Dangerous client-heads up ladies

[Small pleasures]

Well, after hundreds of great clients I've finally had my first real scare.

It was a client I've seen twice before and although he was a little strange there were no real red flags.

We were about 15 minutes into the session, I had been beating him pretty hard (this is what he comes for specifically) when with no warning he jumped up from the spanking bench and grabbed my hair and started to shove me toward the wall. It happened so quickly I didn't have time to react.

Luckily I happened to have a girlfriend over observing the session and she screamed: "What are you doing?!" Which snapped him out of his rage and he backed down and ran down the hall toward the bathroom where his cloths were, apologizing as he went.

I followed right behind and calmly told him to get on his knees, which he did, and told him to put his cloths on and leave, which he did. Calm was the farthest thing from how I felt, as you can imagine. I weigh less than 100 pounds and he was probably double my weight and a tough looking guy.

My girlfriend and I went over every detail and we really didn't see any warning. He wasn't complaining about the beating, he was taking it well, quietly. I was doing a slow rythmic paddle with an impliment to the beat of the music, it was intense but nothing too dramatic.

I had seen him twice before. Both sessions I just beat him hard, as per his request. This time he brought my tribute, plus tip, a nice letter and a $100 gift certificate for a spa. So strange that he would snap like that?

I have sent his description, phone number, email address and full name to every Pro Domme I have in my address book. If you didn't receive the info, please email me: talk2mistresst@yahoo.ca, as my Perb inbox is pretty much full until they put my name in red again (payment sent a week ago but Perb is slow moving these days.)

Ladies, be safe out there.

 

[Aeiyah]

I'm glad you were able to defuse the situation. Thankfully he calmed down with just verbal commands.

 

[Small pleasures]

I'm glad you were able to defuse the situation. Thankfully he calmed down with just verbal commands.

Honestly, I can't take credit for it. I froze in the moment, it happened so fast. He already had a handfull of my hair and was starting to push me toward the wall. My girlfriend screamed at him which snapped him out of it. By the time I ordered him to his knees he was already being submissive.

Reflecting on it the next day we still can't figure out how it happened without any warning.

I realized that he included the receipt for the spa certificate which has his real name and the exact time he purchased it. I know where he purchased it they would have security camera's. I'm wondering if I should report this to the police? Not to cause trouble, but to try to get him to get mental help.

I've already heard from another Pro Domme who he contacted a couple of days ago, so he may try to do this to someone else.

Opinions?

 

[ASHLEYM]

Honestly, I can't take credit for it. I froze in the moment, it happened so fast. He already had a handfull of my hair and was starting to push me toward the wall. My girlfriend screamed at him which snapped him out of it. By the time I ordered him to his knees he was already being submissive.

Reflecting on it the next day we still can't figure out how it happened without any warning.

I realized that he included the receipt for the spa certificate which has his real name and the exact time he purchased it. I know where he purchased it they would have security camera's. I'm wondering if I should report this to the police? Not to cause trouble, but to try to get him to get mental help.

I've already heard from another Pro Domme who he contacted a couple of days ago, so he may try to do this to someone else.

Opinions?

I am sorry to hear that happened to you Absolutely report it to the police, violence in any form is not to be condoned. Could you please pm me his info? Thanks!

 

[Aeiyah]

My guess is he has some sort of hidden demon that is part of the reason for his desire to be beaten cruelly. I imagine he thought he could handle the situation once his tolerance limit was reached and yesterday was the first time you exceeded it. Or perhaps he was always a ticking time bomb that could have snapped anytime.

 

[bobo69z]

First off my lady, good to read that you were shaken and maybe a little stirred. I'm glad no major physical damage resulted. It was great that you had your friend to help diffuse the situation.

I would agree with AshleyM. You should report the incident, any violence in any form should not be tolerated.

I hope all is well with you now.

rikki

 

[MissJasmine]

Sorry to hear about what happened to you Miss T, and thanks for the heads up. You should absolutely report him to the police and not take this sort of thing lightly.

He could have gotten violent before, and may plan to contact other doms in the future. Besides, you have a witness, and his real name already.

 

[Small pleasures]

Thanks everyone

I have now filed a police report.

I learned that he recently contacted another Pro Domme. He might do something worse to someone else and I might be able to prevent it. I just think he needs to get mental help and maybe getting the police involved will help him get on the right path.

Now I'll get to see how the Vancouver Police handle a situation like this. I've been told that they are very respectful of escorts. I wonder how they'll treat a Professional Dominatrix...? I suppose it depends on the individual. I filed over the phone with a lady who was very neutral. Police officers will actually come to my home to get a full report at some point. Should be interesting.

 

[uncleg]

Reflecting on it the next day we still can't figure out how it happened without any warning.

I realized that he included the receipt for the spa certificate which has his real name and the exact time he purchased it. I know where he purchased it they would have security camera's. I'm wondering if I should report this to the police? Not to cause trouble, but to try to get him to get mental help.

Opinions?

First, good to hear that you are o.k.

As you go over what happened, was there anything different in the setting from previous visits other then location ? Did you have a friend watching during his last two visits ? Has he ever expressed a fantasy to reverse roles ?
You state he was taking his beating quietly, was this the case previously ?

As to going to the police, iffy at best, depending how they handle it. I doubt you would want to press charges and even if you did I doubt crown would pursue it. As best you would be giving the police a possible suspect in the event something happened to a Pro Domme. A consideration is what might you trigger ? Notifing other Dommes, a good move, posting that you have done so, maybe not so much. The same with the police, if they contact him, even without charges it may set him off if he in fact has a problem. This may have been a one time thing, and care has to be taken to not push him to repeat or get vindictive if he's cut off from his kink. Just some thoughts.

Take care.

 

[Small pleasures]

Seeing it from every angle...

As to going to the police, iffy at best, depending how they handle it. I doubt you would want to press charges and even if you did I doubt crown would pursue it. As best you would be giving the police a possible suspect in the event something happened to a Pro Domme. A consideration is what might you trigger ? Notifing other Dommes, a good move, posting that you have done so, maybe not so much. The same with the police, if they contact him, even without charges it may set him off if he in fact has a problem. This may have been a one time thing, and care has to be taken to not push him to repeat or get vindictive if he's cut off from his kink. Just some thoughts.

Take care.

I appreciate the perspective from different angles and I don't disagree. In fact, I thought the very same thing that by posting on Perb and/or getting the police involved it may set him off further. However, weighing out the option of doing nothing and finding out that my inaction resulted in someone else getting hurt seems like the greater evil to me personally.

The police were just here and took a full report. I am not interested in having him charged, I simply wanted the poilce to contact him, to send a clear message that this behavior is NOT okay and to maybe prompt him to get mental help.

The poilce wanted me to send the message to other Pro's that it's okay to contact the police about these situations, that they take it seriously, etc. Although honestly I found the process a little uncomfortable. They asked me some strange questions and made some strange assumptions. For example, they thought that I should restrain every client I beat for my own safety. I tried to explain that every client is not okay with being tied down and that if they really wanted to harm me, eventually I've got to untie them anyway. I realize they were just trying to be helpful. I did feel like they thought I was a bit of a freak too. I felt a little judged. Oh well.

 

[mick_eight]

Glad to hear that you are OK. Maybe its just me but my guess is that anyone who gets a thrill from being beat, is not dealing from a full deck anyways. I would think that anyone of your clients may at some time lash out in a violent manner. After all you are not dealing with mentally stable people.

 

[Aeiyah]

People who don't understand are not welcome

Glad to hear that you are OK. Maybe its just me but my guess is that anyone who gets a thrill from being beat, is not dealing from a full deck anyways. I would think that anyone of your clients may at some time lash out in a violent manner. After all you are not dealing with mentally stable people.

This is exactly the type of response that Miss T and Anna were talking about when Miss T said "I did feel like they thought I was a bit of a freak too. I felt a little judged." It's exactly why there are so many lurkers in the BDSM forum who are afraid to contribute and why for such a long time I was unwilling to be truly honest about who I am.

 

[Small pleasures]

Glad to hear that you are OK. Maybe its just me but my guess is that anyone who gets a thrill from being beat, is not dealing from a full deck anyways. I would think that anyone of your clients may at some time lash out in a violent manner. After all you are not dealing with mentally stable people.

Bullshit. Period.

 

[tampdown]

Yes.... bullshit!!! Check the research....

Glad to hear that you are OK. Maybe its just me but my guess is that anyone who gets a thrill from being beat, is not dealing from a full deck anyways. I would think that anyone of your clients may at some time lash out in a violent manner. After all you are not dealing with mentally stable people.

Mick, I have to say... you are being an idiot... and not thinking with all your mental faculties!!!

Research generally "attributes the attraction of sadomasochism to individuals who are generally psychologically, socially, and sexually well adjusted."

See....

http://www.psych.uncc.edu/UJOP/UJOP 2002/Haymore.htm

Sure... there is always going to be unbalanced people in any group, but one person cannot condemn a whole group.

tampdown

 

[tampdown]

Mistress T,

Sorry to hear about this, but glad to know you and your girlfriend are okay.

tamp

 

[Aeiyah]

Bullshit. Period.

Mike, I have to say... you are being an idiot... and not thinking with all your mental faculties!!!

My original response was going to be fucktard, but you guys were more elegant.

 

[uncleg]

For example, they thought that I should restrain every client I beat for my own safety.

I did feel like they thought I was a bit of a freak too. I felt a little judged. Oh well.

Something I'll have to remember when I collect my 20, though in reverse.:

To bad that that is the attitude in the vanilla world. If it makes you feel good and the only one getting hurt does so by consent, who's to judge.

 

[mick_eight]

I stand by what I said . You can put whatever spin you want on it but it doesn't change the fact of what happened, shrinks have said the same as me right from Freuds day. I never called anyone of you fuktards for your thoughts so maybe some anger management may be in order. I never lurk in BDSM, never read the treads ever, just read the warnings no matter which threads they are in. So you can all go back to your BDSM lifestyle with no worries from me until the next time you feel a need to warn PERB about your problems

 

[mick_eight]

My guess is he has some sort of hidden demon that is part of the reason for his desire to be beaten cruelly. I imagine he thought he could handle the situation once his tolerance limit was reached and yesterday was the first time you exceeded it. Or perhaps he was always a ticking time bomb that could have snapped anytime.

Funny you should say this and then jump all over my post . Hidden demons are what cause violent actions . you should decide what side of the fence your on

 

[mick_eight]

fuck off you dipshit. Your comments clearly show you are narrow-minded and judgemental. Your callous disregard for someone who was placed in a situation where she generally feared for her life makes you unwelcome here.

Fuck you , you uneducated peon, my first sentence was I was glad she was ok. Quit trying to wiggle your way out of being so confused you don't know what to think. And don't try your domme ways with me because I'm nobodies slave least of all yours.Who the fuck do you think you are to decide who is wellcome and who is not. That really shows narrow mindness if any statement does. Remember what I said about anger management, you sure could use some