What do some of your favorite SP's provide/ What are you looking for?

[johnnydepth]

I saw a thread about 1 shot for a 1 hour visit and it had me thinking about how to fill the hour. Some providers are great at it, some are so terrible that your 1 hour turns into 11 minutes.
Some things I like for a 1 hour visit are shower provided, please with clean, dry towels.
Offer of a beverage, both alcohol and non alcohol. Even if the SP doesn't drink a good host will have a beer on hand.
Maybe weed? I don't smoke but it is legal now.
Conversation... goes a long way to setting the mood and relaxing.
Seduction/ foreplay. Again, we've got an hour and this isn't the back seat of a Honda.

If it's just wham bam why would you need more than 15-30 minutes?

 

[blakealridge]

Even if the SP doesn't drink a good host will have a beer on hand.

Hi I'm an alcoholic, sober for a year, so no I don't have beer on hand. A good host will offer you something to drink sure, but we don't have to have alcohol IMO.

 

[johnnydepth]

Congratulations on the year. It probably took me 5 years to make it through my first year.

 

[blakealridge]

Congratulations on the year. It probably took me 5 years to make it through my first year.

thank you!!! <3

 

[poonerboi]

I don't think alcohol is wise as I assume most of us drive to an incall and the law is zero tolerance. As for weed, the smell lingers worse than cigarettes and I for one would not like to smell it as I don't partake.

 

[Bizzaynass]

One of the best providers I have the fondest memories of wasn't even about the incredible foreplay and sex we had. Our best moments were always the cuddling and chatting we had afterwards. I once unintentionally stayed nearly 30 minutes after the end of the appointment because our topic of convo was about which restaurant made the best fried chicken and best hamburger joints we've ever been to. When I realized how much overtime I'd stayed and was extremely apologetic about it, she gave me the cutest giggle and told me not to worry about it.
To me, it's more about the chemistry and how we can get along than anything else. I'm sure there's some abbreviation somewhere to define that, like a girlfriend experience or something along that lines.

 

[lukom]

I don't necessarily go to see and SP in my Sunday best by any stretch, but I do dress nice. I show up freshly showered (no more than 90 mins time having passed since my last shower), wearing cologne, trimmed and shaven where I need to be, tea brushed and flossed, and I even have listerine pocket packs on hand and a sample sized cologne bottle in my pocket. Most times I don't need to shower because of that fact that I do put in the extra effort prior to showing up, and would like to maximize my time with the SP rather than spending the first 10-15 taking a shower and wiping myself down dry. I generally never expected anything from an SP though, but when offered I at most will ask for a glass of water. If I wanted to drink I'd go to a bar and do so. There have been times though where after our session the time where we'd lose track of time, and I would be looking over at my watch and realizing the time had gone by 10+ mins. I think one of my fondest memories with an SP (aside from one who I almost got into a relationship with) was how we did 2 rounds, and then after some cuddles I realized an hour went by and felt terrible for the SP and was ready to leave without taking a shower. The SP insisted that I take a shower anyway and when I came out in my towel and back into the room to put my clothes back on she undid my towel and gave me a bbbj one more time before letting me get dressed to leave. It had maybe been our 2nd or 3rd session so I guess she was comfortable enough with me by then do that, but it was still quite something.

 

[FoxForceFive]

"Fill the hour"? Not sure what you mean. I usually book two hours, and it often seems to short a time. Conversation, making out, cuddling, DATY (which I would happily do for at least an hour on its own)...so much to do other than fucking, I barely have time to fit it all into 2 hours. If I was wealthy I would book more time, every time.

I don't expect (or want) SPs to provide anything other than a clean space with a shower, clean towels and a few toiletries (mouthwash is great, though I usually bring my own). I don't drink, and I don't enjoy weed, but even if I did, why would I expect an SP to provide either? I bring treats and gifts to the SP, not the other way around.

 

[JimDandy]

Hi I'm an alcoholic, sober for a year, so no I don't have beer on hand. A good host will offer you something to drink sure, but we don't have to have alcohol IMO.

So Clem - how do you usually fill out an hour appointment when the sex lasts 20 minutes? I'm 60+ and a one shot guy, not that is an excuse for the sex to be finished in 20 minutes, but it does happen.

JD

 

[johnnydepth]

So Clem - how do you usually fill out an hour appointment when the sex lasts 20 minutes? I'm 60+ and a one shot guy, not that is an excuse for the sex to be finished in 20 minutes, but it does happen.

JD

Thank you, you have worded this much better than me. This is what I was getting at. Another member had mentioned he paid for one hour and was out in about ten minutes. On average sex lasts 6 minutes (thats average not quick you can look it up). Congrats on the 20 minutes that is considered long and rare. So how is the hour filled? What do you like/ enjoy in that time.

 

[blakealridge]

So Clem - how do you usually fill out an hour appointment when the sex lasts 20 minutes? I'm 60+ and a one shot guy, not that is an excuse for the sex to be finished in 20 minutes, but it does happen.

JD

Ok, a couple things to say about this:
First, sex can continue after a man ejaculates. Many of my clients enjoy performing oral on me, which can continue after a shot. Also, even if you're only a one shot guy, I can still go down on you after the fact and do BLS etc: a hard penis isn't required for pleasurable oral! I have many clients who often don't get hard at all and we still have a heavenly time, and they keep coming back for more.
Second, there are so many other wonderful things we can do: cuddle in the afterglow, talk, I can give you a massage, we can make out, I can kiss you all over.

If I'm honest, in the majority of my 1h appointments, the sex lasts about 20-30 minutes, and yet no one ever leaves dissatisfied. Sex is about so much more than SEX ITSLEF. This is GFE, girlfriend experience. You can escape reality for an hour and you're going to love every second of it.

<3

 

[badbadboy]

Hi I'm an alcoholic, sober for a year, so no I don't have beer on hand. A good host will offer you something to drink sure, but we don't have to have alcohol IMO.

I'm finding many of the SP I've visited in the past few years do not drink alcohol by choice, religion or like you are recovering. I usually take a large bottle of sparkling water now.

It's been a long time since I've done a 60 min date. Even with 90 min I feel a bit rushed if we've been making out a long time. Like you say, there's plenty of things to do after the first SOG besides cuddling and pillow talk.

 

[2bfair]

This is GFE, girlfriend experience. You can "escape reality" for an hour and you're going to love every second of it.
"so many other wonderful things we can do: cuddle in the afterglow, talk, I can give you a massage, we can make out, I can kiss you all over"

<3[/QUOTE]
Well put. I love the fantasy. I usually book and hour but sometimes two if I have new activities dreamed up. Ask her to lap dance for you and tease you some more.
I used to by outfits for my gals so sometimes I bring an outfit for a fave to model for me. Some love to play dress up. And some could enjoy daty all day long.
Or ask her to lay on her stomach and begin to kiss the back of her neck and behind her ears at the base of her hairline for a bit. I is a wonderful place.
Just play on!
I also like to have a washroom as one gal didn't. Bottled water .

 

[ddcanz]

I'm typically looking for SPs to provide certain sexual services.
I see SPs for the variety of different body types, attractiveness, role play and because it's a NSA transaction. I usually don't see the same woman more than a few times (exception to Melissa Lane to name one, though) so as to avoid developing any troublesome feelings.
I'm not usually making dates with SPs (outside of one or two lunches with well known contributors to this Board- you know who you are) and ensuring my cologne is fresh with extra pocket packs on hand isn't a priority. I don't go and get a quick haircut before a hook up. My site shoes might be a bit worn and gritty. Most times my schedule only dictates a certain time slot and wearing my work duds is the only option. However, I do my best to bring proper hygiene to the table. A shower for me is mandatory on both sides at the in-call.
This isn't to say that my extra-curricular activities are impersonal or clinical- not in the least. Or that I treat SPs as just meat props- nothing could be further from the truth. Full respect and politeness is a trademark I stand by. The fantasy of the encounter rules the day.
Finding ways to fill the time slot usually isn't an issue. If there is zero chemistry or lack of commitment then so be it- the session becomes abbreviated. There are no guarantees. Ciao, baby. Wish you all the best.
One-shot guys that are concerned with filling up a 60 minute session should maybe consider a 30 minute job instead? Or bring along a deck of cards?
Any guy that conducts himself in a mature and respectful fashion shouldn't EVER have an issue with filling any extra time with a well reviewed lady. There are plenty of Indies that are quite delightful beyond the actual sex if you don't act like an entitled prick.

 

[Deguire]

wearing cologne

I don't know if you are open to a bit of friendly advice but may I suggest dropping the cologne? Some ladies on their websites specify 'please don't'. It would be a shame to spoil any visit with something so simple.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Banana Bread!

 

[blakealridge]

Banana Bread!

OH MY GOD
this is it. this is the missing ingredient in my experience
*goes to buy banana bread*

 

[sybian]

OH MY GOD
this is it. this is the missing ingredient in my experience
*goes to buy banana bread*

....and real butter.... and a squeeze bottle of honey.

( the honey is for what we call around these parts....a Redneck Nuru Massage, instead of body sliding, your stuck to each other)

 

[UhOh]

A nice massage while listening to some sweet tunes. If we get to sex great, if not then shoot the breeze about what has happened in life to end up at this same place at the same time.

 

[lukom]

I don't know if you are open to a bit of friendly advice but may I suggest dropping the cologne? Some ladies on their websites specify 'please don't'. It would be a shame to spoil any visit with something so simple.

I always ask if wearing Cologne is okay when booking. I don't buy cheap stuff and I'm always picking something good, I get complimented often for my Cologne choices.