Entitlement of Time Within the Industry

[TheBellaRoseXo]

Some of ya’ll are peeving me off. Work calls, your child gets sick, your car breaks down… I get it and won’t penalize people for that.

But there’s some people… It’s like the world revolves around them…

• “I’m going to be late…” ➡ “Oh, you’re not available the full time now?” - No - You can’t show up 40 minutes late and expect to disrupt the other bookings of the day. If you’re THAT late, your time gets cut.
• ”My meeting was cancelled. I can come now.” - Ever consider that an SP shouldn’t automatically be expected to rearrange her day because your meeting was cancelled?? Immediate ick…

Male entitlement of time within this industry is baffling. If you book time that someone else would value and then cancel day-of multiple times, you’ve taken money consistently from the SP’s pocket as well as connection from men who experience this industry as more than just physical. I have personally met four widowers and six openly admitting being near s*icide in my time in this industry. This entitlement doesn’t just affect women. It steals connection from other men who value the feminine energy.

*To be objective (because there’s going to be some SPRINTING to reply about having experienced chronic lateness from an SP): That is also unacceptable. There is such a thing as allotting time between sessions so future bookings aren’t affected - WITH AN OBVIOUS LIMIT. And yes, some SP’s could analyze their relationship with time. Apologies.

 

[Cock Throppled]

It goes far beyond this industry. The entitlement people expect through all society now is ridiculous. Everyone thinks they are special, and deserve to be catered to no matter how bad their behaviour has been, or how irresponsible they are.

 

[apl16]

It goes far beyond this industry. The entitlement people expect through all society now is ridiculous. Everyone thinks they are special, and deserve to be catered to no matter how bad their behaviour has been, or how irresponsible they are.

I was taught at an early age that wasting the time of others is very disrespectful.

I had a group of friends that would get together often for a coffee or for lunch.
One of the guys was consistently late.

We decided to tell him that the lunch would be an hour earlier to teach him a lesson. When we showed up and was waiting 20 minutes for us he complained bitterly about it.

He learned his lesson for a little while but we had to do it again once in awhile to let him know that it wasn't cool.

 

[westwoody]

Time is something you can never get back.
Wasting someone’s time is being a selfish asshole.

 

[CanineCowboy]

Wasting people's time is the worst.

 

[grusse]

I was taught at an early age that wasting the time of others is very disrespectful.

I had a group of friends that would get together often for a coffee or for lunch.
One of the guys was consistently late.

We decided to tell him that the lunch would be an hour earlier to teach him a lesson. When we showed up and was waiting 20 minutes for us he complained bitterly about it.

He learned his lesson for a little while but we had to do it again once in awhile to let him know that it wasn't cool.

I'm surprised he kept getting invited..or that you didn't start the lunch on time, without him.
If I schedule a meeting at 9am it starts at 9am.

 

[jgg]

I'm surprised he kept getting invited..or that you didn't start the lunch on time, without him.
If I schedule a meeting at 9am it starts at 9am.

If you are on time, you are 10 minutes late.

 

[westwoody]

If I schedule a meeting at 9am it starts at 9am.

We have one asshole who shows up late every single meeting. Then she yaps about stuff that was already covered. She’s definitely on the bubble and is so self absorbed she doesn’t even realize it.

 

[Harmony-bc]

Sometimes life happens and being on time is difficult to do. But generally I try to be on time within 5 minutes either way. If somebody is extremely late with me, ie 40 minutes or longer, I’ll cancel and just not see them again.

I remember one time, I thought I was getting stood up and I was really annoyed. The person had my address and never showed up. Turns out he totaled his car a few blocks from my place. Valid reason to no show me and text me an apology later. I believed him because he sent pics and I had seen him before.

I’m pretty chill with lateness as long as I don’t feel disrespected. Life happens sometimes outside our control. I don’t care if you lie to me as long as you text me and give me a valid reason so I’m not sitting around waiting and being annoyed lol.

Same as if I’m a bit late and somebody is mad at me, we’re probably not compatible.

I have a friend who used to be chronically late for everything. Sometimes by an hour or two. But I adored her and knew she was just struggling with life stuff. So I started only inviting her to things where she could saunter in whenever she wanted to.

I get that it can feel disrespectful when somebody doesn’t seem to respect your time 💕

 

[Harmony-bc]

If you are on time, you are 10 minutes late.

I’d rather somebody be 10 minutes late than 10 minutes early lol. I’d rather sit around waiting for you, then be stressed out that I only have mascara on one eye and you’re standing on the sidewalk haha

 

[apl16]

I'm surprised he kept getting invited..or that you didn't start the lunch on time, without him.
If I schedule a meeting at 9am it starts at 9am.

He was part of our group for a long time and a pretty good person other his tardiness

 

[jgg]

I’d rather somebody be 10 minutes late than 10 minutes early lol. I’d rather sit around waiting for you, then be stressed out that I only have mascara on one eye and you’re standing on the sidewalk haha

I completely understand. That's my rule for real life.

When seeing a lady, I will announce my arrival at the agreed-upon time, never early, and I am prepared to wait for a response. I'll never be on the sidewalk, in the lobby, or in the hall waiting.

Discretion is paramount.

 

[dchoye]

While I sympathize with the OP—this works both ways. It’s not only clients who can be unreliable; providers can be too. I’ve had experiences where providers flaked or double-booked me.

One experience I’ll remember. I booked an Indy arrived right on time, and even had the appointment confirmed by phone when I talked to her. I waited in the hotel lobby, texted her, and she said she was finishing up and would be ready soon. I waited another half hour, texted again, and got the same response. After almost two hours of waiting, I finally gave up and left.

I only waited that long because I really wanted to see her—she was a well-reviewed provider who advertises here. I’ve had far fewer issues like this with agencies. They usually communicate delays, give a reason, and manage time better. Indies often have to handle everything themselves, including scheduling and communication, and it shows.

 

[Once you go black]

Most people male or female only see about a foot ahead of themselves or they only see a mirror .

On a side note , I’m chronically 15 min early for provider appointments .

 

[Forum mod]

It was beaten into me at a young age, you better be 5-10 minutes early to anywhere you need to be, and then you can relax and kill time until the meeting, appointment, movie or whatever. I would absolutely lose my patience who was habitually twenty minutes late for everything, and I would certainly consider using that trick of telling them the event or meeting started 30 minutes sooner to get them there on time or even a bit early. I would enjoy telling them why we did it if they had the guts to complain about it.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

It was beaten into me at a young age, you better be 5-10 minutes early to anywhere you need to be, and then you can relax and kill time until the meeting, appointment, movie or whatever. I would absolutely lose my patience who was habitually twenty minutes late for everything, and I would certainly consider using that trick of telling them the event or meeting started 30 minutes sooner to get them there on time or even a bit early. I would enjoy telling them why we did it if they had the guts to complain about it.

One of the key frustrations in marriage #2 for me. She was constantly late, stressing me as I was the one who was minding the time and planning to try not miss (insert event). Finally I just had enough, and it was "I am leaving at XYZ time and I did". If it was for a show/concert, I would leave her a ticket. It is was a kids event, half the time I ended up taking the kids and she could show up whenever. Really got me into the mode of taking absolutely zero shit about any complaints. And as a pooner corollary to this, I have the date that separation agreement was signed as a recurring calendar reminder and I do my best to celebrate with a duo appointment!! Me showing up early

As per the Mod, when you are brought up to respect TIME, and it gets violated by other people, that is a hard and fast boundary and woe to thee who cross it!

 

[westwoody]

The amount of respect someone has for your time is the same as the amount of respect they have for you.

 

[GeeBeeP]

It was beaten into me at a young age, you better be 5-10 minutes early to anywhere you need to be, and then you can relax and kill time until the meeting, appointment, movie or whatever. I would absolutely lose my patience who was habitually twenty minutes late for everything, and I would certainly consider using that trick of telling them the event or meeting started 30 minutes sooner to get them there on time or even a bit early. I would enjoy telling them why we did it if they had the guts to complain about it.

I was raised the same way. Being on time means being 5 minutes early. Allow extra time in your journey for delays and if you’re early relax kill the time. Being late is disrespectful.

 

[jamasianman]

One time I booked a lady in Richmond and she accidently double booked me and another fella. I showed up a split second before he did and she let me in and then told the other dude to wait. He just shrugged and went back to his car. If i had shown up second i wouldnt be able to stick around for an hour as I came by transit so it can be brutal when scheduling isn't professional.

 

[jgg]

One time I booked a lady in Richmond and she accidently double booked me and another fella. I showed up a split second before he did and she let me in and then told the other dude to wait. He just shrugged and went back to his car. If i had shown up second i wouldnt be able to stick around for an hour as I came by transit so it can be brutal when scheduling isn't professional.

An opportunity missed.