What do you think is going to happen?

[PierreCoeur]

I am very careful with my personal information and can't blame anyone else who is.
While there are many provides out there who I know would never reveal any of a client's personal information, believe me there are more than a few out there who have no idea of what discretion means and more than a few guys who have been burned badly by them. All it takes is one bad experience to jade a person for ever.
There was a lady here in Winnipeg for many years who passed a couple of years ago. To put it bluntly she had a BIG MOUTH! Anyone who saw her could and would tell you she would talk about other clients all the time. And I'm not talking about some Joe Blow nobody ever heard of. I'm talking about some of Winnipeg's big movers and shakers. Lawyers, judges, pro athletes, top executives, etc. In our conversations it turned out that we actually knew people from our teenage years because her family ran a business at a popular lake my family would spend our summers at. A couple of these would see her as clients and she told me so. She ruined one client's marriage. Appaently he was a guy from Calgary who came to Winnipeg frequesntly for business. I'm not privy to what exactly happened but I heard she was under the impression he was going to leave his wife for her. It concluded with her actually going to Calgary and confronting the guy's wife with a whole bunch of information/stories about their relationship.
Then one year I am at a Chinese New Year function as a guest of a friend and she is there as well with her "date'". I'm there with my 14 year old daughter and she just strolls up to the table, tipsy as usual (she was a drunk) and starts talking to me. Asking me when we are going to get together again, etc. Very inappropriate. Of course everyone, including my daughter are asking me who that was. Lucky for me I think quickley on my feet and passed her off as a woman I took on a date a couple of years prior. Let's just say I called her up the next day and ripped her a new one.
So anyone who blames guys , and ladies for that matter for being careful with their personal information, has, fortunately for them, never had a bad experience.
Cheers
J

Whoa that is one helluva scary story you shared. Must have been a nightmare when she came up to you when you were with your daughter.

 

[blakealridge]

Whoa that is one helluva scary story you shared. Must have been a nightmare when she came up to you when you were with your daughter.

right? the fucked up thing though is that this could have happened whether she knew his real name or not! YIKES

 

[too timid]

In a perfect world everything you shared in private would be respected and kept private.
In a perfect world we are free from shame for seeking and paying for physical affection.
In a perfect world woman are free from shame for giving physical affection for pay.
In a perfect world what 2 adults do willfully and respesctfully behind closed doors is their business.

Shit ain't like that. This world is far from perfect, in my experience people you love, trust, respect and invest in may get caught up in addiction, financial hardship, ego, blackmail, mental illness, jealousy etc. challenging their discretion. I have seen friends/family/lovers/business assoc. spiral down sucking any and everything with them
While this is about well known reputable providers nobody is isolated from the challenges of modern life.

I wish for everyones safety but tying your ID to a 'criminal offence ' or even a 'social offence' is probably a big challenge for most.

 

[Crookedmember]

Charlee I understand where you are coming from and support your right to set your parameters of screening and requirement that men provide their names and ids for bookings.

No offence intended, but it won't be me. I am neither stalker, rapist or murderer but I am employed in a high profile position.

You cannot guarantee my privacy, no matter how much you promise to protect it. The moment I send you photo ID or you record my name in your contact list, there are others who can hack your phone and computer, steal my information and subject me to blackmail.

It has nothing to do with trusting someone like you who is probably one of the most trust worthy people posting at this forum. It is about the people you may come across who are not trustworthy.

It is the one person who takes advantage of you, who gains your trust but uses you unknowingly to get to me. That worries me. Paranoia? Absolutely. But for every good person there is a bad person out there.

Again you have every right to select clients who will share their ID with you. I weigh the risks and then make my choices accordingly.

Yup. I lived next door to (and was friendly with) a high end SP for a few years, and when someone known in the community visited her, I heard about it. People talk.

It's just not worth the risk, especially since there are hundreds of other well-reviewed SPs out there who won't ask for your personal information.

 

[cruefan]

I’ve literally seen married celebrities and politicians. ??‍♀ I even use signal for clients who don’t feel comfortable.

but yeah, it’s your loss.

I figured Justin Trudeau was member here on Perb.

Does he like eating pussy just as much as I do. lol

 

[EuroSZabina]

This thread was about verified SPs with a reputation

Perfect example how ppl can't read

 

[RinTinTin]

 

[masterblaster]

Me, if I had something to lose, I wouldn’t care if she is a verified SP with a reputation, I wouldn’t divulge personal information. Shit happens as the saying goes.

 

[PierreCoeur]

right? the fucked up thing though is that this could have happened whether she knew his real name or not! YIKES

That's true. Vice versa too. It could be some dipshit guy seeing a girl at a restaurant with her parents who don't know she is in the industry and him coming up to her.

 

[PierreCoeur]

I figured Justin Trudeau was member here on Perb.

Does he like eating pussy just as much as I do. lol

Why do you think has a beard right now? Later on in the day he can have a second lick and a fleshback memory.

 

[PierreCoeur]

Perfect example how ppl can't read

I am so sorry. I read the first three lines and I get bored and go to the next post. I think I have ADHD. What did I miss?

 

[poopquiz]

right? the fucked up thing though is that this could have happened whether she knew his real name or not! YIKES

Ha! Maybe could’ve been worse if she only knew him by his fake name. “Dad, why was that woman calling you John???”

 

[cautiontowind]

Charlee, your 20 comments on here defending the importance of getting real names screams red flag. The other 99.5% of SPs would never bring it up and 99.9% of guys would never give it.

 

[blakealridge]

Charlee, your 20 comments on here defending the importance of getting real names screams red flag. The other 99.5% of SPs would never bring it up and 99.9% of guys would never give it.

Lol all my clients tell me their real name, whether via etransfer or ID, or texting me from a business number. Where are you getting these arbitrary statistics from ?

if you think me wanting some kind of assurance/screening with my 3600 twitter followers, good reviews, face-out pics, etc... you’re the one whose attitude is a red flag.

 

[Metaxa]

wowwwwwwww what a nightmare! I mean I guess as someone who's been around for around four years, and never done anything like this (trust me it would be all over social media and perb if I had) I'm still surprised that people wouldn't trust me. I agree that this would make me more cautious, though. I mean, things men have done to me are what have made me require screening, so... *shrug* I still don't risking your marriage to get laid and risking your life to work are comparable, but obviously I understand there is a concern from the client's side.

I will just point out a couple of things though because I can't help but nitpick:
1. She didn't ruin the marriage, the husband did. Her behaviour was totally inappropriate and honestly horrible but at the end of the day, when you choose to see an SP as a married man, you run the risk of discovery; whether through your own carelessness (much more common in my experience) or the provider's. ALSO I will say that even if you don't share your personal info with a provider there are tons of ways to find it anyways.
2. Even if this woman had no idea what your true identity was, she still could have harassed you at this event in the same way.

I'm really sorry you had this super awkward experience. It's super unprofessional and makes me shake my head.

haha. You keep posting “Trust me.” Keep trolling.

 

[g eazy]

You're okay to want to know their real names, and it's okay for guys to not want to divulge. There's no need to wonder "what do [they] think is going to happen" because it's irrelevant. Both parties have already made it clear what they want and are comfortable with.

Personally, I wouldn't give my real name if I could help it. Never hand, and it's not likely that I ever will.