How Long Should I Wait For an SP to Respond!?

[take8easy]

One of the biggest dilemmas I have faced during my five years in this hobby is, "How long do I wait for an SP (that I want to see) to respond before I say, "Next!".

My work schedule is a bit weird. I get very short notices and very short windows during work week when I can poon.

As much as I want hobbyists to respond to this thread, I would like to hear from girls. Is it ok for me to wait for about an hour and a half or two hours for you to respond before I contact someone else? Would you get offended for me not being patient or do you understand? I totally understand that all of you lovely ladies have regular lives, jobs, commitments, appointments like an average person so I don't hold anything against you for not being able to respond. Please remember that the if I approached you first means that I do want to see you the foremost. But for me, the issue is that I can't waste that window that I might not get for a few more weeks.

Please ladies, do respond.

T8E.

 

[Crookedmember]

Sometimes you have to wait for Aunt Flo to leave.

I think some girls probably get so many messages, they can't possibly answer them all.

If you don't hear back in a few minutes, just move on to the next one.

 

[Theguyfromvictoria]

Yeah great question. I am in much the same scenario as the OP - very brief windows of opportunity to connect with someone so looking for a quick respond- yah or nay-
I’ve started to reach out to two at a time - with the first one to respond positively usually getting the visit...

 

[take8easy]

Yeah great question. I am in much the same scenario as the OP - very brief windows of opportunity to connect with someone so looking for a quick respond- yah or nay-
I’ve started to reach out to two at a time - with the first one to respond positively usually getting the visit...

When I started in this hobby, that's what I did (only once). It got complicated with one SP not talking to me for a very long time!!!

That's why I want to hear girls' perspective!! Personally speaking, if I don't hear back from an sp, I understand. I am more worried about upsetting her..

 

[poonerboi]

Two problems with what you are asking-
1. Only paid advertisers are allowed to discuss things concerning the hobby , and
2. Every lady has different guidelines.

 

[take8easy]

Two problems with what you are asking-
1. Only paid advertisers are allowed to discuss things concerning the hobby , and
2. Every lady has different guidelines.

Aha! I kinda didn’t think of point #1.

 

[JimDandy]

I see nothing wrong with stating, when first reaching out, to state that you have only a small window of time and that if they do not respond in an hour, you will look elsewhere. Just let them know that you understand that they can not always respond in an hour and that you hope they understand your circumstances and that they don't take it personally if you may have already made other arrangements if they respond later.

I had a recent case where the lady asked an extra $100 due to my age. She was an hours drive away as well, so I stated "I would have to think about it", thinking she would realize that was a nice way of saying no. Several hours later she came back with "So ?". I explained that with the long drive and the extra charge I was not going to take her up on her offer. She came back and said if I was willing to drive the hour, she would for go the extra $100. I had already made other plans by then and explained as much. She was not up set and I may try her again some time in the future.

JD

 

[take8easy]

I see nothing wrong with stating, when first reaching out, to state that you have only a small window of time and that if they do not respond in an hour, you will look elsewhere. Just let them know that you understand that they can not always respond in an hour and that you hope they understand your circumstances and that they don't take it personally if you have already made other arrangements if they respond later.

I had a recent case where the lady asked an extra $100 due to my age. She was an hours drive away as well, so I stated "I would have to think about it", thinking she would realize that was a nice way of saying no. Several hours later she came back with "So ?". I explained that with the long drive and the extra charge I was not going to take her up on her offer. She came back and said if I was willing to drive the hour, she would for go the extra $100. I had already made other plans by then and explained as much. She was not up set and I may try her again some time in the future.

JD

Thanks JD. I am very much a women's guy and I hate making them upset. I try to be fair and not harm their clientele. On the other hand, I want the girls to understand that we men have our own constraints.

Edit: The lady I wanted to see has still not responded, but that doesn't mean I am upset at her. Plan B worked and ............... T8E is going to have a review around noon tomorrow.

 

[Cock Throppled]

If a woman is a normal, and a professional, there is no way she should get upset. It's business.

My recent experience, where I was attacked because I simply questioned if maybe she didn't want to see me, when she didn't respond within the time she had in the past, I believe the SP was not only unprofessional, but unbalanced.

 

[Corym]

I think it depends on her AD. If it clearly states, she has other commitments and a time frame for a reasonable amount before a reply...I don't mind waiting for at least a day or two. Having said that this is usually with a very well reviewed SP and I plan my visits at at least 1 week in advance. Speaking for myself...I do my research first for dependable and reputable ladies. For other ladies if it's a instant reply...I am thinking it could be a scam...that is just me.

Cheers,

Corym

 

[poonerboi]

Alot also has to do with method of contact I suspect. Apparently, many e-mails via LL contact form go to spam (either that or it is a common excuse for why I did not get a reply to those I have tried to see). The first attempts I made were under the assumption that it worked like craigslist. This is not the case. If we don't provide a way for the SPs to contact us back, we be waiting until we die.

I believe the general rule of thumb with calls/texts is that if they are not able to respond within 15/30 minutes, they pass on it in case you are busy with family or work.
When contacting an SP that is new to me , I will leave a message stating it is OK for her to reply when she has time.

 

[Correct]

Wait as long as YOU want to wait, depending upon your schedule. As the customer, that length of time is completely up to you, be it an hour, or 24 hours. If you have since booked with someone else, and then she replies, it is not a big deal. Maybe the stars will align another day for the two of you to meet.

 

[steverino]

I think Correct is correct. You need to find ladies whose options be in terms of services provided or time required to set an appointment match your needs. I fully respect ladies who require a days notice. My preference is to book a couple hours in advance so the ones requiring more notice are outside my choice set.

 

[volvoguy1979]

Wait as long as YOU want to wait, depending upon your schedule.

Bingo!
As SP's, they know there's countless other SP's who are ready and willing to take your "donation (whatever form that may be)".
So it's up to them to be quick on the reply. Or else they know the consequences of missing out.

 

[nwtl]

How about when you contact a SP, you mention your timeline and that if you hear back after say X number of hours, you respectfully may have moved on and hope to see her at another time, so no one gets salty. Some SPs take days to reply, some reply within a minute.

 

[JimDandy]

How about when you contact a SP, you mention your timeline and that if you hear back after say X number of hours, you respectfully may have moved on and hope to see her at another time, so no one gets salty. Some SPs take days to reply, some reply within a minute.

That's basically what I suggested earlier in this thread

JD

 

[nwtl]

That's basically what I suggested earlier in this thread

JD

Yes, you did and I missed it

 

[lukom]

I don't normally book the first time I inquire, I usually make initial contact days and even weeks before officially deciding if I want to book.I make it clear in my text that I'm inquiring for a potential future date, I ask questions based on what I'm looking for (sometimes they have no prices on their ad, other times there are charges for extras that aren't listed and I ask more about their extras, and my main thing is knowing where they operate and how much lead time they need for booking our time together), I also end my text with a "Please respond at your earliest convenience" as this is my way of telling them that they can respond to me hours later if needed as opposed to feeling pressured to do so right then and there. I almost always get a response and if I don't I may try again days later, and if by the second attempt I don't hear back I move on.

I never book with SP's located in random places, and generally book in areas that are fairly central and as close to Skytrain as possible. I generally book things same day as I can't book far in advance, I usally have a Plan A, Plan B, and Plan C lined up, and will attempt to book them within the time they expect (most say 1 hour notice suffices). If none of the options at said location don't work I look back to girs who are in areas not far from there... so for example if my options by Royal Oak Skytrain station don't work, I'll reach out to gals I've previously inquired with by Metrotown (i.e. one stop over), or by Edmonds (again one stop over going opposite side. This strategy helps me find a solution at all times, in instances where girls are either unavailable, flake out, or other factors..etc

Either way if a girl gets salty over you booking someone a few hours later (when they originally told you they want 1 hour notice) then that's on them for not being consistent. If you need to go grocery shopping at a store that has store hours 9-10 and they end having an off day and aren't open at 9 for whatever reason, you may choose to come at a later time, or you might be pressed for time and needing to get things done right then and there, so you run off to another place that's open.

 

[grizzly]

You didn't specify if you are trying to book a repeat visit or a new encounter. If it's a repeat visit, one gets to know a ladies timeline habits and accommodates accordingly. If it's a new encounter I usually allow 2 hours then move on. Keep in mind, even if you do get a response in a timely matter, often times same day bookings can not be accommodated so even waiting 2 hours can still be disappointing. I suggest pre booking whenever possible and adjust your schedule around the appointment just like it was a doctor or dentist appointment. Most ladies appreciate pre booking. If short notice is your thing, I would suggest seeking out a MP.

 

[Reference3A]

One of the biggest dilemmas I have faced during my five years in this hobby is, "How long do I wait for an SP (that I want to see) to respond before I say, "Next!".

My work schedule is a bit weird. I get very short notices and very short windows during work week when I can poon.

As much as I want hobbyists to respond to this thread, I would like to hear from girls. Is it ok for me to wait for about an hour and a half or two hours for you to respond before I contact someone else? Would you get offended for me not being patient or do you understand? I totally understand that all of you lovely ladies have regular lives, jobs, commitments, appointments like an average person so I don't hold anything against you for not being able to respond. Please remember that the if I approached you first means that I do want to see you the foremost. But for me, the issue is that I can't waste that window that I might not get for a few more weeks.

Please ladies, do respond.

T8E.

Expecting an escort to respond in a certain amount of time does come across as a bit entitled. Sometimes they are busy working . If on a sleepover date may not look at phone for a few hours . May be also be on personal time .
The thing to remember all the ladies will prioritize date lengths . They can receive up to 50 requests every time an ad is posted . Half Hour or Hour dates will be ignored if longer dinner dates or overnights are offered. So you want her attn . Offer up a longer date and she will probably respond asap when she is finished with current client or back on shift .
A shorter date in her eyes is kinda like , meh. Even if you seen her a couple times.