely to get a guy going to the cops to press charges on woman who asked him to fuck. With that aside, I would love a woman to be forward with me and just say what she wants, and hopefully I can give it to her

 

[Keithks]

You know what Keithks? I'd see you as a potential mate until I realised you're so "woe is me" all the time. That's a turn off, not to mention a huge bummer.

No, you'd disqualify me as a potential mate as soon as you saw my ugly mug. And even if I were handsome, you'd disqualify me as soon as you realized I'm not the badboy, life-of-the-party type. I just got done with university, and that's all the girls ever went for. There's no grey area. You're either a good looking beer-swilling badboy who's swimming in pussy, or you're a regular guy who either a) gets absolutely nothing the whole four years (at least 25% of guys where I went to school) or b) gets "lucky" and lands one plain jane girlfriend who pussywhips you like crazy, treats sex like a chore, and is probably banging alphas on the side. And that's after having to endure hundreds of painful rejections.

 

[CaraClementine]

No, you'd disqualify me as a potential mate as soon as you saw my ugly mug. And even if I were handsome, you'd disqualify me as soon as you realized I'm not the badboy, life-of-the-party type. I just got done with university, and that's all the girls ever went for. There's no grey area. You're either a good looking beer-swilling badboy who's swimming in pussy, or you're a regular guy who either a) gets absolutely nothing the whole four years (at least 25% of guys where I went to school) or b) gets "lucky" and lands one plain jane girlfriend who pussywhips you like crazy, treats sex like a chore, and is probably banging alphas on the side. And that's after having to endure hundreds of painful rejections.

Life of the party types can be irritating... as can be "victims".

With both of my professions (I run a sm. business), I am in positions where I have to take charge. In my personal life, it is nice to take a break from that... and I certainly don't want to have to play councillor. This is part of the draw for me, with Alpha males. Haven't managed to find a balance yet though, with Alpha males.

More assertive types don't end up with gfs that control them... if they do - they get rid.

 

[Keithks]

More assertive types don't end up with gfs that control them... if they do - they get rid.

You're describing the alpha studs. A regular guy, on the other hand, would be happy to have just about any girl, controlling or not. And once he gets her, he knows he can't afford to lose her, because if he does it could be a long time before another girl will have him.

I'd act like a doormat too if I ever got a girlfriend. I'd probably even let her fuck other guys. All just so I could get mediocre sex maybe once every couple weeks. It's pathetic, I know, but it's better than celibacy.

 

[Silver Surfer]

Holy Crap

It means exactly what I said. I don't know how to make myself any clearer.

Sure, there are plenty of available girls out there. That doesn't mean any of them would see ME as a prospective mate.

Just be myself, huh? That might have worked in the 50's before the sexual revolution, before the system of harems we call the dating market today. But now women have so much choice that guys like me don't stand a chance. Women may give up the pussy more freely and easily than in the good ol' days, but they're also much more discriminating (because they can be). But I digress.

Of course I've tried dating sites. And yes, it does allow one to initiate contact with more women, but what good is that when they're even pickier than they would be in real life? You do realize that even the fattest, ugliest women on those sites have hundreds of horny guys messaging them, right? And these women all go for the same few studs, while automatically rejecting the vast majority of guys who don't meet their insanely high standards.

Who said I expect these escorts to get involved with me for free? I would never expect that. I can read body language, and the ones I've visited have been as visibly repulsed by me as any woman would be.

I know you're just trying to help, and I don't hold anything against you. I can tell from your posts that you're probably one of those lucky guys who lost his virginity by 15 and has been getting plenty of female attention since, so I can sort of understand why you have such difficulty seeing things from the other side.

Quasimodo had Esmeralda fall for him so quit whining and be positive. If you constantly say "I can't", it becomes a self fulfilling prophesy. What's wrong with a "Here I am and if you don't like it, it's your loss" attitude?

I'm no prize in the looks department but I am what I am so I might as well have some fun while I'm here. This attitude and a good sense of humor gets me laid and I'm over 50. Wake up.

SS