Just curious about the longevity of SP/client relationships. I've read on PERB that these can go on for years between Perbites and their providers, but for me the number is between 3-6 for a provider I'm emotionally, physically, and intellectually (EPI) attracted to at some level. The question, obviously, does not apply to one-and-dones where there is no connection. For those providers who are at the highest level of EPI connection I've probably seen a dozen times, and those SPs could probably be counted on one hand.
I find that this is the usual process:
1st meeting
Getting a sense of the person and if there is and EPI connection. In the first session I decide if I want to repeat and that is usually dependent upon whether I think there is something more to discover about the provider (usually a hint of some kink or other sexual peccadillo that piques my curiosity).
2nd meeting
Exploring more about the sexual desires of the SP and finding where the mutual interests are. If the SP suggests an activity that I've never experienced before then I'll def book another meeting. Some examples of some of the taboos that a provider has asked of me that I did not know I was interested in: spanking, whipping with a riding crop, bondage, choking, face slapping. Some of these may seem extreme, but the interesting thing is that if an SP trusts you they will reveal their kinks. At the time with the SP, I wasn't aware I was interested in any of this, but at the request of the SP I indulged and found it exciting.
3rd meeting
More exploration into our mutual sexual desires. If the SP is hot and doesn't excite me at an EPI connection level then we won't get to a 3rd meeting. Case in point, Vyxen, who has recently been reviewed quite extensively (both pro and con). I found her to fulfill many of the kinks I'm interested in, and she is beautiful, but there just wasn't the emotional an intellectual connection. As a consequence, I saw her only once. In my mind, there was nothing left to explore. Same for Jess Lis Lee - just didn't have the connection.
Meeting 4-6
More exploration, but at some point during these meetings, I'll just have the intuitive sense that it's time to move on and we've discovered what we need to from each other. It's a palpable sense that "yeah, that session was fine," but there was the edge missing from it that was present in the previous sessions. Kind of like when you move in with a girlfriend. It's a different stage of the relationship that is less lust and more about trust and longevity - except with an SP there isn't that so why carry on. And there are sooooo many other providers to explore.
Meeting 6+
Rare that this happens, but when it does it is because the EPI connection is at such a high level that it can sustain itself.
I'm curious about the experience of others on this forum.
I find that this is the usual process:
1st meeting
Getting a sense of the person and if there is and EPI connection. In the first session I decide if I want to repeat and that is usually dependent upon whether I think there is something more to discover about the provider (usually a hint of some kink or other sexual peccadillo that piques my curiosity).
2nd meeting
Exploring more about the sexual desires of the SP and finding where the mutual interests are. If the SP suggests an activity that I've never experienced before then I'll def book another meeting. Some examples of some of the taboos that a provider has asked of me that I did not know I was interested in: spanking, whipping with a riding crop, bondage, choking, face slapping. Some of these may seem extreme, but the interesting thing is that if an SP trusts you they will reveal their kinks. At the time with the SP, I wasn't aware I was interested in any of this, but at the request of the SP I indulged and found it exciting.
3rd meeting
More exploration into our mutual sexual desires. If the SP is hot and doesn't excite me at an EPI connection level then we won't get to a 3rd meeting. Case in point, Vyxen, who has recently been reviewed quite extensively (both pro and con). I found her to fulfill many of the kinks I'm interested in, and she is beautiful, but there just wasn't the emotional an intellectual connection. As a consequence, I saw her only once. In my mind, there was nothing left to explore. Same for Jess Lis Lee - just didn't have the connection.
Meeting 4-6
More exploration, but at some point during these meetings, I'll just have the intuitive sense that it's time to move on and we've discovered what we need to from each other. It's a palpable sense that "yeah, that session was fine," but there was the edge missing from it that was present in the previous sessions. Kind of like when you move in with a girlfriend. It's a different stage of the relationship that is less lust and more about trust and longevity - except with an SP there isn't that so why carry on. And there are sooooo many other providers to explore.
Meeting 6+
Rare that this happens, but when it does it is because the EPI connection is at such a high level that it can sustain itself.
I'm curious about the experience of others on this forum.
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