I am so tired of faking orgasms....I swear they should hand out an equivilent of the "Acadamy Awards" for this talent. I worked with a woman recently (who is actually ten years older than I am!) and she was soooo good, even I was fooled.
But it is bad sex! Let me explain. Once upon a time men didn't care if a woman orgasmed, it was all about them (not all men though!) and then women's lib came along (and I was a feminist too!) and announced that sex was meaningless unless a man was able to get his woman off.
A man will rise to any challenge, and, subsequently it has been decided that the deed is not done right unless the woman is screaming and writhing in apoplectic joy and the sooner into the session he can produce this effect the more of a man he is. (when I masturbate alone my orgasms are relatively quiet, and may appear rather boring to a casual viewer)
But, men and women experience sex differently. It is difficult to explain to a man that sex for a woman can be fantastic even without an orgasm...because a man is goal oriented: he gets hard, he rubs it, he ejaculates and he is finished. While a woman is slower to start, she is more like the stew on the back stove, bubbling away on a low setting, if she doesn't orgasm now, she may in the next session or the next day, or she may finish herself off later...it's no big deal...REALLY!!
Through a different line of work I meet lots of young fellows who ask me questions about their bodies, things they should teach in sex ed class in school, and the one thing I tell them is not to put pressure on their girlfriends to achieve orgasms so they can feel like a good lover. It's just not fair, on either of them. She will be driven to faking orgasms and then, what if he uses the move on the next girl and she's like "What was that?"
Sadly, I am meeting young women who have not experienced orgasms at all, because masturbation was something they felt uncomfortable about (Hey! wasn't there a sexual revolution?) and some who are just experiencing an orgasm in their twenties...(hell I was having multiples at age 14, I cannot imagine missing those teen years of hot hormones) These women are not relaxed enough in sex because they are worried too much about having the big 'O', so, it becomes a wicked cycle, like when men are worried about performing and they find it difficult to get an erection...think about it like that!
Another problem is when you actually have an orgasm and the client doubts you, wow! killer! I find it very difficult, nearly impossible to orgasm with that same client again, because when the orgasm approaches I am wondering "will he believe this? Should I change the way I moan?" etc...and it just kills the approaching sensation...So! There! LOL!
I am sure there are some SP's who can cum rapidly, but, sadly I am one who likes to (and has out of habit for years and years) set aside an hour or two for masturbation and I never hurry myself, so "rapid fire" release is not my forte! Women I speak to in my daily ramblings (and I can get a conversation about sex started in a church choir as the priest is passing out the sacrament, I really have!) they basically agree on all I have set out in this long and rambling epistle
Ciao!
But it is bad sex! Let me explain. Once upon a time men didn't care if a woman orgasmed, it was all about them (not all men though!) and then women's lib came along (and I was a feminist too!) and announced that sex was meaningless unless a man was able to get his woman off.
A man will rise to any challenge, and, subsequently it has been decided that the deed is not done right unless the woman is screaming and writhing in apoplectic joy and the sooner into the session he can produce this effect the more of a man he is. (when I masturbate alone my orgasms are relatively quiet, and may appear rather boring to a casual viewer)
But, men and women experience sex differently. It is difficult to explain to a man that sex for a woman can be fantastic even without an orgasm...because a man is goal oriented: he gets hard, he rubs it, he ejaculates and he is finished. While a woman is slower to start, she is more like the stew on the back stove, bubbling away on a low setting, if she doesn't orgasm now, she may in the next session or the next day, or she may finish herself off later...it's no big deal...REALLY!!
Through a different line of work I meet lots of young fellows who ask me questions about their bodies, things they should teach in sex ed class in school, and the one thing I tell them is not to put pressure on their girlfriends to achieve orgasms so they can feel like a good lover. It's just not fair, on either of them. She will be driven to faking orgasms and then, what if he uses the move on the next girl and she's like "What was that?"
Sadly, I am meeting young women who have not experienced orgasms at all, because masturbation was something they felt uncomfortable about (Hey! wasn't there a sexual revolution?) and some who are just experiencing an orgasm in their twenties...(hell I was having multiples at age 14, I cannot imagine missing those teen years of hot hormones) These women are not relaxed enough in sex because they are worried too much about having the big 'O', so, it becomes a wicked cycle, like when men are worried about performing and they find it difficult to get an erection...think about it like that!
Another problem is when you actually have an orgasm and the client doubts you, wow! killer! I find it very difficult, nearly impossible to orgasm with that same client again, because when the orgasm approaches I am wondering "will he believe this? Should I change the way I moan?" etc...and it just kills the approaching sensation...So! There! LOL!
I am sure there are some SP's who can cum rapidly, but, sadly I am one who likes to (and has out of habit for years and years) set aside an hour or two for masturbation and I never hurry myself, so "rapid fire" release is not my forte! Women I speak to in my daily ramblings (and I can get a conversation about sex started in a church choir as the priest is passing out the sacrament, I really have!) they basically agree on all I have set out in this long and rambling epistle
Ciao!
