I wasn’t trying to suggest its one sided at all. I’m still learning but from what I understand the Dom gets pleasure and satisfaction herself, it’s usually demanded is it not? And with the more sadistic Dom’s the pleasure they get seems obvious. I would trust that when a sub is so willing to concede vulnerability the Dom would desire to fulfill and meet his needs, to make him happy.
My intent with regular SP’s is always for an eagerness to please, it may be ego or just an affirmation of my own worth, but the satisfaction comes from a mutual enjoyment. In those types of encounters the mystery remains whether she is actually enjoying the experience. The girls who do best to persuade me of this are always my favorite.
The money is a forethought and really has no bearing for me once the session starts.
My thought is, with a Dom the desire for me to please her is required, but not as if it’s my responsibility so to speak. She will ensure her own pleasure despite my shortcomings(no pun intended). So my goal is guaranteed, and with that assurance my experience should always be fulfilling. If she not only gets pleasure from my submission but also my joy then what a bonus. You’re right, it is win win. But ultimately it is all about me, I like it when everybody’s happy.
NOTE: Katlyn, I read your other post. I appreciate your candor and willingness to continue during your situation. I hope everything works out well and you get back to what you/we love. The "Good sexy no-sex times" still sounds pretty awesome and VFM.