Contacting An SP

[take8easy]

I seem to be going this patch where I am getting repeatedly no response from some of the ladies that I have been trying to contact.

I understand that they get lots of messages and they have to filter and screen them and I totally understand that keeps them busy.

My questions are:
1. How long do you wait before you ‘text-ually’ contact them again? After all you don’t want to annoy them either.

2. After how many (failed) attempts do you just give up?

3. Do you have to rewrite the introduction all over again? (Which I can understand because I don’t expect them to save messages.

I wouldn’t even bring it up but seems like the response to no response ratio has reached at a rather concerning level.

May be because I honestly tell them my age (I am much older). But some of the ladies I have contacted aren’t very young

May be it is my ethnicity. (No I am not black.) May be just coincidence(s).
I hope it’s the last one.

I just thought I should throw it out there and see what my fellow perb-ites think.
Thanks!

 

[ChromeGasCap]

Never Omit or Lie, about your age, ethnicity, height, etc., unless upon rendezvous they would be none the wiser.
Only hide what is not obvious.

If they do not respond, try a second time an hour or two later, then try a third time the next day.
If still no response, I move on and will not try again for several months.

Every attempt should be just as though you have never contacted them.
If texting, try to do the whole intro/inquiry in a single text. I can see some people lowering the priority on what might appear to be, a barrage of texts.

 

[Banged_Up]

1. How long do you wait before you ‘text-ually’ contact them again? After all you don’t want to annoy them either.

- I don’t, if they don’t text me back I move on. There are literally zero girls I need to chase.

2. After how many (failed) attempts do you just give up?

- one, I text (or call) depending on what the ad says to do. No reply, no problem

3. Do you have to rewrite the introduction all over again? (Which I can understand because I don’t expect them to save messages.

- never been an issue, not something I’d do in the first place.

As an aside, I introduce myself like this…
“Hi, I saw your ad on (whatever site). Just curious about your rates and availability (if they aren’t in the ad). My name is (whatever name I’m using this week), I’m 54, 6’1”, caucasian, and very oral. I’m looking for 1 hour of your time. Let me know… thanks…

Older guys are at an advantage, less likely to show up impaired, experienced in life so likely more polite, I got a dad bod which is the current trend so yay me, and I lick pussy like a zombie eating brains.

EDIT: if they ask for my perb handle I reply with “What is perb?”

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

I seem to be going this patch where I am getting repeatedly no response from some of the ladies that I have been trying to contact.

I understand that they get lots of messages and they have to filter and screen them and I totally understand that keeps them busy.

My questions are:
1. How long do you wait before you ‘text-ually’ contact them again? After all you don’t want to annoy them either.

2. After how many (failed) attempts do you just give up?

3. Do you have to rewrite the introduction all over again? (Which I can understand because I don’t expect them to save messages.

I wouldn’t even bring it up but seems like the response to no response ratio has reached at a rather concerning level.

May be because I honestly tell them my age (I am much older). But some of the ladies I have contacted aren’t very young

May be it is my ethnicity. (No I am not black.) May be just coincidence(s).
I hope it’s the last one.

I just thought I should throw it out there and see what my fellow perb-ites think.
Thanks!

Well, by chance do you mention being a board member ? Unfortunately that’s a strike right there coming in the door & many will ignore you for that purpose alone.

 

[ChromeGasCap]

Well, by chance do you mention being a board member ? Unfortunately that’s a strike right there coming in the door & many will ignore you for that purpose alone.

Why would that be?
Can you provide more information to substantiate this position?

 

[westwoody]

SPs take breaks like everyone else.
Make sure their ad is up and they are actually working.

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

Why would that be?
Can you provide more information to substantiate this position?

Because a lot of women don’t fancy board members or review guys. They don’t want to be engaged in review culture. They find it disrespectful. Board members unfortunately have acquired a bad rep for being over critical & pushy clients.

This information is easy to pick up if you follow social media accounts. Perb isn’t held up in high regards the way it once was among SPs. Claiming to be a board member is almost the equivalent to mentioning you’re an “ attractive fit white male “

it airs some sense of entitlement in a way.
This is unfortunate but that’s kind of the way it is.
the not so pleasant members on here make the pleasant ones less desirable, just like the deposit scam artists make it more difficult for legitimate providers.

 

[take8easy]

Well, by chance do you mention being a board member ? Unfortunately that’s a strike right there coming in the door & many will ignore you for that purpose alone.

Yes, I always do and in around 200 previous sessions that I booked, it has worked to my advantage, or so I think. But it’s nice to get a provider’s perspective. I wouldn’t have thought like that.
The current streak of multiple no responses is just eerie!

 

[take8easy]

SPs take breaks like everyone else.
Make sure their ad is up and they are actually working.

Of course. That goes without saying.

 

[VinVan]

And yet several of the agencies will take a Perb handle as one of their accepted channels as a reference. So in that sense it still has currency.

 

[GentlemanJack69]

Because a lot of women don’t fancy board members or review guys. They don’t want to be engaged in review culture. They find it disrespectful. Board members unfortunately have acquired a bad rep for being over critical & pushy clients.

This information is easy to pick up if you follow social media accounts. Perb isn’t held up in high regards the way it once was among SPs. Claiming to be a board member is almost the equivalent to mentioning you’re an “ attractive fit white male “

it airs some sense of entitlement in a way.
This is unfortunate but that’s kind of the way it is.
the not so pleasant members on here make the pleasant ones less desirable, just like the deposit scam artists make it more difficult for legitimate providers.

I hadn't considered that aspect of being on Perb. I hope that I haven't ever unintentionally offended anyone. I try to be respectful in my reviews and luckily I haven't had many bad experiences. TBH I haven't had any bad experiences since going to the Lake.

 

[Harmony-bc]

I’m sometimes horrible at replying. I get busy and forget. Sometimes it’s been a few hours and you could possibly be somewhere else now where a text from me wouldn’t be appreciated.

I always answer emails. Even if it’s been a few days later. But sometimes emails can land in spam and I don’t check there that often.

I have 2 phones. My work phone is off when I’m not working.

I love older men. I understand some young men like the cougar thing, but I much prefer within a few years of my age or older. I’m sure it’s not your age 💕

Unfortunately there are some racist providers out there. 🤬

Lady Lyrah was bang on about saying your from perb. Even positive reviews are awkward. Some men are so critical too. I’ll see anybody tho. I’ve met some really awesome people from perb.

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

I’m sometimes horrible at replying. I get busy and forget. Sometimes it’s been a few hours and you could possibly be somewhere else now where a text from me wouldn’t be appreciated.

I always answer emails. Even if it’s been a few days later. But sometimes emails can land in spam and I don’t check there that often.

I have 2 phones. My work phone is off when I’m not working.

I love older men. I understand some young men like the cougar thing, but I much prefer within a few years of my age or older. I’m sure it’s not your age 💕

Unfortunately there are some racist providers out there. 🤬

Lady Lyrah was bang on about saying your from perb. Even positive reviews are awkward. Some men are so critical too. I’ll see anybody tho. I’ve met some really awesome people from perb.

I’ve also met so many great clients over the years off of Perb & there was a time when ladies really propped each other up & the gentlemen on here also worked hard to protect us & warn us about threats. They had our backs. There was a stronger sense of community & trust.

Not to say that the board isn’t a valuable tool because I think it still is & I refer guys to it who don’t know about it in attempts to help keep them safe.
The dynamics of the board has changed over the years though, and plenty of women want nothing to do with it or the members.

I’m not personally deterred by someone mentioning that they are a board member but I can also tell if they are mentioning it as some kind of flex & then it’s a hard pass for me & I’ll ignore the inquiry.

Jerk off key board warriors who like to harass us for no reason threaten to give us bad reviews on perb, like it’s somehow the holy grail to our existence. I’ve had this happen countless times by dim Witts I’ve either fired & won’t see anymore or dudes I’ve never even met.

The mere mention of being a board member could also actually be triggering for some women who’ve possibly experienced body dysmorphia in their lives & struggled after reading someone’s nit picking review on their physical form.

 

[Harmony-bc]

Oh totally. 100% agree. When I came back to perb, 1 of the promises I made to myself was to completely stay out of the review section. I get offended on other women’s behalf. Once in a while I’ll look up my number to see if somebody’s talking about me so I can comment, good or bad. But I have to let it all slide off me. I’m lucky that I’m so cat like in that way. A few of my long time regulars were perb lurkers. I referred a friend of mine to this board a few days ago. I think it’s a great tool to keep someone too trusting safe.

 

[lukom]

I usually just move on. If I see an ad back up days later I'll just send something along the lines of "Hi *insert name here*, I reached out to you on 'such and such day' and never heard back, not sure if my original message came through so I'm just resending it." And then I copy and paste what I sent the first time. After that I don't bother.

 

[take8easy]

Thanks for your input ladies, but let us not let this thread go towards "To quote or not to quote your PERB handle!". I would rather hear providers and pooners opinions and experiences about no-responses and what to do in such cases.

Great discussion so far.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

I seem to be going this patch where I am getting repeatedly no response from some of the ladies that I have been trying to contact.

I understand that they get lots of messages and they have to filter and screen them and I totally understand that keeps them busy.

My questions are:
1. How long do you wait before you ‘text-ually’ contact them again? After all you don’t want to annoy them either.

2. After how many (failed) attempts do you just give up?

3. Do you have to rewrite the introduction all over again? (Which I can understand because I don’t expect them to save messages.

I wouldn’t even bring it up but seems like the response to no response ratio has reached at a rather concerning level.

May be because I honestly tell them my age (I am much older). But some of the ladies I have contacted aren’t very young

May be it is my ethnicity. (No I am not black.) May be just coincidence(s).
I hope it’s the last one.

I just thought I should throw it out there and see what my fellow perb-ites think.
Thanks!

This is a good topic and I think, we covered it in some aspects in the past.
But throwing in my 2bits, and assuming this is a new to me SP, I text with my usual polite, complimentary intro text.
I give it about an hour, figure that is enough time for my message to have been read, then text a followup with something like I really am interested but understand if you are busy, please let me know you received my text.
If nothing back after that, I move on, simple as that.
My time is valuable and I am not going to wait around.
Maybe I am missing out, maybe not, my loss if I am, I accept that.
What is poor form if many hours later I get that text reply which is outside my time frame where I comfortably am am in pooning mode. Part of the process ...

 

[LADY-LYRAH]

Thanks for your input ladies, but let us not let this thread go towards "To quote or not to quote your PERB handle!". I would rather hear providers and pooners opinions and experiences about no-responses and what to do in such cases.

Great discussion so far.nts

The majority of my clients are long time regulars & have an alternative number to reach me on than the one in my ads. I go sometimes a week at a time or more without checking my work phone as I use it mostly for screening new people. Im not high volume & don’t have a high turn over of new clients.

I’m quick with my emails though because all my emails are paired to my smart watch, along with notifications on all the platforms I reside on. If it’s been a while - hours or days since I got your text message I’ll check the history to see if you’ve messaged before { and often, but I’ve always missed you } } & I’ll message back something short and non descriptive. “ missed your text “ “ I was away” & sometimes I send a blank text with nothing in it & they figure it out on their own. If it’s been several days or closer to a week since I saw your message I’ll probably ignore you.

Re writing the introduction, or copy pasting it will absolutely help, because I think many of us recognize repeat introductions. Also if it’s ok to contact you back at any time, include that in your contact. Or if there’s a better time to message you back include that as well. Or if there’s a window of time not to message back include that. I have Regulars who tell me not to message them past a certain time if I receive the message late.

best advice, respectful try try & and try again. The stars should align at some point if it was meant to be.

I flat out ignored one number that contacted me for a couple years because the number looked like a telemarketer phone number. He turned out to be a real sweet heart the day I actually decided to pick up.

also if you use a text app, make sure the number isn’t close to the number you’re trying to contact. I don’t pick up numbers that are close to my own. Creeps me out. 🤷‍♀️

 

[lukom]

I personally don't reference my perb handle, I only have after I've developed enough of a rapport with the provider. Imagine being an employee at whatever establishment and a customer calls to inquire or books for a reservation and decides to tell you he's on yelp. It sounds hostile in my opinion even if the yelper writes relatively nice things and writes bad reviews with constructive criticism.

 

[Pornholio]

I personally don't reference my perb handle, I only have after I've developed enough of a rapport with the provider. Imagine being an employee at whatever establishment and a customer calls to inquire or books for a reservation and decides to tell you he's on yelp. It sounds hostile in my opinion even if the yelper writes relatively nice things and writes bad reviews with constructive criticism.

I actually don't contact many providers who are NOT on Perb. It's conversations like this that gets me to check out the providers who respond. I find intelligence extremely sexy. If providers like those in this thread @LADY-LYRAH @Harmony-bc for example, keep showing how savy and yet compassionate to help perb'ites, it's a turn on for me, and I've booked providers because of it. The personalities come out in threads like this.
So yeah I'd use my Perb handle, as I know they are here too. I don't message random Leo messages, as I don't trust them. (sad)
Plus I'm not a Toftt guy, I like to read about them that they are real first.