Since I’ve stopped complaining

[LC18]

Since I’ve stopped complaining on Twitter, I find that I attract better clients. They are happier, nicer and often more generous.

After reading a few posts on review boards about how unattractive it was to you, I’ve decided to keep my online presence professional and positive.

I do spend a lot of time on review boards, some posts make me roll my eyes so much I almost see the back of my own head. Some posts are very helpful and have made me understand how I could give the best experience to the people visiting me.

All that to say or should I say to ask, are you completely turned off by a SP who complains a lot on Twitter? Would you still give her a chance?

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Good for you. I'm not a big Social Media user. Being in my 60's it's just not something I spend a lot of time on. That said I have taken seminars in Social Media for my business.
Twitter, now called X can be a very negative place and one can easily get sucked into that negativity. I had a twitter account for a few years but dropped it shortly after Musk bought it as that seemed to coincide with a significant uptick in the negativity and crazies.
Like it or not one's Social Media has a huge impact on them. If you are very negative on Social Media that is the image you are portraying and lets be honest, If I'm paying $400, $500 or more for an hour or 2 of a lady's company I want to be with someone I perceive and being a fun, positive person.
Cheers
J
PS: The other thing one sometimes sees on certain ladies' social media is non-stop requests for gifts. I personally find this kind of on-line begging very distasteful and it would also negatively impact my decision to see a particular SP.

 

[wincity23]

Since I’ve stopped complaining on Twitter, I find that I attract better clients. They are happier, nicer and often more generous.
Like attracts like-makes sense.

After reading a few posts on review boards about how unattractive it was to you, I’ve decided to keep my online presence professional and positive.
Best thing to do. Social media is a cesspool but a necessary evil. Best to keep it as professional and positive as possible. Businesses learn this the hard way all the time.

I do spend a lot of time on review boards, some posts make me roll my eyes so much I almost see the back of my own head. Some posts are very helpful and have made me understand how I could give the best experience to the people visiting me.
You are not alone. We certainly don't need to respond to everything we agree or disagree with though.

All that to say or should I say to ask, are you completely turned off by a SP who complains a lot on Twitter? Would you still give her a chance?
Every situation is different so i would say it depends. I don't tend to view a lot of social media of SP's, relying more on websites and what they may write on Perb-where we tend to see a little more "real" as opposed to a character count post. What we put out there is always judged, so we need to act accordingly. I haven't read anything here by any provider that would preclude me from visiting her but it could happen easily. I'm sure that happens the other way as well, of course.

 

[Dick Ford]

I find it a bit tiresome and often confusing, as what one provider complains about, another doesn't think is such a big deal.
I also find it distasteful that there are providers who play up the "woe-is-me" act to attract the white knight types or to get income or tips from sympathetic fans.

 

[Bridge]

I'm not a big fan of negativity either and I agree with Lena that professional and positive trumps complaining and bad-mouthing. Humour is also a turn on, but the gentle and dry kind rather than the acidic and sarcastic.

 

[MikeyLikey99]

It’s an interesting observation. For me, posting a lot of negativity out there is definitely not attractive. Neither is bragging about wealth or posting requests for people to send cash because they had a bad day. I’m generally not interested in seeing views about politics or religion either. These thing are for the most part completely unrelatable for me and/or a turn-off.

I like to follow SPs that pique my interest with a post (and that I may see one day) or that I’m interested in seeing in person (and I’m scoping out their social side). One SP that was amazing just posts compliments, which sounds nice, but it’s really dull to follow lol. I like to see some positivity, but posts about a shitty day, seeing what makes them laugh, seeing goofy moments ,and observations about life feels more like I’m getting a taste of their personality, whether it’s carefully curated or hints of their real personality. I like those the most.

 

[vanperb]

My take as a client. It's not complaining in general. It's not complaining about bad/abusive/violent clients, that's helping other girls be safe. It's not complaining about how the government and law still makes them a pariah, because it does suck. It's not complaining about shitty days, because there are shitty days.

It's complaining about the job, or specific parts of it. People who complain about the admin work feel like they were sheltered their entire lives and never did an hour of retail or service. People who complain about dumb questions or people who haven't read their ads, have seemingly never worked in jobs in support or service. Seeing that on any social feed is like experiencing a pre-date where one feels like "Wow... is this what she's going to talk about when we're together?" Or if one is self loathing like I am "Wow... I'm going to be a burden on them / I don't want to add to their misery."

The flip side of that is showing excess success. "My favourite client just paid off my student loan, bought me my second Malibu mansion, and here's a photo of the thousands that's he laid at my feet after paying for my manis and pedis" Maybe it's because I was raised not talk about myself. Maybe the strategy is to turn off cheap clients with this type of advertising. I do realize that this is what social media is designed for.

Social media is tricky and weird and people make all sorts of absurd conjectures and assumptions with it.

 

[vanperb]

Not you, but this is what a lot of provider Twitter feeds boil down to.



During the pandemic it was especially rough for this kind of stuff....

 

[Forum mod]

I am encouraged to see a provider realizing that social media can impact her business and acting accordingly. I have to believe that when a lady melts down on twitter it can negatively impact her business, unless guys get off on that kind of unhinged behavior. I have seen the kind of thing Jethro mentions as well. A few providers I have seen use twitter nearly as digital panhandling instead of promoting themselves.

There are many others who have also realized this, but cannot stop the negativity, so they have created anonymous accounts to complain about johns/tricks/clients. These accounts are among the most negative, arrogant and borderline insane reads out there, but do provide insights into the minds of some providers.

 

[ModSquad]

Checking Twitter feeds has been at the top of my short list when deciding who might be great to visit.

One SP showed a room full of gifts she had received while on tour. It was all really high end stuff on display. I’m uncertain if these sort of posts are to encourage buying a $1000 purse as a tip on top of your donation or if it’s online bragging to other SP’s reading her feeds?

Birthday Month? What’s up with that anyways? The gift that keeps giving all month long is what I’ve assumed.

I’ve realized the SP’s I prefer have a small presence on Twitter and only post things they have done in our city or ones they have visited. More of a travel log of interesting things to see.

 

[ShungiteSol]

Since I’ve stopped complaining on Twitter, I find that I attract better clients. They are happier, nicer and often more generous.

After reading a few posts on review boards about how unattractive it was to you, I’ve decided to keep my online presence professional and positive.

I do spend a lot of time on review boards, some posts make me roll my eyes so much I almost see the back of my own head. Some posts are very helpful and have made me understand how I could give the best experience to the people visiting me.

All that to say or should I say to ask, are you completely turned off by a SP who complains a lot on Twitter? Would you still give her a chance?

I have no problem with Social Media as long as it is being used responsibly and allowing for all opinions. As far as girls advertising, I guess I am kind of old school. I believe a picture is worth a thousand words with a hint of tease. Pretentious, narcissistic and superficial is a total turnoff.

 

[ShungiteSol]

Yes, I am turned off my SPs who complain too much on social media. I don't book them. Social media breeds negativity. It's designed to create conflict. I understand most times people have genuine reasons to complain but that's something I stay away from. I am not surprised that you are attracting clients who are nicer and happier.


To me, Twitter is best for checking schedules and pictures of SPs. In fact, I am turned on by SPs who are not much into social media (except perhaps for announcing schedules etc.)

‘Social media breeds negativity’
I disagree.If you post positive things about the way you feel, or the way other people feel it might just be the exact thing that people needed to hear that day.

 

[LC18]

There are many others who have also realized this, but cannot stop the negativity, so they have created anonymous accounts to complain about johns/tricks/clients. These accounts are among the most negative, arrogant and borderline insane reads out there, but do provide insights into the minds of some providers.

I was ok with them before they started attacking providers now I just think most of the anon accounts are lame.

 

[LC18]

I’m uncertain if these sort of posts are to encourage buying a $1000 purse as a tip on top of your donation or if it’s online bragging to other SP’s reading her feeds?

Clients don’t believe me but I would say 90% of the time it’s to brag. Providers are competitive, they see one getting a Cartier bracelet and suddenly they all have one on their wishlist.

 

[Newb808]

There are many others who have also realized this, but cannot stop the negativity, so they have created anonymous accounts to complain about johns/tricks/clients. These accounts are among the most negative, arrogant and borderline insane reads out there, but do provide insights into the minds of some providers.

I was ok with them before they started attacking providers now I just think most of the anon accounts are lame.

Am I alone in suspecting that some if not many of these Anon accounts are reply guys, kids, less successful SPs or god only knows who seeking free engagement and validation from SPs who won’t give it to them otherwise?
Same thing with those Gentleman accounts. Maybe a FEW legit ones, some providers for shits and giggles but I’m thinking more guys who again want fantasy traction from SPs who won’t like a post from a non material supporter. I remember that 6gent or whatever his name was posted a few unremarkable pictures of exotic locations and so many ate it up. No pictures of stuffed envelopes, lavish food spreads, gifts, first class seats or anything with a watermark that would legitimize all of it, “trust me guys” 😂

Back to the OP, I’m turned off by frequent negative posting and most of what else has been mentioned in the thread. The dragging and whining kinda reminds me of service industry drama from my youth. I started following SPs on Twitter and OF during COVID and only keep tabs on a few dozen now who definitely keep it light and entertaining/humorous. Seen a few and would love to seen them all but priorities, limitations etc. Currently using it for vetting the odd visitor (when you coming to YVR Lena 🙏🏻?) or while in Mexico.

 

[LC18]

Am I alone in suspecting that some if not many of these Anon accounts are reply guys, kids, less successful SPs or god only knows who seeking free engagement and validation from SPs who won’t give it to them otherwise?

Less successful SPs I can believe it. I don’t have time doing things that don’t generate money or don’t contribute positively to my brand.

P.S: I will be travelling to Vancouver in 2024

 

[Chuckerbie]

Good for you. I'm not a big Social Media user. Being in my 60's it's just not something I spend a lot of time on. That said I have taken seminars in Social Media for my business.
Twitter, now called X can be a very negative place and one can easily get sucked into that negativity. I had a twitter account for a few years but dropped it shortly after Musk bought it as that seemed to coincide with a significant uptick in the negativity and crazies.
Like it or not one's Social Media has a huge impact on them. If you are very negative on Social Media that is the image you are portraying and lets be honest, If I'm paying $400, $500 or more for an hour or 2 of a lady's company I want to be with someone I perceive and being a fun, positive person.
Cheers
J
PS: The other thing one sometimes sees on certain ladies' social media is non-stop requests for gifts. I personally find this kind of on-line begging very distasteful and it would also negatively impact my decision to see a particular SP.

“PS: The other thing one sometimes sees on certain ladies' social media is non-stop requests for gifts. I personally find this kind of on-line begging very distasteful and it would also negatively impact my decision to see a particular SP.”

I have to agree with this statement 100%
I stopped seeing a provider for this very reason. I also deleted my X/twit app. because of it.
It’s tough when you have to
Trade a weeks worth of pay for two hours of their work and they keep asking for more.

 

[LC18]

It’s tough when you have to
Trade a weeks worth of pay for two hours of their work and they keep asking for more.

Seeing a SW is already a luxury in itself. You shouldn’t feel like you have to gift anything or tip. It’s appreciated but never mandatory.

There are also free gifts that you can give you feel like it. I sometimes receive handwritten letters and I appreciate them. I keep them in a box at my incall and go through them like a memory box. You can also offer a massage if you’re good at it.

 

[ShungiteSol]

Clients don’t believe me but I would say 90% of the time it’s to brag. Providers are competitive, they see one getting a Cartier bracelet and suddenly they all have one on their wishlist.

You are probably right, and to be completely honest with you it is part of the generation that has been taught that the accumulation of material items is more important than the gift of connecting with each other. No disrespect to any of the ladies out there, but I believe a gift is something that is personal and should come from the heart and be earned over time. So I agree with the person who said it sounds kind of needy.

 

[overdone]

Birthday Month? What’s up with that anyways? The gift that keeps giving all month long is what I’ve assumed.

that's my fault, I started that