Once I got going, I just couldn't stop.
I really dislike the stereotype that all a woman wants from a man is money. Don't get me wrong, there certainly are women who prioritize cash over everything else, but those women are golddiggers first, and women second. I've never once gone after a man for his money, and most of the men I've dated where artists or scientists who didn't make loads of money. I've dated a few of the corporate type with lots of money, and found them lacking in all of the areas that really mattered to me. I do "this" to set
myself up for the rest of my life, and by set up, I mean, live comfortably with a business I own and run myself, not living the highlife on permanent vacation/shopping spree. I'm really, really, ridiculously..................... practical.
I can only speak for myself here (and some of my friends who have the same views) but there is a difference between what one
needs in a partner and what one
wants.
Intellect
Need - he must be smart, funny & witty.
Want -
crazy mad scientist brain that can see all sorts of amazing connections and can build a microwave out of tinfoil, duct tape and a solar power calculator (think Michael Scofield).
Build **I tend to agree with Anica, men who are obsessed with their muscles are vain and I'd like to add
tediously boring...such a turn off, especially since I don't like the look anyway.
Need - a healthy, well proportioned body that is reasonably fit.
Want - chiseled, martial arts honed body (think Vincent Cassel's in Ocean's 12), under 6', smattering of chest hair, and really great tattoos.
Looks
Need - Attractive, at least in the
boy next door way.
Want -
Dark, brooding Gallic looks with overt displays of testosterone and full lips.
Sex/Chemistry
Need - Someone that I find attractive and have good chemistry with; who is an attentive and considerate lover and if he doesn't know exactly what I want, is at least willing and able to learn; and packs an average unit.
Want - Someone who has such a powerful pheromonal effect on me that his mere presence makes me want to drop to my knees and gnaw my way through the front of his pants; who knows exactly how I want it & how often and gives it to me until I'm utterly exhausted; who eats pussy like a lesbian; and packs a larger than average unit (but not too large).
Finances / Career
Need - A man with a career he enjoys (so he's not a unbearable at home) who makes enough to support himself and play and travel from time to time. And is financially practical and responsible.
Want - A man with a career that is either lucrative and flexible enough that he can take large chunks of time off and travel around the world. Or, a man who has a career that is flexible enough that he can do it anywhere in the world and make a decent living doing it.
Life is grand when you get all of your needs AND most of your wants